i dont know.., what the heckk Options

[DORKalicious]

Here we go. Okay, When my mom was young she got pregnant when she was 17 when she married her boyfriend he turned into a complete jerk and cheated on her & abused her all that stupid stuff. Shes been divorced 2 times and now shes getting divorced again. Meanwhile, she started seeing her first boyfriend who still is a complete jerk. This really doesn't have a whole lot to do with what I'm asking but I had to tell you some backround..anyway,I'm almost at the same age now and whenever someone likes me I can never get close to them, like recently I started talking to this guy who I found out liked me for 2 years and idk I told him the lets-just-be-friends thing and whenever I do that I always feel really bad like maybe I should have gone out with them because it might have been a good relationship. He seemed like a really nice person too, I've never had anyone say they cared about me like he did. But idk if I felt the same way. What the heck is my problem.

[Trumpetman4eva]

maybe you just arent attracted to him. if he cares for you that much, he should be more than happy to be your friend

[silver-rain]

Well, you might be scared that he (and perhaps all guys) will end up like your dad: abusive and a cheater, etc. so you're afraid to let guys get close to you.
If you really like him, then I say you should just go for it. Not all guys are like your dad.

[pinayprincess]

well according to the background info about you mom; your probably scared about ending up like her, [not in an offensive way] but to be treated like her first boyfriend did to her, you know? you dont want to get hurt, thats good; but remember not ALL guys are the same! some have a heart. you can risk it if you'd like, or be on the safe side like you're being now....i dont find any problem here

[_sarcastic_]

^ i agree
you're probably afraid of having a commitment since you're afraid that you might end up like your mom. trust your insticts
i mean you might never know, this guy might be a keeper

[Chii]

I don't get it. I thought you knew what your problem was because you gave the exact information that would make us assume that you're afraid of being like your mom who had bad luck with men.

I can't tell you that no one is going to hurt you or that you're definitely not going to run into any jerks like your mom's first boyfriend. I can just tell you that these kinds of things aren't hereditary. Just because your mom hasn't found a keeper doesn't mean that you won't either.

I know I'm kind of stealing and revising what Forrest Gump said but dating is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get. I believe that it's true. You just have to put yourself out there, keep your eyes open, and hope for the best. The prettiest chocolate can be filled with crap while the ugliest one can be filled with love. Or you can find a nice one that is delicious inside and out.

Just be careful, watch yourself with guys.

[priyas]

I can't tell you that no one is going to hurt you or that you're definitely not going to run into any jerks like your mom's first boyfriend. I can just tell you that these kinds of things aren't hereditary. Just because your mom hasn't found a keeper doesn't mean that you won't either.

Thats so true, Chii. Don't be afraid. Not all men are crazy jerks.

[DORKalicious]

thanks guys, but he's kind of ignoring me now..whatever

[cristina33192]

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[d00kie]

i know whats going on with u
see my friend peter was abused as a kid and then he went to go live with his god parents
he had this one really good realationship but he had bad feelings that if he suddenly loved this person and decided to get married and have kids he would treat his wife and kids the same way his dad did... he ended up locking himself away from girls that were attracted to him and those that he was attracted to... it wasnt a good result but hes gotten over that know and he knows that he is his own person and not his dad... the point is that u should live ur own life because its not necessarily gona b like ur moms...