i like someone..., in another state Options

[RaphieRyouga]

yes k here's the story!
i met this girl like...around 2 years ago first thru xanga.
we already kno that we both like each and we've told each other sum personal stuff.
but is it ok to like someone that ull probably never meet?

[waccoon]

Definetely. Long distance relationships can work if you are both totally serious about it, and trust each other. Trust is a lot more important with long distance relationships. Your relationship will exist through phone calls and the internet, so you're going to have to put extra effort into it.

Why wouldn't you meet someday? That's a big milestone for any long distance relationship, IMO.

[RaphieRyouga]

i also made a promise that i will meet her one day no matter what it takes

[waccoon]

i also made a promise that i will meet her one day no matter what it takes

What's your stance on long distance relationships? Are you okay with not being able to physically be with the person, ever? You have to be able to commit - you won't be able to see her, no matter how much you want it.
Make sure BOTH of you are totally serious and committed.

[RaphieRyouga]

we r serious
this girl i like no other girl ive ever met
and im all go w/ the long distance but it just bothers me that im not able to be w/ or try to help her if she has any problems

[waccoon]

That's a big issue with long distance relationships, if you find that you can't comfort her with words alone, then maybe you should reconsider, and just stay friends. It might work out better, so you don't get sick of the distance later on - and get hurt.

[RaphieRyouga]

yea maybe ur rite...but ill still have to keep my promise even if its the last thing i do

[*This Confession*]

OF COURSE.

I find it actually better to be in a long distance relationship.
or to even like them.
You get through a lot of the emotional stuff
without going downhill with the physical stuff.

So don't worry about it
I think its normal to like people you've never met.

[waccoon]

OF COURSE.

I find it actually better to be in a long distance relationship.
or to even like them.
You get through a lot of the emotional stuff
without going downhill with the physical stuff.

So don't worry about it
I think its normal to like people you've never met.

Physical contact can bring you a lot closer to the person. It's hard to show affection when there's a big distance.

[_sarcastic_]

^i agree
but if you're willing to have a long distance relationship then go for it.
it takes alot alot alot of trust and communication

[*This Confession*]

yea but then again
its better to be emotionally together
than only physical

Things can really go bad if you get physical to fast
and your both not emotionally with each other.


blah i should have worded that differently

[waccoon]

yea but then again
its better to be emotionally together
than only physical

Things can really go bad if you get physical to fast
and your both not emotionally with each other.
blah i should have worded that differently

It's relative, it depends on the couple.

[ms.bliss]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with liking someone who you have not physically met. It's a normal thing 'cause I've been through it.

But like some other people have stated, long distance relationships are hard because sometimes there tends to be a lack of trust and there's no point in being a relationship when you find it hard to trust the other person.
...blah...

[*This Confession*]

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=133505

long distance stuff
some good some bad.

[lojay]

but if you're willing to have a long distance relationship then go for it.
it takes alot alot alot of trust and communication

I strongly agree with that. I'm currently in a long distance relationship (going on the 11th month) and it gets rough sometimes. You have to be really trusting. It's easy to get jealous too, so I've found out, because you don't always know exactly what's going on in their lives if they don't tell you everything that's going on. But usually it's easy to work things out and forgive eachother and fall for eachother all over again. Sometimes you can really connect with a person without dealing with the physical part of a relationship (which I also agree ruins the relationship if rushed).

But just to point out that long distance relationships do work out -- My brother is dating a girl he met online (so I believe, I don't really talk to him about her, but I've read her livejournal, she's even mentioned things about marriage) and they are going on their 5th year dating. He is in college in Florida and she's in Indiana at college. So... sometimes they really work out if you are totally into eachother.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

What's your stance on long distance relationships? Are you okay with not being able to physically be with the person, ever? You have to be able to commit - you won't be able to see her, no matter how much you want it.
Make sure BOTH of you are totally serious and committed.

agreed !

[*This Confession*]

yea i'm in a long distance relationship as well.

never assume.
communication is the biggest thing
because you can't see each other
so you both need to talk to each other.


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Internet Relationships



So you've met your match? She makes you laugh, blush, and smile? But yet, she lives across the world. The possibilities are endless with the Internet. You can buy groceries, plan a wedding and watch a movie right at your desktop. A growing trend is to now, find love, right at your desktop.



Relationships are great on the Internet. You have someone to talk to, laugh with, and care about when the world gets too hard. Most web-only relationships end in a short period of time due to the lack of involvement. One of the pair will begin to drift away and soon it ends as quickly as it had begun. The hardest part is when the feeling of love takes over.



Unlike real life relationships, Internet relationships rarely mature. When a relationship is in it's first stages, both parties see each other for their best qualities, but as time moves on, their true colors come out. The bad habits, terrible manners, lack of intelligence and other negative qualities start to show. If a negative quality is present, the pair can either accept it or end the relationship.



When a relationship matures beyond the "puppy love" stage, the pair has acknowledged, and accepted both positive and negative character traits. When a relationship is strictly online, the negative characteristics rarely get shown. Both parties have the ability to be what they want and who they want without showing any negative characteristics. "Puppy love" is usually always the case in strictly web based relationships.



When a relationships moves off of the screen and into real life, some risks become present. Though many face to face meets end in friendships and happiness, some end in kidnappings, rapes, or murders. Face to face meetings should be avoided at all costs but some still plan to do it.



If there is to be a time when face to face contact should occur, it should always be in a public place and always be with a friend if something were to go wrong. Malls are great places for public meetings. Security guards are only a few feet away and shoppers are all around if your meeting were to turn ugly.



If you ever feel uncomfortable whether it's by phone, Internet, or face to face, never ever be afraid to discontinue the relationship. Your safety is the number one most important thing and your internal instincts should always be taken seriously.



If a person that you met through the Internet begins to bother you by calling you all the time, sending you weird messages that make you feel afraid, or you fear that they know where you live and are stalking you, don't be afraid to tell someone to get help.



The bottom line about Internet relationships is to have fun with them. Don't get too caught up that you miss what's going on outside of your computer. Relationships can be just as fulfilling online as well as offline. Just remember to have fun and if it makes you uncomfortable in any way, end the relationship before it's too late.



--Sarah Loucks

[PrincessAda]

Yeah.If you trust and really like them.A lot of people do.

[ms. independent]

I've been in a long-distance relationship for... four months now? still going strong.

in fact, that's how I started one of my past relationships. we started talking, we found out we both lived in the same town, and then the real kicker: I knew his sister! funny how it all worked out in the end... only downside was that it didn't last long after that.

oh well. was fun while it lasted.

[-sincerely]

My friend liked her guy, and she met him online, first. She knows him and sees him now, though.

But I know somebody who's getting married, they have a long distance relationship.

[*Ox_Su`Zie*]

I think its ok but if your going to get "serious" about you too likeing each other you have to meet eventually... lol.

I think its ok but if your going to get "serious" about you too likeing each other you have to meet eventually... lol.