in love with a gangster Options

[*My Cinderella.*]

hehehe cus he made these bombs in school and i guess the police found out and put him in jail

^ what kind of bombs?

[tanichick]

oh wow this is kinda ironic, i was just talking to an old friend about guys and I asked her what kinda dudes she likes and everything and she told me that some of the sweetest guys are the gangsters, I waas like... "wtf" but now... I dunno, I guess you can't judge a book by its cover...

So my best advice is follow youir heart? Wow, now how cheesy is that? lol. But really, he might be a sweet guy. And everyone has different tastes, so you shouldn't be shamed that you like him. If your friends don't respect that then they are not real friends. =]

[lakerfever2476]

yea im serious

he says that he and his friends were making this thing on who could make the most dangerous bomb.. guess who won.. haha

[Flavored Condom]

You know what? I personally think you should find someone else. Unless he does something to proove he's not really a bad person then I'll say go for it.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

So it started out as a joke, and because of he won you label him a gangster.


I think it was just a prank that got out of hand, unless there is more to it than that. You really shouldn't be ashamed of your feelings. If your friends judge you by someone you have feelings for, you need to talk to them about that. But i think you should give it a go

[NgocQuyen]

i guess you shouldn't be ashamed. who you like is your business, not your friends. if they are heartless enough to judge you just by who you have interest in then they must not be very good friends now are they? why do you need to tell them anyways? just a little input though, i'm not saying that you shouldn't go out with him, but he might be a little "bad" for you i guess you could say. i mean you two are only 14 and he's been in juvie and shiz? wtfers? but yeah i'm just saying you need to be careful...but whatever you do is your business. i only give advice. you choose to take it or leave it.

[imnoxonesmemory]

well... you're smart. so i think as long as you don't get pulled into what he's doing. you'd be okay.
if he treats you properly, respects you etc. it's fine.
i used to have a boyfriend who was always in trouble for stealing/drugs/vandalization.
but he never pulled me into it.
gdluck!

[Paradox of Life]

... It sounds like you're saying, "I know I'm better than him. He's just a low-class gangster, but I still kind of like him." Examine your logic. Don't think of him as a gangster. Think of him as a person. If you like him, you like him. Period.

[demolished]

Yeah :)

i think you can definitely change his life if you're a good girlfriend. encourage him to do well in school and respect to teachers. help him on his homework too :]

[megan_x3]

Well .. think of it. Your a 4.0 student. &&. he's somewhat of an opposite of you. . . It doesn't really matter. Well .. back to my story. That was what kind of happened to me. He was a bad kid. I was a good kid. The teachers thought we were crazy or something. Sooner or later, my grades dropped &. I half became like him. If you have confidence in yourself that your relationship with him won't change your school work , friends, family .. take a shot.
I won't risk it though. I .. in my own opinion, won't risk all the good things I have for this a-hole that is not worth it.

[bananapants]

honestly if u gotta ask that question i think r stereotyping a lil bt u shud go out with they guy give him a chance we al deserve a chance

[lyin_in_wait]

you cant help who you like, but in no way let your friends influence your decision. in the end it doesnt affect them as much as it will you. its YOUR relationship. just be sure he will treat you right, sometimes rebels arent as nice in real life as they are in the movies...

[lanbexx]

You like someone, nothing wrong with that. But I do think it's wrong your friends are judging his personality based on what had happened to him and what he had done.

actions speak louder than words.

my advice. youre 14 not only do you not know enough to decide on either love or lust, he just hit puberty and has no f'ing clue also. i dont say you shouldnt, but ill bet that it will end in disaster. youre a 4.0 student. you have an insanely small chance that you will stay with him since youre fourteen, but have a huge chance of getting into trouble. ive seen this play out too many times. great girls get attracted to bad guys around this age get themselves into stupid messes (older, like towards end of HS is ok because both are mature enough to decide if he's worth it). you already have an idea of what his personality is like when he is not around you.

wait. dont go with this guy. later on in life, or even in the near future, a guy will come for you that will enrich your life. wait for him, and dont live regretting going out with this wannabe delinquent.

[so_jentran]

noo it's not wrong.. like whoever you want to like hehe ;]

[Just_Dream]

... Wow. Well, as long as you love him, right? lol And if you're ashamed about it, you shoudl really question whether you want to be with him, since you seem embarrassed to tell people that you like someone like him. And if you're in "love" as you say, keep in mind that LOVE KNOWS NO BOUNDARIES, as the saying goes.

Don't you think that you should try to influence him to change, for the better? If you really want a future with him, try to help him change so that he may have a future. If he's been to juvenile hall and is under house arrest, try to help him in some way. Maybe the best thing for you to do is to tell someone, so that others may help too. I mean think about it, you don't want to be with someone that does things like that. I know what I'm saying may sound biased, but you have to know that even if a guy is sweet to you and is the perfect person, you should try to work towards a better future with him, so that you won't have to be embarrassed about him, and that he'll work to change himself in order to love you.

No one should change who they truly are, but who you fell in love with -- it isn't a gangster, right? If you fell for a sweet and romantic king of guy, who's quirky and funny and knows how to sweep you off your feet, he needs to be true to you AND himself.

THat just my opinion though. You can do whatever you want, but if you really have to question yourself like this, it's making you doubt your own relationship, where love isn't the glue that holds you two together.. anymore...

[*jooleeah*]

Don't be ashamed.
As long as he's good to you, and doesn't change you- affect your grades or cause disturbances in friendships, etc, then there's no problem with liking him.

I agree.

Also, like Christina said...you should try to influence him to change for the better. :]

Be careful, though. Make SURE he's good to you and does not peer pressure you into doing things that can get you into juvi, house arrest, and other things he's already gotten into. If one bad thing occurs in the relationship, do not go on with it. It's like a warning sign, sorta. So yeah...just be extremely careful.

[lanbexx]

since it seems no one else is... ill play the cynic. devils advocate. just to give you another side.

"love knows no boundries" thats the most utopian sounding idea ever. life is reality, not a storybook. love knows no boundries, but neither does lust, infatuation... or rape.

it may seem that he isnt that bad now. just one bad decision right? first, keep in mind, they had a competition to see who could have the most dangerous mind. twisted sense of fun. he let himself get caught at school with it so it shows he is also stupid. he's already set himself down a dangerous path. are you sure you want to follow the same direction he is going?

he may seem like a sweetheart, sensitive funny and innocent. thats a load of bull. chances are, he acts that way around you because he wants you. boys will act that way (notice act, not feel). once you start dating him a while, his real personality will come out. are you sure that you will be comfortable with what you will see?

dont. unless juvie slaps some real sense into him and he actually starts to learn a) that life isnt a game and b) how to love, not lust, after a girl (both of which are unlikely). youre obviously young, and obviously innocent. its in your best intrest to keep it that way.


meh anyways its up to you. no matter how many different strangers who think they know best for you try to decide for you, only you know the circumstances, only you know your emotions, only you can decide how you want to live your life. hopefully, you will not regret your choice

[KrunkMuzik]

Man, ashamed of what? "Love" doesn't always mean you have to find the person EXACTLY like you. They can be completely opposite of you. Opposites attract right? So it's not wrong. Go and do yo thang girl.