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 May 15 2006, 09:01 PM
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Ok, When do you know when your going out with some one that your past the lust..
And how do you know if your relationship is not just based on lust?  Me my self and I.. when you can tell the person you love them and you know its true in your heart. 
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May 15 2006, 11:17 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
It's when you'd rather sit and talk than make out with the person or perform sexual acts with them. Like, you two can have a great time together just being together without all the groping. Or, you can go some days without the groping, kisses and hugs are fine but the sexual stuff isn't like something you must do whenever you see each other. Did I just rephrase that like 5 times?
When you love this person, I think you'll know. No one can tell you if you're in love yet or not unless it's really obvious, like you just met the person a month ago or you haven't been dating for so long. Everyone has a different definition for love, what I think is love may not be what you think is love. Ultimately, when you feel true love, you'll know. |
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May 15 2006, 11:22 PM
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GD. <3 Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 1,222 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 198,566 |
^ couldn't have said it better myself.
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May 16 2006, 12:42 AM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
I once heard somewhere that love is when you can just sit and not touch/ or have the urge to touch them. It's when you can just sit and talk and forego all the physical stuff and not feel that "something" is missing.
Lust is when all you want/need is the physical aspect of that person. |
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May 16 2006, 12:48 AM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
I totally agree with Chii.
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May 16 2006, 01:54 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,450 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,407 |
You're avatar is scary, def. not pg13.
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May 16 2006, 05:53 PM
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 What the fack. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 |
01. INFATUATI0N -- is liking everything about a person, and seeing them as perfect. you do not see their flaws, just overlook them and act like they are perfect.
02. L0VE -- in which you see their flaws, and just accept them. 03. LUST -- which is purley physical attraction. --- Something along those lines. See where the relationship mostly fits in. 
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May 16 2006, 06:16 PM
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well lust is based on physical..
and love can have part of that.. but its mostly off emotional.. ^Sarah is right on the infatuation.. everyone has their flaws and when you overlook them and don't see any and go in a relationship thinking that way.. its not going to work at all.. hmm but here this may work Puppy love Characteristically defined by age, the term "puppy love" came from how a person typically feels toward a puppy. It's quite common to have these feelings for a teacher, a friend's parent, etc. These feelings don't usually last very long but should be enjoyed while they are felt. Unrequited love Unrequited love is a love that is given, but not received. This can be quite painful, but is a part of growing up. It is important to be respectful of the person who does not return these feelings of affection and be mindful of their wishes. Co-dependent love Being co-dependent, spending all your time with someone, feeling like you can't live without them and basing your self worth on what that person thinks of you, is not love. You need to be able to be your own person, independent of them. I think that's why most people don't really fall in love until they are older. You have to know who you are first. True love That perfect, magical balance between you and them. The feeling that you are whole as a person, by yourself and more with that special someone. Parent-child love I think that this form of love is the most perfect and the most pure. It does not compare to anything I've ever felt. I remember when I was younger and dreaming about the day I would have kids. I was always worried about what if I had more than one. Wouldn't you always have a special place in your heart for your first? Could you love the second and third the same as the first? I was afraid that the love I felt would be cut in half or in thirds. But something wonderful happened. It doubled. And tripled. I am overwhelmed with all the emotion. Lust Feelings driven primarily by sexual longing. Friendship love You know what I'm talking about. The friends you can tell anything to. The ones you cover for when they're in trouble. |
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May 16 2006, 07:08 PM
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 sarcasm hides what you really feel Group: Member Posts: 550 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,105 |
for me, once i can say i love you in my head without catching myself. then i know its more than lust. when i can look him in the eye for more than 20 seconds and not feel uncomfortable then i know. its not just about re-reading his text messages, or getting one simple thought and feeling your stomach drop. once your in love you just know. you dont second guess anything...
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May 16 2006, 08:23 PM
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nicorie Group: Member Posts: 196 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 394,679 |
QUOTE Love or infatuation? Infatuation is: a mainly physical attraction Love is: physical attraction, yes, but more interested in your personality Infatuation: mainly focuses on physical qualities Love is: everything about you attracts - overlooks your weaknesses and focuses on your strengths - sees only the good Infatuation accelerates quickly - burns with passion Love: starts more slowly you're not sure how you feel but deep inside you know something has happened Infatuation: the passion begins to burn out and the interest begins to dilute Love: the passion grows and the interest becomes a constant relationship Infatuation: ends as abruptly as it began Love:long term love grows and endures; a failing love relationship will end slowly Infatuation: your world revolves around this person Love:your world revolves around this person but you have time for others too Infatuation : the relationship does not survive separation Love:absence makes the heart grow fonder... love grows during times of separation Infatuation : arguments and disagreements destroy the relationship Love:love works through arguments and disagreements and makes good - lessons are learned Infatuation :the relationship can be very demanding and self fulfilling Love: love is concerned for the other - to give and not to expect in return - giving unconditionally Infatuation :jealousy and possessive behaviour can be ever present Love: jealousy can exist but it is generally less intense – although there can always be exceptions! Infatuation : infatuation eventually ends Love: love endures - the greatest thing of all is LOVE - it holds everything together This doesn't tell you about lust but it does talk about if your in love. I got this from lamplight.org. |
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May 16 2006, 09:53 PM
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 <(- -)><(- - <)(>- -)><(- - )> Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,609 |
QUOTE(Chii @ May 15 2006, 11:17 PM)  It's when you'd rather sit and talk than make out with the person or perform sexual acts with them. Like, you two can have a great time together just being together without all the groping. Or, you can go some days without the groping, kisses and hugs are fine but the sexual stuff isn't like something you must do whenever you see each other. Did I just rephrase that like 5 times? When you love this person, I think you'll know. No one can tell you if you're in love yet or not unless it's really obvious, like you just met the person a month ago or you haven't been dating for so long. Everyone has a different definition for love, what I think is love may not be what you think is love. Ultimately, when you feel true love, you'll know. i couldnt have said it better myself. but you will always know if its just physical attraction and when its love. |
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May 17 2006, 12:38 AM
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explain the relationship... usually if your questioning this, its a good sign ;)
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May 17 2006, 07:19 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,614 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,903 |
Thats good :-)
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