shyness or disinterest?, help Options

[TearsOfAPhoenix]

Ok so this is my first official relationship with a guy and well i really like him. It took him three weeks to ask me out. lol. He's a football player so the entire football team was informed about him wanting to ask me and then him finally asking. They were always around to bother. So he walks me to class and hugs me goodbye. That's it. Should I be concerned? We've only been together two weeks this friday (April 7th), but he hasn't even held my hand. We've known each other since the beginning of the school year and see each other everyday, but he doesn't even call me. He lost his cell and my number was in it and he only has a cell phone not a home phone... so yea we've never talked on the phone. Things just get complicated sometime...I've done more with my unofficial boyfriends then with my first official. I mean I'm way more comfortable around guys than i was before, but i get shy around him. Complicated.... err what do you guys think? What should i do?

[Kounouri]

Don't worry about it. Some guys are just slowmoving like that, and I think you should be thankful to have found someone like that. If he gets along with you in conversation and otherwise then there's no problem- he's probably just shy. But if he seems to be bored when talking to you or frustrated with you, then you have a problem.

Look at it this way: at least he's not forcing you into anything.

[TearsOfAPhoenix]

That's exactly the way i'm looking at it. I feel really lucky to have him. We carry on a conversation with no problem at all and everytime I see him I can't help have a huge smile on my face. I love the way he's so respectful and chivalrous. I know he genuinely cares because he isn't moving so fast paced, but others are telling me otherwise. That he may be disinterested or something.

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

I would definitly call that shyness. I mean if you're shy && he's kind of shy.. It's jusst the nerves that are gettin to the both of you right now.. How about you guys plan a relaxing date like bowling, putt putting, the movies, ice-skating, a walk in the park, or something that will make you guys feel more comfortable with each other, but also give you guys a chance to talk. So then things won't feel so awkward at school && he'll gain the courage to actaully hold your hand in public down the halls && you'll be able to talk to him like you have some sense.. So he won't think you like other guys since you can talk to them better than you can talk to him. Hopefully, I helped you out a little.. Yeahh sometimes when you really like someone all you can really do is choke on your words to say.. or forget a tiny detail by holding their hand b/c your hands to sweaty && your to scared to know what the other person might actually think of you!..

[_sarcastic_]

^i agree. he's just shy, it's alright if he wants to move in a slower pace, besides you both only have been together for 2 weeks? take things slowly, be glad that he's not those kind that will make you rush into things. maybe you should make the first move like holding his hand

[silver-rain]

Yeah, it does sound like he's kinda shy. Me and my first boyfriend were like that; we barely did anything but it was because it was our first relationships and we weren't sure what to do.
But yeah, you two should just spend some time with each other alone getting to know each other and getting more comfortable with each other. It's a good thing that he's moving slower, he doesn't want to push you or do anything to make you feel uncomfortable. And besides, it's only been 2 weeks. Give it some time.
If you want anything to happen, you can make the first move by holding his hand, etc.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

You havent even gone out for a 2 weeks yet, you should be happy this guys not trying to fist your boobs all the time and grope your ass, unless thats what you want. If you want him to hold your hand, or kiss you, maybe you should take a hold of his hand instead of waiting around and complaining and worrying about it. Dont mean to sound harsh but, seriously. Take the first step.

Well, you cant really blame anyone for not being able to talk on the phone. He has no device to call you. Just hang out afterschool and on weeknights, and maybe during those times when you're not talking you can get to the physical stuff you want him to do with you.

[*My Cinderella.*]

It's definately shyness kicking in. I remember that me and my boyfriend were pretty shy when we first started going out. Just give it some time, and you'll get used to the pacing. Perhaps he doesn't want to move to fast and scare you away.

[TearsOfAPhoenix]

Thanks you guys! Yea him and I are going to spend sometime together tomorrow and I'm really glad he's moving slow paced because that gives me time to get use to the idea of him and I together. We've never really even talked about the us subject but I really like him and if he doesn't take the initiative i'm going to go for it. Its not like i'm trying to get him to make out with me. I just want to take a small step and hold his hand or something because I chose him over another guy because the other guy was a lot more into the physical stuff and I wasn't into that. I have to have a connection with someone as well as attraction.