should we break up?, we're going to different schools |
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should we break up?, we're going to different schools |
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![]() hi, i'm pathetic ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 71 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 382,232 ![]() |
me and my bf have been going out for 3 months. next year we are both going to highschool, the only problem is that we are going to different highschools. hes made it clear that we are going to do stuff together over the summer, but we haven't really talked about what is going to happen when school starts again. we live in the same town, but the school zones are different for some reason. we can't drive, and his house is too far to walk too, so i really only see him at school and ocasional weekends. so next school year i would rarely see him. =[ i love him a lot, and i would be really upset if we broke up, but i don't know if this relationship is going to work out. any suggestions??
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 ![]() |
You want to break up with him because of different school? whoah.
Think carefully. there are bus, cars, rides from friends, and parents. dont you even have any friends to help you ? Or you're rather shy to try things on your own? |
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*AngelicEyz00* |
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If I were you, I'd try and work it out. Try and hang out with eachother and talk on the phone whenever there's a chance. If eventually, it doesn't work out or you two grow apart, then it may be time then to break up.
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 95 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 398,023 ![]() |
Try, try , try to work it out. But you'll know when it's time to let go. Good luck<3
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![]() hi, i'm pathetic ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 71 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 382,232 ![]() |
thanks. one big problem with the transportation is that my parents don't like him very much because they are way overprotective and wont let me ride a bus over there and are reluctant to drive me. i hope they change their mind though.
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*AngelicEyz00* |
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Maybe he can come to you? Maybe he can geta friend or a parent to drive him to your place or maybe he can take the bus to see you. I'm sure you've already thought of all those things, but yeah. Just hang in there.
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![]() <3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 ![]() |
^ agreed.
don't just end your relationship with him because you guys are going to different highschools. |
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 840 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 73,927 ![]() |
Do NOT repeat what my ex did!
I really don't think that just because of the thought u 2 are going to different schools that u should break up. U've been going out for 3 months already~ Give it a go and see how it turns out, as somebody previously said... if u grow apart then u should break up. U never know, things might not be as bad as u think... My ex obviously didn't have the guts to give it a go.... I was in ur exact same situation several months ago, went out for 3 months...... except he was the one who had the idea in mind...... i didn't think of breaking up just coz we were at different schools.......... so yea..... |
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 545 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,103 ![]() |
Going to different schools isn't much of a problem for a lot of people I know. I think you should try to work things out. Wait awhile to see how things go, then decide how both of you feel about it.
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![]() I'm with Stupid. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 410 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,973 ![]() |
this relationship will work depending on how great the bond is between you two.
i mean, if you guys are really really close, then you should give it a fighting chance that it will work and remember, just hang on for two years with him/you not seeing each other a lot and after those two years are done and both of you turn 16, you guys can drive! |
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![]() the name is ada. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 ![]() |
Theres a lot of sucessful relationships that happen when couples have different schools.Try to work it out.Its not like he`s in another world..
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*My Cinderella.* |
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I don't think you guys should break up. If anything, this is like a test to see if your bond between him can last. Try your best to keep in touch. Hang out in the summer, talk on the phone, talk to him online and all that jazz. Don't let the thought of not being in the same school stop you. So what if your parents are overprotective. If you can't go and see him, you can always ask if he can come and visit you or if you guys can hang out in a group of friends.
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 950 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,808 ![]() |
Eff different schools, my boyfriend had to transfer at the end of the second semester and we're still going strong. And really, if your FEELINGS tell you that you want to stay together, listen to them. =)
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![]() You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 ![]() |
just because it seems like it wouldn't work, doesn't mean you should break it off. test it out, and if it doesn't work, it doesnt. but if you break up NOW you might just be ending something that could last.
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![]() Newbie ![]() Group: Member Posts: 4 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 415,079 ![]() |
What do you want? Isn't that what you should ask yourself? Your parents won't let you isn't a good reason. Do you care about him? Would you risk everything to be with him?
Tell your parents and him how you feel. Your opinion matters. ^_^ Go get 'em! |
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![]() Is that like... Bubbles? ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 12 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 366,089 ![]() |
I don't think a difference in school zones should break you two up! If you truly love him, you'll find a way. As before mentioned, there are buses, rides from friends/parents, and even if you're having trouble arranging things, you could try an IM for planning purposes.
If you're parents are being too overprotective, I suggest coming to them openly and talking it out. Tell them how you feel, and what you think about their attitude towards your relationship. If it doesn't plant a bomb underneath them, at least it will start chipping away at their walls. |
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![]() Krista. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,380 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 391,319 ![]() |
i wouldn't break up with him. you live in the same town! you can definitely stay in touch with him. now, if he lived on the other side of the state, that's different. but try to convince your parents that he's really a nice guy. invite him over or something.
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![]() Freelance Graphic Designer ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 98 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 415,447 ![]() |
you shouldnt really ask a message board a question like that XD
its truly up to you. <3 |
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 43 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 415,539 ![]() |
going to different schools SHOULD NOT be a reason for breaking up.. tho its hard , if you started out by going to the same school and then to seperate i dont think it is a big enough factor to break up. my girlfriend and i go to different schools and we make time for each other, practically everyday. one of us either bus to the other's school and then we do things together, sometimes even homework. its not abt the distance, its abt the effort
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![]() vixen. ![]() Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 414,547 ![]() |
Everything stated above is TRUE. I believe your situation is not something worthy to become the cause of your relationship's breaking up. If you really <3 him, you'd put lots of TRUST & FAITH in each other that no matter what happens, you'll still love each other. "LOVE HAS NO BOUNDARIES." Its also true that there are lots of ways to make the sort of long distance relationship work. Ü You can work things out.
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#21
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![]() Member ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 27 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,921 ![]() |
If you're contemplating it because of that, then the two of you should break up despite what school you go to...
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#22
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![]() Senior Member ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 235 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,772 ![]() |
its hard i know, but dont break up with him if you really love him so much or he really loves you so much or both of you really love each other, it would be really painful if you guys did, i have long distance relationship, i know how hard it is too, and both of us still could make it through
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#23
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![]() hi, i'm pathetic ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 71 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 382,232 ![]() |
thanks you guys are really encouraging. =) you made me realize that if we really care about each other then there is no reason that we can't keep caring about each other even if we don't see each other everyday. i'm going to try really hard to make this relationship last.
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