I love my boyfriend Options

[alphanumeric]

but I think there's too much pressure on us as a new couple. The end of April will be our one month, we went out on March 31st, but being there's no 31st day of April and about five more other months, yeah. First of all, I don't wanna hear the youthful crap. I knew I was already too young in the beginning of this relationship. Alright? So none of that. I've liked this guy since July 18, 2005. Yes, believe it or not, I remember the first day I saw him and fell head over heels for him. Eight months later, I found he was all worth the wait. We were really good friends befoe we got together, he's definitely someone I consider as a best friend. But now, we've gotten so shy around each other. I've never really been in a situation like this so I need to know what I'm doing wrong. or if I'm at any fault here at all. I really believe I love him and that he's the one. I wanna be one of those lucky girls who experienced true love at first sight and kept it. Anyway, back to the subject, he's a great boyfriend. I love him, like, a lot. And I feel like we'll last, if only I didn't have so many doubts. I get scared his feelings for me will change over the weeks like it happened last with his ex (he told me), he already said that it wouldn't happen because I'm way more special to him, but I've noticed how he did sweeter things for her than he ever did for me, and I wonder if he's for real. Am I worrying too much? Today we've actually acted like a real couple, but it kind of died when a friend of mine asked us to kiss in front of him I can't be mad though. I just want some advice. 'Cause this relationship beats the rest by miles, and, it's the most incredible thing to happen to me. I just don't wanna ruin it. So,tips?

Oh, and we've talked. Don't worry. But this is something I feel like I can't tell him.

[myrebelliouslife]

I suggest you not worry. Once you begin to question him... is when he'll begin to get fed up with the frequent 'questionings' and just end it. You should just let your relationship play through and see what the outcome is. Don't worry... don't stress... don't constantly wonder why... and everything will be pretty okay.

[*This Confession*]

Okay.
So really your only problem is that you have doubts?
Really if you have doubts I don't think you have enough trust
in him. Trust is a very big issue in relationships and if you don't have
it it will go down the tubes. The only way to really gain trust is to have
it in yourself and talk to him openly about anything really. And if your
uncomfortable with something like how hes acting your differently
if he really cares then hes going to want to know that. So trusting him
is telling him your doubts too. And if you really love him then you shouldn't have a problem with that.


good luck.

Everything happens for a reason :]

also
don't worry to much
worrying only stresses you out and
then you keep to many things from him
and then they get supicious or how ever you spell it

[alphanumeric]

Yeah, basically I have doubts. Honestly, I'm usually the one who knows what to do when it comes to guys. I know that I shouldn't be too doubtful, and too clingy and yeahyeahyeah. But I guess I tend to freeze up when I'm in the spot. and my problem with him is he never makes the first move. It's like we've completely switched places and I'm the guy and he's the delicate, little schoolgirl. Come on now!

[*My Cinderella.*]

^ I think he may be afraid to do something that will make you feel uncomfortable, or he's just shy. I think the problem is mainly what the other said: I think you're having doubts and you're afraid what happened to him and his ex will happen to you. Try to stop stressing and realize that this relationship is new and probably different from his and his ex's.

[megan_x3]

Maybe you guys aren't just feeling comfortable towards each other. I'm sure you really love him. But does he feel the same way towards you .. ? This is exactly the same .. applied to my relationship with my boyfriend. BUT. the one who is worried is my boyfriend. Where he is worried about my feelings towards him will fade. We love each other a lot.
ANYWAYS. You need to have faith in him & trust. Without trust in each other, there's nothing. Give it some time for it to relax. If it doesn't really help, maybe you should ask one of your friends to talk to him. &&. see what he would say.

[Chii]

If you have doubts then how are you sure that he's the one and that you love him?

I think you should just be who you are. It's best to let it flow naturally than to do everything you can just to make it work. Let it be real, don't purposely do things to keep the relationship going.

Sure it's nice to have a sweet story to tell about meeting your husband or whatever but it's not too sweet when you stick with someone just so you can tell the story. When the story is real and natural, it will beat out any fantasy.

Why does it matter what he did with his ex? Is it romantic things that you like or just being with him? You should really stop comparing yourself to his ex. My crazy ex did and always made me feel like crap because of it. I had to do sh*t I HATED doing just to make his insecure self happy. I'm sure that it was one of the things that ruined our relationship.

[alphanumeric]

If you have doubts then how are you sure that he's the one and that you love him?

I find that question totally disgusting and offensive. I don't know why, maybe because love is just not something you don't question. I feel what I feel, and this is what I feel. I waited for him and got him in the end, besides, I'd think I'd know well enough when something is real or not since I've been through so much already

[Chii]

I find that question totally disgusting and offensive. I don't know why, maybe because love is just not something you don't question. I feel what I feel, and this is what I feel. I waited for him and got him in the end, besides, I'd think I'd know well enough when something is real or not since I've been through so much already

I did not mean to offend you. I just thought that it was really odd to say how much you love someone in one sentence then claim you have doubts in the next.

If you believe it's love and that he's the one after less than a month, be my guest. You're not the only one who has been through a lot. I was just offering you my 2 cents, if you don't like it because it doesn't satisfy you then don't take it.

[alphanumeric]

I did not mean to offend you. I just thought that it was really odd to say how much you love someone in one sentence then claim you have doubts in the next.

If you believe it's love and that he's the one after less than a month, be my guest. You're not the only one who has been through a lot. I was just offering you my 2 cents, if you don't like it because it doesn't satisfy you then don't take it.

I understand it's what you were thinking. And I know I'm not the only one who's gone through these things. I did take your advice and it's helped me a lot, that I thank you for, but I didn't last time since I got caught up with that question. I'm oversensitive as you might notice. Pardon me.