how screwed up is this, i have no friends |
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how screwed up is this, i have no friends |
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Seriously, I think I have no friends. No best friends, or "true friends" or something like that. At my school, all the girls have their little BFF that they tell everything to and they're always together and stuff. Like on TV or something. But I don't. I'm like the only girl in the grade that doesn't have a best friend (seriously). I mean, is that a good thing? Because I don't think it is. I have no one to talk to, and everyone else does. I can't trust anybody, because they'll go tell their little best friend and word'll get around and soon everyone will know everything I've said. No one at my school can keep a secret. And, on top of all this, all my good friends get all mad at me for the stupidest stuff. I know this sounds odd, but girls can suck. At least the girls I know. They're all like ahh freak out drama-ish. So I just talk to all my guy friends about this. Seriously, they understand better than the girls I know.
Is this weird? Am I weird? I have no ideaa!!! ahh I'm just so confused right now. |
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![]() dakishimetainoni... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 ![]() |
^^Don't worry, about your picture looking like that. It was stretching the page so I uploaded it and thumbed it.
How old are you? I went through the petty, unneccessary high school girl drama thing when I was a freshman until I was a junior...but then again I transferred schools senior year... I get along better with guys too. It's nothing to worry or be ashamed or whatever else you may feel about it. Hopefully, we all can grow up and be friends in the end. Or at least just be friends with others who are grown up already. |
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![]() hi. call me linda. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 ![]() |
Hmm, that's pretty much like me too; I have no really close or good friends. Just a few acquaintances and some people that I talk to regularly, but no one I could really trust or depend on.
Well, you're not weird. I guess when you get to know people long enough you'll start trusting them, etc. |
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Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,343 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,767 ![]() |
I've been there. Don't worry, things change. Remember this quote:
"People are always so boring when they band together. You have to be alone to develop all the idiosyncracies that make a person interesting." -Andy Warhol And just focus on being yourself. Stay nice, develop your own interests and opinions. Before you know it, people will be older and they will approach you without effort of your own, you will have lots of opportunity to build great, lasting friendships. Stay positive! |
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*This Confession* |
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i don't find it weird
I don't have any real girl friends.. that go on with the "OMG your my bff &hugs;" [im not saying all are like this they are here though] i rather choke. I don't trust many people either. |
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![]() another victim of love ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 91 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 409,214 ![]() |
Hehe :)
Maybe its better to have more guy-friends ya know. To tell you the truth i have 2 best friends ; one guy & one girl. Guys are much better to talk to..in some situations. Like they dont like starting drama. Like girls will be like " oh my gosh look at her ew " & then you see her go hug that same girl she just got done talking about. Ughh 2faces. But with guys if they dont like someone they'll tell them. He , dont worry i went threw that..all i had was my diary :( |
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 95 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 398,023 ![]() |
Guys just bomb .
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![]() Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 ![]() |
Oh, yeah. I go to a little tiny school and word gets around fast. I hate it there. I don't really have that many friends, but the ones I do are really good and trustworthy. Mostly. haha. But, do you talk to them, or at least try? I've been told that it doesn't matter about how you look, or things like that, but if you're social. I wouldn't know cause I've been going to a tiny ass school for pretty much my whole school career. The year is winding down, and don't worry about it now.
Your friends that you claim to be close to you, or your good friends, sound really imature. What they need is some one to tell them that. if they are acting like idiots tell them. They might think that you're really gay at first, but when they come around and realize it, it will be totally worth it. Trust me. I've told people about their problems and they changed. Slowly, but surely. Confrontation works. |
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*Uronacid* |
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guys are better thangirls in many cases. When i ws in highschool i saw that girls thought it was a competitve sport or something. they were always trying to be or look better than every other girl in the school. after highschool its gets alot easier. haveing alot of guy friends is a normal thing.
look, you can't just trust anyone. trust happens over time... don't just jump into a friendship and tell the person everything unless you know they are ready to hear it, and you know they won't be an idiot about it. |
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![]() the name is ada. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 ![]() |
Friends are friends.Doesn`t matter what nat.,sex,etc.
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![]() It eats you, starting with your bottom. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,999 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 160,674 ![]() |
Dear no, all my friends are guys. Seriously. Girls tend to be too dramatic for me. You aren't weird.
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![]() N!CK ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 148 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 144,660 ![]() |
wow, i can totally relate! i'm the same way but opposite! lol i can talk to girls better than i do to other guys.. maybe we should be friends!! lol ttyl
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![]() <(- -)><(- - <)(>- -)><(- - )> ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,609 ![]() |
dont worry i was there when i first move to where i am at right now. it took me a while to find my best friends in the world right now ... its okay you will find your friend that you can trust even if its a guy, guys are so much better than girls in keeping secrets and asking for advice I LOVE GUYS!!!!
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 ![]() |
Guys tease someone's secert but doesnt go around telling to people about it.
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![]() I'm Peter Pan Watch Me Fly! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 113 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 413,768 ![]() |
I could totally agree with that. i was abused by "friends" that sicked a pit bull on me, pushed me in to a koi pond and did some other things i rather not talk about. but I know trust is hard, but i have to end up giving people one shot. then i moved, and i didnt know anyone, now I have good friends
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RJL<3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,194 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,019 ![]() |
I know how you feel. I have friends but none of them are really a best friend that I could absolutely tell anything to.
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![]() My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 ![]() |
You do have friends, Marisa. Everyone has friends. Don't be so insecure. Give yourself more credit. Having girl friends is actually proven to relieve stress more than having guy friends. Avoid drama, be outgoing, and don't expect anyone to be perfect! If you're looking for the perfect, ideal, flawless friend, they most likely don't exist! So don't set your standards so high. Be the best friend that you can be. That's all you can do.
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![]() Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 ![]() |
No, you're not weird. Thats how ive been my entire life. I've never had a best friend, I've never had someone to confide in and nobody has ever had my back like I do. Im a solitary person, and although I am always lonely i stick to the fact that nobody watches your neck like you do. And i feel the same way about girls, which is why i don't tell sh*t to girls, or boys. I write about it, and it relieves everything.
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Newbie ![]() Group: Member Posts: 4 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 421,702 ![]() |
Yeaah I know how you're feeling. At least you've got your guy friends to see you through. Have you ever seen the movie Stick It? Eventually all those girls who were stupid and stuck up secret-spreaders will be all into your guys friends... and you can laugh at them. <3
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Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 200 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 215,126 ![]() |
I used to feel like that in the beginning of the school year. I had no close friends to talk to and almost all the girls talked too much. It wasn't until school almost ended when I finally found people I could actually call friends. They're the laid back ones who don't give in to the "he said/she said" crap.
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![]() Mrs. Delonge ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185 ![]() |
no, its not weird. i don't have a best friend at school, either. i don't tell anybody nothin' unless i dont' give a shit who knows. just keep hanging out with your guy friends. guys are better friends.
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![]() in a matter of time ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 ![]() |
That's not weird at all. I lived my whole elementary school life without any true, best friends (except for my last year, but that went down the drain quickly when I found out she was the hugest bitch ever. Long story).
High school came along and I met TONS of people. In a place where everyone is starting off fresh, people become more vulnerable and friends are made easily. Take your time, eventually you'll find people you connect with. Don't try to find best friends if they're all screwed up, like the ones you know. It's better to have no friends than to have a lot of bitchy drama queens as BFFs. Don't ever compromise yourself and your own identity for other people, especially those that you dislike. |
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![]() lx ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 300 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,440 ![]() |
no its perfectly fine.. i've never had any BBF.. as long as you friends that support to .. you may drift apart, but they were able to help you and were a lot of fun ^^
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![]() CB's Forum Troll ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 926 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,142 ![]() |
a true friend is someone who will buy a gun (it has to be a good gun) for you after you've had a bad round and can't afford anything when you respawn
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