wait for him? Options

[toocutetoria]

okay, this is kinda like the "im in love with a gangster" one... well hes a thug... i care about him, and we had a good relationship. but he got sent to juvie.. (again!) before he left i told him we should go on a "break" till he came back, he was kinda upset but he told me that he wanted to be there for me but couldnt be right now... so should i wait for him? i dont even know when hes getting how... he went in about 1 1/2 months ago, so he could be back either next month or i dont know?? please i need advice!

[xTINAA]

I think if you even have to ask, it's a no.
You should know whether or not you like him or love him enough to wait for him or not. If it's worth waiting for then obviously wait, if not, then don't.

[toocutetoria]

its not that easy

[-sincerely]

Eh, well I don't really know how strong your relationship with him is. Just do what your heart tells you to.

[imnoxonesmemory]

it's not an easy decision.
it's really up to you. how strong was ur relationship and do you think you guys will be okay when he's out?
is there any way you can contact hi m?

[xTINAA]

I'm not saying it's easy but I'm saying in your mind and heart you should know what to do or at least be leaning more towards one side or the other. It's just a matter of doing it which is the hard part. If you had a great relationship and you really love him, it would seem to me that you should wait for him. If however you think that you don't want to be with him anymore and that waiting for him would be a waste then you shouldn't.

[Chii]

Why do you want to go on a break while he's there if your relationship is great and you care about him?

You need to talk to him and tell him that you can't keep waiting around for him. He needs to get his act together if he wants to stay with you.

[*My Cinderella.*]

^ Agreed with Chii. He sounds like he really needs a wake up call. Tell him that you can wait, but you can't wait forever. He needs to clean up his act or else the relationship might be on the rocks. I don't think a break is necessary. Just because he'll be in Juvie, doesn't mean you guys have to completely split from each other.

[mylittleMiracle]

Just do what your heart tells you to.

[*My Cinderella.*]

^ I guess she might be a tad bit confused since she posted here, though.

[demolished]

it's about how much you strive for it and work for it.

it's about yourself .. and what do you really want.

[Just_Dream]

Hmm, I'd have to agree with Chrissy on that if you really care about him enough, you should know better.

It is confusing, but think about it.. WHY do you want to be on a break? I mean, are you going to jump into another relationship or something? It seems like you're not, then just stay with him. You want to be with him, right? Then wait for him! You say "I'm in love witha gangster", then you should realize that love knows NO boundaries. Haha as cheesy as that may sound, it's true. Try to visit him every now and then, if you can. I'm not sure if those in juvie can get visitors, but most likely they can, so see if you can get a visiting period set up. That way, you can still contact him.

Also I think that, well by what I'm getting from your side of the story, he really wants to be with you, so you should give him a chance. It won't hurt, right? :]

Although, if I were you, I would've either never gotten together with a gangster/thung-type kind of guy or I would've made him stop being a gangster... That's just me, of course. :P

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

If you really like him, I'd wait for him. Two of my friends are currently waiting for their boyfriends in Juvi as well, one of them is waiting one more year and the other 2 years. I've waited for someone in juvi although it was only 4 months. It was because I couldn't think of anyone else i'd rather have been with at the time. Depending on which Juvi your boyfriend is in you should visit him if it's allowed, and if its only family allowed you can either lie and say your his cousin or write him letters to have his mom give him.

I'd say wait. It's only a month. Seems like forever but when hes out and back with his hand in yours it'll be worth it.

[shadowchild]

wait a month... if you feel you still love him enough to wait longer, then wait till he gets out and go back to him. But if you have to ask questions to yourslef and aren't really sure if you love him that much, then don't wait.

[lit0chinagirl]

take a moment out of everything that's happening and ask yourself how much you care for this guy. if the feeling's still strong then hold on and hopefully he can, too. everything's worth the wait if your heart's in it.