Unwanted sex appears common in some teen relationships Options

[*mipadi*]

See, no offense, but this is part of the problem: You post something that's unclear. A person aks for clarification. You give another vague answer. Then a person has to make an assumption about what you meant. And then you bite his head off because he made the wrong assumption.

I don't mean to be pissy, but on the Internet, one doesn't have the benefit of vocal tone or body language, so it helps to be clear; and if someone asks for clarification, they might not be trying to be an a-hole—they might honestly not be clear about your statement, and wants to be sure of what you meant.

[*This Confession*]

well by most of the things ive read of yours. It means exactly what it says. And I think in the other posts they were explained enough. I'm not going to argue with you.

[*mipadi*]

You act as though I'm some kind of ass who's out to get people. Just because I post my thoughts and opinions, doesn't mean I have anything personal against people with whom I disagree (or who disagree with me).

[*Zatanna*]

at both of you.

You guys are so saying the same thing (well, sort of at least).

And once again I marvel at the inability to have context when cooresponding via the internet.

[*This Confession*]

^ gee thanks

[*My Cinderella.*]

I think that's true. There's been a lot of peer pressure at my school lately. I heard some guy in my grade got a 6th grader pregnant.

[*Weird addiction*]

I'm with Michael on this one. I got a little pissed reading This Confession's posts.

[Gypsy Eyes]

I agree^

A lot of people never fully get over it. A girl at my dance studio was raped, and even though she has been in treatment for years, she still freaks out small dark places. She won't even let her boyfriend kiss her. It really does screw you up for life, even if you move on there is always that thing in the back of your mind. This Confession, I think you need to have a little more sensitivity to this. It's not just about saying to to sex or losing your virginity. It deals with losing your sense of self and safety.

[*Programmer*]

^ i thinks she's trying to say Girls have a hard time getting over the feeling of violation and sense of security......
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on another note....sorry for generalizing...what i said... your right.... not everyone does it but you'd be suprised by how many do...

[Skyline Drive]

I'd like to think those guys are just acting out because they were violated as children or

something of that sort but it's probably not the case in most of those relationships. What the

hell triggers anyone to violate their spouse/mate/girlfriend like that.


Those assholes need to go get their man power elsewhere

[*disco infiltrator*]

I agree^

A lot of people never fully get over it. A girl at my dance studio was raped, and even though she has been in treatment for years, she still freaks out small dark places. She won't even let her boyfriend kiss her. It really does screw you up for life, even if you move on there is always that thing in the back of your mind. This Confession, I think you need to have a little more sensitivity to this. It's not just about saying to to sex or losing your virginity. It deals with losing your sense of self and safety.

This is completely true. When I was a child, I had some encounters with sexual molestation (I won't go into detail...) and I still have trouble in intimate settings. Like, I can "do stuff" to a guy, but when anyone tries to do anything sexual to me, I get really, really uncomfortable.

[Kounouri]

All these people that are saying people shouldn't whine so much, and that victims should get over it and hold nothing against the world- all I have to say is, no, no, no.
Obviously you are some of the lucky ones who have never experienced psychological challenges. I have been living with a mood disorder for as long as I can remember, that has been diagnosed only for 5 years. It's not that easy just to deal with these things.
Even a completely healthy, strong person can have psychological backlash from a traumatic event.
Have you ever been raped?
Have you ever dealt with real depression?
Probably not. It's not so easy for everyone. Like you said- other people have it a lot worse. Some people have worse consequences, with the strength of heart to deal with it. And others have a decent life, and difficulties inside themselves.

And EACH is EQUALLY hard.

Being the victim of a rape isn't something you just "get over"- not for everyone, that is. If people don't listen to their cries for help, things will only get worse.

[*This Confession*]

^Have you ever been raped?

I mean you said you have a mood disorder, but you never said you have been sexually abused or raped.

All these people that are saying people shouldn't whine so much, and that victims should get over it and hold nothing against the world- all I have to say is, no, no, no.

I'm not telling them to go lock them selves in a closet and stay away from the world they have to get over it their own way.

I'm with Michael on this one. I got a little pissed reading This Confession's posts.

why exactly?

A lot of people never fully get over it

I never said people get fully over it, you always have it with you but you don't go around everyday thinking about it. That just makes it worse. And then you'll get extrememly paranoid. Not a good thing.

[AngelinaTaylor]

I never said people get fully over it, you always have it with you but you don't go around everyday thinking about it. That just makes it worse. And then you'll get extrememly paranoid. Not a good thing.

You can't NOT think about it, kind of, you know? And you can't help NOT get paranoid. It's kind of what the whole experience brings you.

Taylor``

[*This Confession*]

^for some.

Like I listed before, people are different. People get over things in different ways then others. No one is exactly the same. I mean you can have the people that have been attention seekers and need attention when something bad happens and need all the support they possibly need to build up their self-confidence.
And then you have others that stay to themselves. And get over it all on their own. No matter how hard the truama.

[AngelinaTaylor]

^for some.

Like I listed before, people are different. People get over things in different ways then others. No one is exactly the same. I mean you can have the people that have been attention seekers and need attention when something bad happens and need all the support they possibly need to build up their self-confidence.
And then you have others that stay to themselves. And get over it all on their own. No matter how hard the truama.

Have you ever had a scarring sexual experience?

Taylor``

[*This Confession*]

what do you think?

[AngelinaTaylor]

if you didn't read this
then your too slow.
I'm not keeping this posted.

Hmm. I read it. And -

I think you're lying.

Taylor``

[*This Confession*]

and why do you think that?

why do you keep quoting me
why won't you just make your post shorter and just put a arrow up
and say what you want.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Because you don't seem to really know what it's like.

Taylor``

[*This Confession*]

well do you know what its like?

If you don't then you have no right to tell me anything about not knowing what its life.

[AngelinaTaylor]

well do you know what its like?

That's too personal. I don't have to answer that. And you didn't have to answer mine :)

Taylor``

[*This Confession*]

which is exactly why i erased it.

and if your not going to answer the question
then don't ask the question at all.

[AngelinaTaylor]

which is exactly why i erased it.

Good :)

And just because I ask it, doesn't mean I have to answer it. You don't have to answer it, you know.

Taylor``

[Looow]

I believe this. I kno I have been in this situation kind of recently with my boyfriend. I know how to say no though .