He thinks i did something so he broke up with me! HELP PLEASE! Options

[graphix_searcher]

Today my bf thought that I had did something and he IMed me asking why i would do that. He went through a list of cuss words to call me. And he did of course. Seeing as hes a guy. But, I don't know what I did wrong, and when I ask him, he just tells me to shut up, go away, leave me alone, and that I dont care if we break up. But I really DO care. And yes, i love him, but I'm not sure if he is lying, or just wants to break up. How can I find out if asking doesnt work!?!

[*This Confession*]

Give him some time
and when you think he is calm again tell him the complete truth don't "sugar-coat" anything. Just tell him that your confused and don't know what you did wrong and you really want to know because you care about him and the relationship.

[graphix_searcher]

I already tried telling him that....he just wont listen. he keeps calling me a bitch. and an a-hole...just for doing absolutely nothing. its his fault f0or believing rumors...so basically, should i just wait?

[Cupidangel81092]

dude. he's having some moodswing. He have problems. I'll just chat with him for u . he might be lying cuz guys like to lies u know. LOL! but i have my own problems right now. SOOOO SAD x( okay.

[graphix_searcher]

Awww..poor christina...so sad...but i really need help...should i just wait? or should i keep on asking him? this is my first bf so im not sure.

[kewl loser kid]

well . i think you should try talkin to him one more time. if you call him, make sure he doesnt hang up. if you IM him. say everything b4 you hit enter. and if he doesnt respond or calls you a bitch again .. then wait , let him cool off, and try again later, like tomorrow .. or wait another day ..

[graphix_searcher]

thanks everyone! i seriously needed this help! thanks soooo much!

[Cupidangel81092]

but that guy is a dude that change his mind every day. Lindsay......... u should talk to him face to face.

[kewl loser kid]

but that guy is a dude that change his mind every day. Lindsay......... u should talk to him face to face.

if he changes his mind so often .. you should talk to him face to face

[Cupidangel81092]

u should. if he still having some problems like giving u an attitude and crap, just like say " What's ur problem? What have i done to u? Tell me directly. dun say EVERYTHING because that's just a stupid excuse"

[kewl loser kid]

u should. if he still having some problems like giving u an attitude and crap, just like say " What's ur problem? What have i done to u? Tell me directly. dun say EVERYTHING because that's just a stupid excuse"

i completely agree

[graphix_searcher]

thanks christina....thanks other person whose name i dont know...thanks This Confession! i appreciate the help...i put this in my AIM profile
What's ur problem? What have i done to u? Tell me directly. dun say EVERYTHING because that's just a stupid excuse...
AIM ME @: CannonballxAngel i feel so much better and i know what to do!

if u wnna find me or talk to me, go look for me in the relationships forum...im good atr helping ppl...just not myself...stupid me...its cuz im blonde...hehes..u know....

[kewl loser kid]

no problem ..
altought i feel like i was no help really ..
but still np

ps. the names kari lol

[Cupidangel81092]

LOL nah lindsay. it's alright. LOL! u should give the guy's SN to everyone. HAHAHA JP! but im gonna go help out other ppl too. LOL! and my name is Christina! LOL! nice to meet u all. and u can call me LuLu for short. byez

[PrincessAda]

Give him some time
and when you think he is calm again tell him the complete truth don't "sugar-coat" anything. Just tell him that your confused and don't know what you did wrong and you really want to know because you care about him and the relationship.

I agree..give him sometime...when he`s done being mad..things would probably be back to normal

[dahding]

okay, first of all, what is he accusing u of? cheating?

he didn't give u a chance to say ur side of the story, or even bother to explain himself. he didn't bother to care enough to trust you first, and ask if what he heard was true.

to me, he's not worth ur time. without trust in a relationship, there is nothing to hold onto. personally, i think he's being way too irrational about this. but then again, he might just be really frustrated and hurt about the possibility of a rumor.

leave him alone for a bit, and try talking to him again. if he won't, oh well.

[*My Cinderella.*]

Agreed with dahding. He's obviously believing some kind of rumor that you don't know about. Maybe he needs a little time to think about it, give it a few days. After that, try sitting him down and talking. Communication is key.

[adaytoforget]

Sounds like a trust issue and a maturity issue . How old are you guys ?

Anyhow , I wouldn't bother with someone who talked down to me . He also seems to have a respect problem .

Set some limits , speak your peace , spend time away and let him think about it but let him come to you . Keep yourself busy and live your life . There isn't much else you can really do .

[redpeony]

I would dump him. Haha, a*shole.

Leave him alone. It's basically his responsibility to explain and apologize to you for overreacting. After he calms down, he will if he cares. Just tell yourself it isn't fair for you and he's not respecting you. Don't try to talk to him.

[*jooleeah*]

okay, first of all, what is he accusing u of? cheating?

he didn't give u a chance to say ur side of the story, or even bother to explain himself. he didn't bother to care enough to trust you first, and ask if what he heard was true.

to me, he's not worth ur time. without trust in a relationship, there is nothing to hold onto. personally, i think he's being way too irrational about this. but then again, he might just be really frustrated and hurt about the possibility of a rumor.

leave him alone for a bit, and try talking to him again. if he won't, oh well.

GO DUSTIN.

[lanbexx]

turn into a lesbian, blame him for your emotional problems that turned u that way then sue his ass :D

[neezy1126]

umm okayiie mommaz real talk th0ugh...if he br0ke uP with yOu...n didnt even give yOu a reason && all he gave u was a "f**k you...shut up bitch etc"...kinda bullshit...den dat was his way of a way out! n if he said dat u dont care if u guys br0ke up...den dat means he is tryna make himself look like da victim when reallyiie u are...and he's playin da playas game. Now if he loves you and if u reallyiie did something wr0ng...den he woulda told u wat u did...n he woulda heard your side of the story...but he didnt. he jus made u look st00pid...while he's prolly wit some otha beezie or jus posted at da crib havun a good o' time...thinkin finally i got her off my shiit.

so realllyiie all u can do is move on...yea it suxs cuh u actuallii loved dis kid. but if he aint given u no kinda act right...den u need to let him g0.

like the sayun g0es "let em' go...if they return dey were always urs...if n0t den they werent"


"dont chase em replace em"

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[*Uronacid*]

Yeah, serioulsy... give him time... if he's still getting really P.O.'ed and won't talk about it get really serious.

What i might end up doing - I would cut him short of whatever he's saying (unless he is telling you what you did) and yell, "SHUT THE f**k UP!!!! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I DID, AND I WANT TO FIX IT... BUT I CAN'T IF YOU WON'T TELL ME WHAT I DID!!! *Slam the phone on the ringer*" You may or may not want to do this.... :P


What ever he thinks you did must be so apparent in his mind that he can't understand how you don't know what it is... I can completely relate to him... sometimes i have to tell holly exactly everything or she won't understand me... even tho I think things are so apparent... I feel like I'm treating her like an idiot, but really i'm doing our relationsip a favor...

Same thing goes for her tho... sometimes I'm so dense she has to do the same thing for me :P... the truth is that no-one can read minds. Everyone is different, and the only way to fix things is honest communication.