...Now What?, Not that anything's happened to begin with, but w/e... Options

[*Hinata*]

Hii... I've been watching these forums for a while now, and I noticed that the ppl here are really helpful, so I finally decided to make an account. ^-^ I've got an intro somewhere out there, so I won't elaborate. >.> And anyways, this is good timing, since I have a few personal 'relationship' questions that I've been thinking about recently.

Oh, and sorry if I sound self-centered for this, but I'm really confused, and I don't know what to do. ><;; These aren't really problems, but more of thoughts...

Okay, so there are these popular guys are school, and I really like this one guy, who we'll call, uhh.... Akira. Yeah, that's Japanese for “light”. ^^ We don't hang out/talk or anything, since he's 'popular' and I'm more on the 'nerd/anime otaku' side... You know, the kind of person that doesn't go on dates & that kinda stereotype. Anyways, he mostly hangs out with these other three guys, who we'll call, umm... Kyle, Will & David. Kyle likes to bug me for some reason, and likes to call out my name in the lunch lines oftentimes to annoy me (I think he does it to other ppl too). Will & David don't do much.

A few months back (my friends claim it was V-Day, though I honestly don't know) in February, one of my really hyper & bouncy friends went down at brunch (we have a brunch at our middle school... Oh, and we're all in eighth grade, BTW) and told Akira that I liked him, and that I had for two years. She's really impulsive (not repulsive!) & hyper, although she says she regretted it afterwards. So after she told him, she came back to us, and Akira's friends (sorry if this is confusing, but the ppl who were there wasn't Kyle, Will & David, it was another group of friends, so they aren't in the story yet) teased him from then on about it. I think that he's probably embarrassed about it, but he covers it really well.

We have last period together (he happens to sit in front of me), and during that time, I told him that was my friend had said was a joke, and he should ignore it. He said, “Good” in an off-hand manner, but I dunno if he meant it as “okay then”, or actually “Yay, I'm relieved.” The scene died down after that.

About a week ago, my friend, Kitty & I went to the park after school, and Akira & his friends (Kyle, etc) were there. As I was passing, Kyle started following Kitty and I (his friends followed), and he was yelling out really dumb stuff at me, like, “Hey, are you a virgin?” & “Akira has something, really, REALLY important to ask you!” Kitty and I ignored them and eventually left to go somewhere else, but it was still really embarrassing.

I dunno, Kyle's been doing that a lot lately. There was a school dance last week, and he came up to me, saying that Akira wanted to dance the next slow dance with me; I'm kinda sure that he probably made that up. And after the dance, while Hyper, Kitty & I were waiting to get picked up by Hyper's mom, Akira & his friends were passing us (going to someone's house), and his friends were making comments as we passed.

My friends think that he's a jerk (stereotypes for jocks, you know), but he's never been mean to me, ever. That's why I like him in the first place. I keep on feeling that he's just really embarrassed & doesn't want anything to do with me, which I can completely understand. I mean, he himself hadn't made a comment/said anything in our past encounters with our friend groups, but I dunno. Yesterday, when I was walking to last period (the one with Akira), Kyle, Will & Akira were coincidentally in the hallways at different places, talking, and after I passed them, Akira started walking right in front of me to our classroom. He kept looking back at me (& his friends, maybe?) as if he were teasing me or something. Maybe he was, considering what a weirdo I am.... -.-'

So I don't know what to do now. I feel really bad about this all and dragging Akira into this mess in the first place, but I want to see what he thinks. Do you think he finds this embarrassing, amusing or what? We're both in Student Council, and he's always being such a good sport. I know that Akira's a good guy... I dunno, nowadays I don't know what to say or do when I pass their group, and that irks me. I'd really appreciate it if anyone has any advice for me, or if anyone can tell me what's going on in the minds of those guys... especially Akira. Thanks in advance!

[SarahxJoy]

Well, hoping that I fully understood your story, this is my opinion on the matter:

I think that Kyle is kind of being a jerk for making such comments to you, possibly making his friend (Akira) feel embarassed. It seems like although Akira is a good guy and all, he doesn't have enough courage to stand up to his friends to make 'em stop bugging you (even if it is one person). I say you should consider whether or not Akira is actually worth your time, and although I'm sure you've liked him for what seems like a long while, it could be that time to move on and find someone new.

I don't know if I can say much else, because that was a very detailed, and yet confusing, story.

[msladyliberty]

Hmmm...interesting...

Well...to me, it sounds like "Kyle" may have a little crush on you. I dunno...he keeps pickin' on you and making up stuff to get your attention somehow...and he does! Now that he knows your little "secret crush" or whutever...he's using it to get to you...somehow...'cuz he probably can't gather up the courage himself to talk to you the way he'd like to.

As for "Akira"...he's a shy guy...so shy guys are obviously hard to read because they're so inhibitive. He probably doesn't care about it.

Maybe all the "obvious teasing" is just done to get your attention. OR, it's maybe because boys are like that...they just like to poke fun for the sport. It just gives them something to do.

From my experience...the boys that teased me...had a little crush on me.

If "Akira" doesn't seem to respond to it in anyway...then I would assume that he doesn't care. So I wouldn't dwell so much about what he thinks. If he really did like you...I think he'd really try to talk to you in some way. Shy guys do that if they really really like someone.

Like I said, i wouldn't let it bother me. The more you ignore the teasing...the less it will occur. Just act like you don't care!! Boys hate it when they can't get your attention anymore! Then they'll try a nicer way to get your attention.

Hmmm...i dunno try that.

[*Hinata*]

Thanks, you two. ^^ And sorry if it was confusing... I tend to do that a lot. *wince*

I don't think Akira's shy... I'm pretty sure. He's really open to ppl, and if he stands up for people. Like, the reason I like him in the first place is because he stood up for me in sixth grade. I've tried to stop liking him in the past countless times, but he's such an awesome guy, and I eventually drift back to liking him again. I can't help it. >_<

I'm just not sure whether Akira also finds this funny or what, because if so, that may be why he doesn't stop his friends. I really don't know, though.

Oh, and I forgot to mention that we *do* talk a bit more often nowadays. I mean, we're not best of friends, obviously, but at least we converse now... hehe. I'm so hopeless. -.-

[*This Confession*]

To me
it kind of sounds like this Kyle guy likes you a little..
May just be me and some of the incounteres with guys ive had.
But to truly find out what he thinks
if you have enough confidence for it
You should get the guy you like [can't spell his name right for the moment] alone and talk to him.
Ask him if he even likes you
or Tell him you have feelings for him
and you may want to throw in why as well..
So you don't come off as some odd person
that just likes people..

Don't care about sterotypes
Their just there for people that can't understand diversity..
and if your one of them
heh sorry.

[PrincessAda]

Talk to him.I agree with above.

[*Hinata*]

Thank you... Very nicely said. And yes, I'm very very aware of diversity... Close-minded people really irritate me.

I'll think about doing what you said... But I don't think I have enough self esteem, honestly. But I'll try to pluck up enough courage! *determined*

Ack.

[SarahxJoy]

As long as you try.