Boyfriends going to College, :'[ Options

[ix3youx33]

Help! Okay my boyfriends a Senior right now and I'm a junior so theres like a one year age difference. Hes going to college next year and i'm just going to be stuck and walnut high. So how am I going to well.. stay with him. I mean like hes gonna be busy with college and i'll be busy with trying to in a good college and yeah. I'm not really worried about that though. What i'm really worried about is that what do i do if he finds another girl? i've been with him ever since the 7th grade and it didn't work out too well when he was in highschool for a year without me. He found a girl he liked but then he said screw her because he was still with me. but.. i mean thats middle school but when he gets to college i don't know what i'm going to do. I've had so many firsts with him. He took my first Kiss. He was the first guy that told me he loved me and actually meant it. and well yeah. I just odn't know what i'll do without him.

Today at school we were like hangin out and stuff and he said he'll never leave me.. but.. i don't really know what to believe.

Got any advice?

[-sincerely]

You should (i think) really tell him all the stuff you just said here and explain it to him. But sometimes you have to trust a person. If they say they are not leaving, believe him back.

[LadyXTor]

Just trust him.

[Afrodisiac-aka-A...]

I feel sorry 4 u girl. i mean u probably a dime n everythin but...

2 words: COLLEGE ASS

[anoniez]

i'm in the exact same situation as you, except opposite (i'm going to college, my boyfriend's not)
i guess all you can really do is trust him. yes, he will probably meet more attractive girls in college, but if you guys have been together for 5 (?!) years already.. that's an amazing amount of time and I don't think you have to worry. I say believe him.
And I don't think the same thing will happen as when he went to high school without you - it is 4 years later, after all. I'm sure he's matured a lot.

[_sarcastic_]

trust him
you've been through so much together already, since 7th grade at least
of course he'll meet many other girls in college, but you guys been together for a long time, i don't think he'll do anything to lose you.
believe him when he says he's not going to leave you, he probably means it

[priyas]

since you have been together for 4 years just TRUST him. Trust is important as commitment is also.

[silver-rain]

Yeah, you should trust him. I was in that situation last year, but it was only slighty better because he went to a college nearby so I could still see him. Besides, you've been together for a long time. Just trust him.
Well, how far away is he going to be? If it's not too far, you can still see him, and if it's going to be a long distance thing, you can still have other means of communication.

[Chii]

I feel sorry 4 u girl. i mean u probably a dime n everythin but...

2 words: COLLEGE ASS

Can you please refrain from making such comments to people who probably are not in the mood for them?

How far is he going to be? I'm dating someone who is already in college but he's going to graduate soon. He seems to have time for me even though he has a few jobs as well. Just because he's going to college doesn't mean that he won't have time for you at all. You can always talk to him on the phone, IM each other, e-mail each other and it'd be really sweet if you sent him the occasional care package or something if he's really far away.

You have to stay in touch and trust each other.
My darling is 21, he drinks and goes bar hopping with his friends. I know it's possible for him to pick up some girl and bring her home with him because he lives with his roommate but I trust that he won't do that. He knows that even though I don't go clubbing or party or whatever I can very well cheat. In fact, I've cheated with him but he trusts that I won't. Plus, when I asked him if he was afraid of me cheating he told me that since we're very open with one another he trusts that I'd tell him about it and I feel the same way with him.

[ix3youx33]

hes going to UCLA and its not that far away but you know how there A LOT of smart pretty girls at ucla. i mean like distance isn't really a problem but ITS THE GIRLS! i wish my darling was like yours

[Chii]

I should hope that you don't wish your boyfriend was like my darling. He can drink, he can go clubbing! He lives with his roommate who's his best friend so he can go wild. He can pick up girls and take them home with him. He'll be 22 soon and God knows what will happen on his birthday. I'm only 18 so it'd be pretty easy to cast me aside for some older girl who is more compatible with him. I just trust that since he decided to make our relationship exclusive he won't do anything.

I worry about it especially last night because he didn't even sign on. But we see each other at least once a week because of our conflicting schedules. So if UCLA really isn't that far, he can come home and visit you on the weekends or something.