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 Jun 9 2006, 02:33 AM
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you know how it goes.
best friend goes off to college, and leaves his girl. they try to maintain long distance relationship. of course, it falls apart. one night, bad things happen between his supposed "best friend" (me) and his ex-girlfriend. well, neither the friend (me) nor the girl feel good about what they have done and they promise nothing will ever happen again. of course, that promise falls apart. now this is the part that gets me. gets me BBBAAADD. FOUR MONTHS later. the "friend" (me) and the ex-gf are really just friends, on the surface. they talk like friends, act like friends, and joke like friends (well, not completely), but they both know... you know? they both know. and one night, FOUR MONTHS later, it happens again. they both knew they were headed towards it, but never strayed off that course. and even though they knew what everyone would think of them... they kept on. now, the friend did not want this to happen in the beginning. he noticed how she was acting and told another friend. they saw the same thing and said that he should do whatever he wants. still, he (me) restrained himself, and told himself he could not do that to his best friend. but he f*ck@d up and did it anyway. why? why does anyone do anything. because he wanted to. He (I) felt guilty, but she convinced him that he shouldn't be. because things were over between her and his "best friend" off in college. she told him (me) that he (I) had to give it a chance, because they would never know how things might turn out and that they might just be perfect for one another. and so, she tells him things she's never told anyone else (literally) ...(well, so she says). and he tells her things he's never told anyone else either (but nothing about his "best friend", he never rats on a "friend"). BUT THIS WAS ABOUT ME BEING IN LOVE WITH MY "BEST FRIENDS" GF. SO THIS IS WHAT HAPPENNED. They (me and her) resolve to tell his (my) "best friend" about them. He (I) tries to contact him on several occasions over a 3-day span. no luck. text message. no luck. voicemail. no luck. one night, the text is sent back, and he knows already. he just knew. gut feeling. and he (I) apologizes for being such a horrible person, but will not break up with her. he (I) had already made that choice....love or friendship?.........love. The friend off in college calls her and they get to talking. She drops him (me) and says she needs to get away from everything. needs something new. a week later, she is back with the friend off in college. the friend moves back into town. he still accepts him (me) as a friend. she says she still wants to be his (my) friend, but has made no attempts at actually doing so. outside of the times when she sees him when he is kicking it with his "friend" who was off at college, who is now her bf again, she has never contacted him. what a friend. and so sad of a person i am, such a horrible person. I STILL LOVE HER. please, i need advice. |
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Jun 9 2006, 03:21 AM
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 Love is a flame that can't be tamed Group: Member Posts: 53 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 396,304 |
It really sounds like she was using you as a replacement for that boyfriend while he was away. But that's only me. Personally I think you should move on to another girl that can commit to you truly.
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Jun 9 2006, 04:58 AM
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QUOTE(Your pain is not love @ Jun 9 2006, 3:21 AM)  It really sounds like she was using you as a replacement for that boyfriend while he was away. But that's only me. Personally I think you should move on to another girl that can commit to you truly. I can understand your point. And I hate to sound like a softy, gullible idiot, but I really don't think she is that kind of person. Because there is really no chance that we will ever meet face to face, or that you will ever meet her, or that she will ever read this, I will let you know something. She has herpes. And his return into town was all for her, it wasn't planned before hand. He stopped going to school and is trying to get into school here now. |
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Jun 9 2006, 09:07 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
QUOTE(Your pain is not love @ Jun 9 2006, 3:21 PM) It really sounds like she was using you as a replacement for that boyfriend while he was away. But that's only me. Personally I think you should move on to another girl that can commit to you truly. I agree with ^, she really isn't worth it... What a bitch. She gave you the herpes (?!?!) |
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Jun 9 2006, 11:24 AM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 9 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 420,789 |
no, she did not give me herpes. she has it, but she keeps it under control. as good as modern medicine will allow her, anyway.
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| *jooleeah* |
Jun 9 2006, 12:01 PM
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Wow.
 I'm sorry about what happened. But still, I agree with the other two that made posts. If she's already moved on from you to her ex-boyfriend in college, than you need to too. Find a better person that you can commit with and not feel guilty about. It sounds like if you keep on with that girl, all that will come is trouble and drama.What does her having herpes have to do with anything though? =/ |
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| *krnxswat* |
Jun 9 2006, 12:10 PM
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He (I) thinks it's not love. He (I, of course) think you should stop whining about it, and He (I) advise you move on.
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| *Programmer* |
Jun 9 2006, 12:15 PM
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ahhhhhhhhhhhh....your in love with a freak... one who's got a different man everyday of the week.
 you need to move on. you sound whipped. |
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Jun 9 2006, 12:50 PM
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 All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
Hm. Seems like you were used by a feelingless woman. Get over her. That's all you can do.
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Jun 9 2006, 01:09 PM
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 L!ckitySplit Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329 |
lol i dnt even know why i replied, im not reading all that XD
yeah get over the bitch |
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Jun 9 2006, 01:11 PM
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 We are the cure. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,936 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,456 |
I'm too confused by your post to give you any advice or insight. o_O
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| *Zatanna* |
Jun 9 2006, 01:17 PM
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Gosh, I hate to say it, but I agree with what most have already mentioned - You were used. :(
Time to move on (I know, easier said than done), but it's your only direction now. Chin up, it'll get better in time. |
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Jun 9 2006, 01:20 PM
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All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
Since it has been practically decided that you should move on try listening to sad music and watching old movies. Always helped me.
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| *Programmer* |
Jun 9 2006, 01:48 PM
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^yes seeing other people's pain makes people feel better. Can't explain why but it does.
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Jun 9 2006, 02:07 PM
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 banana ham! Group: Member Posts: 661 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 227,050 |
im a youngin` so i might not be right. but i`ve been through a serious relationship and its one thing that is not easy to get over. but all i can say is that jus wait. its only a matter of time untill you see the truth about stuffs. so yeah.. i think im right, right?
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| *xcaitlinx* |
Jun 9 2006, 03:39 PM
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why couldn't you have just typed it in first person instead of putting (I) in parentheses throughout the whole post?
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Jun 9 2006, 05:51 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 9 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 420,789 |
QUOTE(xcaitlinx @ Jun 9 2006, 3:39 PM) why couldn't you have just typed it in first person instead of putting (I) in parentheses throughout the whole post? i don't know. but thanks for all the advice. I'll put it to use. |
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Jun 9 2006, 11:30 PM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
QUOTE(Your pain is not love @ Jun 9 2006, 1:21 AM) It really sounds like she was using you as a replacement for that boyfriend while he was away. But that's only me. Personally I think you should move on to another girl that can commit to you truly. I agree..it hurts to know but I think thats the truth. |
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Jun 10 2006, 03:00 AM
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god ... the way you type bothers me alot.
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| *Uronacid* |
Jun 10 2006, 03:28 AM
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what a whore... tell your best friend. not to screw her over, but tell him so he knows how much of a bitch she is... look man, i'm going to give you some advice that you should follow through with for the rest of your life...
rule: If you are going to fool around/get in a relationship with any girl that your friend has gotten with... ask your friend if its ok first. If he says no, then don't do it, but if he says yes, then go for the gold *DISCLAIMER* This is only for really good friends... not aquiantances... *DISCLAIMER* this rule is good cuz: -he knows, and if he says yes... you don't get screwed, becuase why would he want to jump into a relationship with her if he knows you have been running the bases with her while he was gone. -you don't feel guilty, becuase everything is out in the open. -its respectful |
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Jun 10 2006, 12:29 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 9 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 420,789 |
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Jun 10 2006, 3:28 AM) what a whore... tell your best friend. not to screw her over, but tell him so he knows how much of a bitch she is... look man, i'm going to give you some advice that you should follow through with for the rest of your life... rule: If you are going to fool around/get in a relationship with any girl that your friend has gotten with... ask your friend if its ok first. If he says no, then don't do it, but if he says yes, then go for the gold *DISCLAIMER* This is only for really good friends... not aquiantances... *DISCLAIMER* this rule is good cuz: -he knows, and if he says yes... you don't get screwed, becuase why would he want to jump into a relationship with her if he knows you have been running the bases with her while he was gone. -you don't feel guilty, becuase everything is out in the open. -its respectful i did that. he was hurt, understandably, but said yes. |
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Jun 10 2006, 12:43 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 9 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 420,789 |
Thank you all for the advice, I'm not asking for anymore of it. I've gotten all I need. You can stop the replies to me. But if you want to keep this topic going, go right ahead.
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| *jooleeah* |
Jun 10 2006, 01:40 PM
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^
Alright. I hope you feel better. =) topic closed by request. |
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