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missmari1
post Apr 19 2006, 09:44 AM
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I like this guy Arthur and my friend Dee always flirts with him. Well
> it really bothers me. I tell Arthur about it and we had this big
fight
> (no hitting or anything) because he says he likes me better than Dee.
> So then they always talks on the phone and they lie about talking on
> the phone. I told Arthur how I feel and he just said that he likes me
> and that he doesn't want Dee to feel bad or sad. But I'm feeling sad.
> What should I do? Should I stop talking to Dee and Arthur or just one
> of them? Cause if I stop talking to Arthur, Arthur is going to keep
> talking to Dee and it makes me jealous. Please help me. Also they talk about thinks that i should know cause me and Arthur are talking ( trying to hook up)
 
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 09:46 AM
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If I were you I would talk to Dee about it. Be like " Hey, do you like Arthur" come up with some kind of casual conversation. Even though it might end out in a fight, you will get your point accross to her, and that's the point issue in this situation. Talk to Arthur, too. Remember, Dee will eventually be over him.
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 11:45 AM
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I like this guy Arthur and my friend Dee always flirts with him. Well
> it really bothers me. I tell Arthur about it and we had this big
fight
> (no hitting or anything) because he says he likes me better than Dee.
> So then they always talks on the phone and they lie about talking on
> the phone. I told Arthur how I feel and he just said that he likes me
> and that he doesn't want Dee to feel bad or sad. But I'm feeling sad.
> What should I do? Should I stop talking to Dee and Arthur or just one
> of them? Cause if I stop talking to Arthur, Arthur is going to keep
> talking to Dee and it makes me jealous. Please help me. Also they talk about thinks that i should know cause me and Arthur are talking ( trying to hook up)

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post Apr 19 2006, 01:28 PM
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I hate to break it to you but you have no right to be jealous over him. He's just your crush, he's not your boyfriend, you two aren't even dating.

You really need to get over it. Guys are always going to have female friends. Even if you two start dating, you can't expect him to stop talking to other girls or pretend like they all don't exist.

Apparently if you two are in talks of getting together, Dee shouldn't be a threat anyway.


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post Apr 19 2006, 01:33 PM
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we are dating now
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 01:49 PM
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So...are you gay?
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 02:39 PM
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Well, since you two are now dating, you should still stop being jealous like I already said. If he stops talking to Dee, he's going to talk to some other girl. He sees her as a friend. You can't force him to stop being around other girls or communicating with them.

Whether you like it or not, it's ALWAYS going to happen. You have to accept it.
Maybe Dee doesn't realize it or she doesn't know that you two are dating. Tell her that you don't appreciate her flirting with the guy you are dating.
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 02:57 PM
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no im a girl
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 03:09 PM
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If it's still going on just get her totally out. Say him or me and if she says you, then it's over and if she says him, then you let her be. :)
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 03:28 PM
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Then why's it in the Boy's locker?
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 03:52 PM
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Cause I need a guys opinion
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 04:06 PM
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All I want is the girl to come onto me, flinging herself at me, desparate for some 5 Star-Lovin'.
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 04:36 PM
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QUOTE(Cuban One N Only @ Apr 19 2006, 11:33 AM) *
we are dating now


I dont get it. if you guys are already dating... then whats the problem? you need to learn to hold on to your man. and if he faithful... dont worry about Dee.
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 04:53 PM
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Well the problem is that when me and dee and him are on the phone he always flirts with her and says good things about her like oh ur hot or ur sexy. that bothers me i kno maybe it shouldnt but it does. then sometimes he puts me down like he says oh u dont have a life or like ur lame r something like that it makes me rele pissed and then he wonders y im mad at him
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 06:09 PM
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well dont stop talking to either i mean if hes gona lie b like WTF u said u liked me and u arent showing it thats gay and im tired of this
confront them
dont be violent but get a lil mad
itll intimitdate them
and show them that u arent kidding
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 06:43 PM
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Talk to him about this. Tell him you don't like it when he flirts with Dee, and when he makes those remarks about you. And, talk to Dee and tell her you don't like it when she flirts with Arthur.
Communication is very important in a relationship.
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 07:51 PM
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QUOTE(Cuban One N Only @ Apr 19 2006, 5:53 PM) *
Well the problem is that when me and dee and him are on the phone he always flirts with her and says good things about her like oh ur hot or ur sexy. that bothers me i kno maybe it shouldnt but it does. then sometimes he puts me down like he says oh u dont have a life or like ur lame r something like that it makes me rele pissed and then he wonders y im mad at him

how do you know he flirts with her blink.gif does he tell you?
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 08:10 PM
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no cuz dee copys n paste their convos and im on the phone with them sometimes so i hear them
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 08:17 PM
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QUOTE(Cuban One N Only @ Apr 19 2006, 5:53 PM) *
Well the problem is that when me and dee and him are on the phone he always flirts with her and says good things about her like oh ur hot or ur sexy. that bothers me i kno maybe it shouldnt but it does. then sometimes he puts me down like he says oh u dont have a life or like ur lame r something like that it makes me rele pissed and then he wonders y im mad at him

This just keeps getting more confusing.

First, you say that they lie about talking to each other on the phone. But, you all talk together at the same time? How can someone lie about that?

If this guy puts you down like that then why do you bother staying with him even after he knows that he upsets you?
 
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post Apr 19 2006, 09:08 PM
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Ok here is the story in short terms. First they talk sometimes without me and lie about it, then when im on the phone with them they leave me out of the convo or Arthur puts me down. The dee and Arthur flirts and that rele bothers me. And yes ME AND ARTHUR ARE COUPLE. I Dont kno what to do. Thats the whole story
 
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post Apr 20 2006, 07:52 AM
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Then demand some 5 Star Lovin'
 
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post Apr 20 2006, 08:43 AM
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I'm going to merge this with your existing thread in Relationships.
 
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post Apr 29 2006, 02:00 AM
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GIRL TELL HER HOW HURT YOU ARE WEN SHE FLIRTS WITH DA GUY YOU LOVE N CARE ABOUT CKOZ NO ONE SUPPOSED TO STOP U FROM LOVING AND CARING SOMEONE AND IF HE DOES LIE TO YOU ; YOU DONT DESERVE HIM U DESERVE A MAN WHO DESERVES A GIRL LIEK YOU..
 
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post Apr 29 2006, 11:43 AM
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The other problem is, you can be inferring that their flirting when they're really not.
 

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