Dr. Sean Options

[xoxoxx]

I solve problems. Well actually I don't, but I can talk with you. I can be the one you can talk to. I can be your hero baby! Just kidding.

Anyways, simply reply here with problems with boyfriends, school, and life. I'll discuss it with you.

If you have more serious problems, than you can pm me for my AIM sn.

If you have more more serious problems, find a real counseler.

Thank you for your time.

Note: Please be serious. No stupid or pointless problems. All of those will be ignored.

[Retrogressive]

I have a problem managing my time. Any advice?

[xoxoxx]

I have a problem managing my time. Any advice?

Actually I do have advice. Depending on what the problem is, you can

-Get a planner or calendar to plan your things out.
If you're not a planner/writing person, you can
-Try to get rid of things you don't have to do.
-If something distracts you, move the distraction, or move yourself somewhere else.

I need to know more about your problem to help you about it.

[Retrogressive]

I always seem to plan over events or dates I've made with friends. Plus it's hard to do school work with all the distractions at my house. I think I'll try working on it outside! =D

[*This Confession*]

^wow thats actually pretty close to what i would tell ya

haha
well then get someone else to boss you around and make your day like you want it to be!


couldn't we just post our problems in relationships forum?

[xoxoxx]

I always seem to plan over events or dates I've made with friends. Plus it's hard to do school work with all the distractions at my house. I think I'll try working on it outside! =D

Well, you can always ask the distractions to stop, or you can go to the library.

For me, my house is quiet when requested. You can always close your door or listen to (soft) music while doing things.

About the events or dates, it's easier if you have a planner or calendar.

But if you really can't do planners or calendars, you can have your friends remind you each day, or maybe you can try memorizing it yourself.

And as my good friend Jerome says, you can go to the library, maybe even your school. If you can drive, you should take advantage of these places.

to This Confession:

Well I guess, but in this thread you can post all types of problems, not only about relationships.

Besides, this might reduce spam, if people don't bullpoop their problems.

Of course, having a lot of people solve the problem for you is good, but I'm here to talk about the problems in greater detail.

I find it easier to express your thoughts and feelings bit by bit, so you don't leave out anything. Then you absorb bit by bit. Well that's just me.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

Then it wouldn't be Dr. Sean

I like Dr. Sean...

[Tribal J_Rome]

^wow thats actually pretty close to what i would tell ya

haha
well then get someone else to boss you around and make your day like you want it to be!
couldn't we just post our problems in relationships forum?

Not all problems involve relationship stuff

I always seem to plan over events or dates I've made with friends. Plus it's hard to do school work with all the distractions at my house. I think I'll try working on it outside! =D

Have you tried doing work at the library? It's usually nice and quiet, real chill.

[Retrogressive]

Our library has a bunch of kids running around, it's reallly small. There is this great place that sales coffee in our town that is really quiet. I go to the library a lot actually, but it's always really busy.

[Tribal J_Rome]

Hmmm....any Starbucks's? Or Borders book stores?

[John Fu]

I need help on how to..take more self-control. I eat too much.

[*Programmer*]

OK, here's one.

This girl won't get a clue. I only like her as a friend. How do i make a sound point about it without hurting her feelings? I've known her since middle school. Not trying to lose a good friend.

[dreamerOi]

I need help getting myself to start on my homework or finish it. If i'm at a library its too quiet and gets distracting. If i'm at a coffee shop or something the aroma distracts me. Smells too good. If i'm at home I end up watching tv or using the computer like right now o.o or I push it aside. So....... any advice?

Even though I turn off the tv or computer I just end up turning it back on. Like right now my keyboard is on my homework.

[Comik-knerd]

I guess your plainning to be a counseler when you get older??

[xoxoxx]

I need help on how to..take more self-control. I eat too much.

You can always have someone help you. They can keep the food for you, or stop buying too much food.

If you live by yourself, then it's really up to you to keep yourself controlled.

Maybe you can set an amount of money that you are limited to use buying food each week.

It's all about setting your mind to it.

OK, here's one.

This girl won't get a clue. I only like her as a friend. How do i make a sound point about it without hurting her feelings? I've known her since middle school. Not trying to lose a good friend.

There are many things you can tell her.

I suggest telling her that you have known her for too long, and you only like her as a great friend.

You can also tell her that dating would ruin your relationship, and that you don't want that to happen. Tell her that you really like her as a friend, and you wouldn't want anything to ruin your relationship with her.

When you tell her though, tell it to her straightly. Look her in the eye and don't try to avoid hurting her feelings. It's bound to happen, but you can make the pain a little less. Be sure to be serious, so she understands you mean business.

I need help getting myself to start on my homework or finish it. If i'm at a library its too quiet and gets distracting. If i'm at a coffee shop or something the aroma distracts me. Smells too good. If i'm at home I end up watching tv or using the computer like right now o.o or I push it aside. So....... any advice?

Even though I turn off the tv or computer I just end up turning it back on. Like right now my keyboard is on my homework.

This problem is annoying and common with many students. To really solve it, you need people like your parents to help.

You can ask them to monitor and stop you from watching too much tv or using the computer. If you're the only one using the computer, you can take out the power plug and ask your parents to hide or keep it. Then ask them to give it back when you show them your homework.

For the TV, if no one watches it a lot, you can do the same thing. Ask your parents to hide the remote or the plug.

If all else fails, ask your parents to cancel the internet or cancel your tv subscription.

If you don't want help from your parents, you'll have to use a lot of self control. I suggest practicing self control, as when you grow older, that's the only thing you'll have.

@Comik_knerd:
I don't know if I'm going to be a counseler when I grow up. I just want to help people. It's interesting learning and learning from their problems.

[Nugget]

wow. you're arrested for diagnosing people without a license.

topic closed

[dorkk-ie]

noooo don't close it just yet.

DR.SEAN , i need some advice.. - quick!

heres the proble.. my bf and i got into an arguement over the stupidiest misunderstanding...and we're kinda on that silent treatment kind of thing right now..

Tomorrow is his birthday

should i just forget about the way he acted and proceed with his birthday surprise , or stand strong until he apologizes? or says sumthing?

i'm still angry right now...but i still wanna work things out...
i feel that i shouldn't just forget it JUST because it's his bday, but on the other hand.. would that make me a total b*tch for dragging the arguement...

i hope you're still here Dr.Sean..

[xoxoxx]

noooo don't close it just yet.

DR.SEAN , i need some advice.. - quick!

heres the proble.. my bf and i got into an arguement over the stupidiest misunderstanding...and we're kinda on that silent treatment kind of thing right now..

Tomorrow is his birthday

should i just forget about the way he acted and proceed with his birthday surprise , or stand strong until he apologizes? or says sumthing?

i'm still angry right now...but i still wanna work things out...
i feel that i shouldn't just forget it JUST because it's his bday, but on the other hand.. would that make me a total b*tch for dragging the arguement...

i hope you're still here Dr.Sean..

Well, in my opinion, I think you should carry on with the birthday surprise. But if you and him have already been in many arguments, and you always apologize, you should wait for him to apologize.

I think it's best if you apologize together. Try to apologize today, if you can. Then tomorrow everything will be OK.

Guys don't like girls who are stubborn. We give up quite easily if we see it's impossible or too hard to carry on with the girl. However, you should not be the only one apologizing. Guys will just think you're a person to put down.

So yes, my advice is to apologize today via phone or in person. If he gets angry or yells at you, don't yell back. But if you apologize and he doesn't accept it, than don't give him the surprise. In fact, if he doesn't accept the apology for at least 3 days, leave him. Make him cry.

Good luck

- Dr. Sean

[lanbexx]

wow... brutal advice dr sean. ur supposed to be on the guy's side!

alright here's one. i have a friend (female) that is attractive. but she acts like a slut. i know her friends well, so i cant avoid her. she assumes since most guys go for her, i will too, so she keeps trying to act all sexy next to me just to tease me. and think we're friends. how do i tell her that im disgusted by her actions and dont consider her a good friend without sounding insensitive/gay?

[*Uronacid*]

some kid punched me in the face yesterday right hand, i swung at him with my right fist but he blocked it with his left... im thinking i should have punched him with my left hand... :? hmmmmm

im just kidding, but give me advice anyways... i want to see what you'll say

[Kontroll]

I punched him. HAHAH. He sucks at fighting, maybe you could give him a few pointers.

[*Uronacid*]

I punched him. HAHAH. He sucks at fighting, maybe you could give him a few pointers.

HEY YOU f**ker I HATE YOU!!! :)

[Kontroll]

What, bitch?! You want some more?!

[*Uronacid*]

grrrrr... help me dr. sean!!!!!

[SpedMonkee]

There is this girl that me and my friends hang out with that I like. I cant get myself to ask her out or tell her how i feel.. I also keep having these feelings of jealousy/hatred towards her and one of my other friends because I think she likes him.

Any advice on (a) how i should tell her that i like her. (b) find out who she really likes and/or © if she doesnt like me how should i stop thinking of her the way I do now.

Thanks Dr. Sean!