What do you think?, All about trust. Options

[misfit]

Ok there's a heap of stuff that has gone on with my boyfriend in the past with his ex.Anyway I found out that he asked his ex to go bowling,he was already there with a couple of his friends.He aid to me that they were bored and he didn't really want his ex to come,but him and his friend wanted to see what she'd say,so they were mucking around when they rang her,but didn't really want her to come.I couldn't help it but think he was covering up.He couldn't ask me to go coz we live about an hour and a half away from eachother..I do trust him but there's stuff in the past that has hapened with me and him,that makes it hard to trust him..Maybe they were just mucking around but I dunno...And lastnight he said sorry and that he won't do it again and then eh said he'll never talk to her again...So he deleted her number out of his phone,off msn,blocked her on myspace,everything..And I said to him,I don't care if you talk to her,it's just hard for me to not think something's going on when you talk on msn or whatever.

But he said no she's gone now,I don't have any contact details or anything...He said he was sik of me hearing something then over reacting and then us arguing about it,but it's hard,what does he expect...I mean if things didn't happen in the past like him telling his ex he wanetd to be with her while he was with me and other stuff,then maybe i'd feel more secure.He says he loves me every day and I know he doesn't have feelings for his ex anymore and he know he made a mistake by telling her that he wanted to be with her and he was confused at the time...I just don't know,I want to fully trust him but it's so hard...

Sorry this is so long,I suck at exxplaining,I end up repeating myself or something lol.

[SarahxJoy]

It sounds like to me that he's really putting effort into really gaining your trust back.
Even though it's gonna' be hard as hell, I think you should give him a little more credit and try to calm down when you hear things from other people. Try not to over-react and when you get a chance, A.S.A.P., talk to him about it before making any assumptions.

That's my take on it.