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 Mar 22 2006, 09:08 PM
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 the one lol  Group: Member Posts: 92 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 253,183  |
Im not sure where this topic belongs but does anyone have any tips on how to become more outgoing?
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| *digital.fragrance* |
Mar 22 2006, 09:19 PM
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Hmmm maybe this belongs in relationships.
Anyway, I think the key is to smile as often as possible... conciously force yourself to go and talk/sit with people you normally don't. 1,000th post!!! |
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Mar 22 2006, 09:21 PM
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The best way is to do things a little bit at a time to make yourself more comfortable around people. Make eye contact and say hello to people you pass. When you're at a party, find someone to talk to that you don't know, and strike up a conversation. Try to talk to people at work and/or school that you don't normally talk to. Join clubs and other groups so you are around people who share common interests.
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Mar 22 2006, 09:32 PM
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 oh boober. Group: Member Posts: 224 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 375,884 |
talk talk talk but be yourself
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Mar 23 2006, 12:34 AM
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join clubs and other school activities
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Mar 23 2006, 12:39 AM
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since it seems like you are a girl i would suggest wearing skirts and shirts that show off nice cleavage. if you are at school just find a popular guy and act like u like him. chances are if you act nice towards him maybe kiss him you will get a good rep. maybe even post pics of your butt on myspace, that should help too
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Mar 23 2006, 08:21 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
QUOTE(sillakilla220 @ Mar 23 2006, 1:39 PM)  since it seems like you are a girl i would suggest wearing skirts and shirts that show off nice cleavage. if you are at school just find a popular guy and act like u like him. chances are if you act nice towards him maybe kiss him you will get a good rep. maybe even post pics of your butt on myspace, that should help too stfu.  talk to more people, smile at others in the hallways. talk louder, laugh louder, join clubs. socialize more. |
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Mar 23 2006, 08:36 AM
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talk more,laugh more!=)
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Mar 23 2006, 12:05 PM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
I'd say er...just...well...GO OUT!
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| *Programmer* |
Mar 23 2006, 12:23 PM
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it takes work to become outgoing...some people just can't be.
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| *Blow_Don't_SUCK* |
Mar 23 2006, 03:22 PM
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Well, you gotta fix your issue with self-confidence, for starters.
//edit Do you want to become out-going just to get a boy's attention? if so, he's not worth it. Date boys who like you for who you are. |
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Mar 23 2006, 04:15 PM
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 Word. Group: Member Posts: 3,004 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,673 |
it took me 4 years to be like that.. i was so shy freshman year.. i think all u have to do is keep talk and talking and talking and eventually it will stick to u where u talk to other people.
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Mar 23 2006, 04:40 PM
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the one lol Group: Member Posts: 92 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 253,183 |
QUOTE(Blow_Don't_SUCK @ Mar 23 2006, 4:22 PM) Do you want to become out-going just to get a boy's attention? if so, he's not worth it. Date boys who like you for who you are. no i just want to become outgoing its like a goal... |
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Mar 23 2006, 04:53 PM
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^Oh then like I said, fix any of your problems with self-confidence. For starters, you can attend a party or a get-together with tons of people you can socialize with.
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Mar 23 2006, 04:58 PM
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Well, if you want to be more outgoing, you clearly have some goals and or things you wish you could do but something is preventing you from actualization said things. Now, to find the root of this problem and help you accomplish what you would like, we need to identify what is preventing you from doing these things in the first place.
Are you afraid of something? If so, what? Are you not confident in yourself? If so, why? Why can you not yet do these things that you want to do? |
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Mar 24 2006, 10:49 PM
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I wish I can give you some good advice, but I'm not really outgoing either. I am really shy - probably one of the shyest ones around or according to the people I know anyway. I think I was opened the most during my first year of high school, when I took drama. I was really opened up to people, but after the year, I was back to being less outgoing. Another thing that might help is by joining clubs and if you're really interested, apply for executive positions. Like I join clubs and participate as either the member or an executive, and it really boosts up your confidence or whatever it is, to be more opened and outgoing. But since I am really shy, I am still not 100% outgoing, unless I am with my best friends. At least it helps a bit, I guess.
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Mar 26 2006, 01:13 AM
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 Tryina catch me ridin dirrty Group: Member Posts: 166 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 389,030 |
be more confident
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Mar 26 2006, 11:38 AM
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try going to a party or just like a group gathering with one of ur really good friends and some of her firends u don't know. Then u have a clean slate: just smile a lot and makes some small talk. ask questions, you know? Also having an interesting prop helps, like a really cute belt or carry around your favorite book or CD. Something you can gush on about withut feeling self concious. and ud have ur good friend to fallback on. Just relax, overthinking it will make it worse.
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Mar 26 2006, 01:41 PM
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Syar Group: Member Posts: 23 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 388,958 |
Be yourself, talk, smile.
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Mar 26 2006, 01:53 PM
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interact with people youve never met/seen before. build confidence that way since they are brand new.
sit with new people at lunch and ask them how their weekend went and other topics. be like the spokesperson of the group and make yourself known. |
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Mar 26 2006, 02:26 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,087 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 36,491 |
get more involved in school and just talk to people!
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Mar 26 2006, 07:32 PM
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 Peggy. Group: Member Posts: 2,508 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 214,025 |
I am quite shy of a person but I have many friends.
Talk to people around you in class, make them feel like that you are there, not like invisible or just another person in class. Get their screenname/xanga/myspace too if you don't get to see some people often, guess what, internet is such a great social tool! |
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Mar 26 2006, 08:27 PM
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 Naughty... Group: Member Posts: 135 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 388,724 |
I would say to make more friends with the same interests as you. Friends bring out the best in you, and make you act like yourself, so I would say talk to people more and make more friends. Be daring and take risks. Join a club that you like, and just...talk. Chances are you just aren't comfortable with yourself right now, so you will probably open up more and become more outgoing.
QUOTE since it seems like you are a girl i would suggest wearing skirts and shirts that show off nice cleavage. if you are at school just find a popular guy and act like u like him. chances are if you act nice towards him maybe kiss him you will get a good rep. maybe even post pics of your butt on myspace, that should help too I really hope that's a joke. I mean, you want to be outgoing, not a slut. I'm sure you already know this, but don't listen to this loser. Hah. |
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Mar 26 2006, 10:25 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
1) Never be prejudiced. Do not judge anyone, and do not close anyone out of your radar. You may not want to talk to someone because they're ugly, disabled or of a certain ethnic group, stereotype, etc. But you can't be outgoing if you let those things keep you from getting to know and accept other people.
2) Smile. Looking friendly draws people to you, and makes them feel more at ease when they're talking to you. 3) Don't withdraw yourself from the crowd. Whether you're the center of attention or just taking with a few of your friends, make sure you're not the loner with no companions. Take every opportunity to get to know your peers better. And that's my advice. |
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Mar 26 2006, 10:30 PM
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 L!ckitySplit Group: Member Posts: 4,325 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,329 |
QUOTE(mipadi @ Mar 22 2006, 10:21 PM) The best way is to do things a little bit at a time to make yourself more comfortable around people. Make eye contact and say hello to people you pass. When you're at a party, find someone to talk to that you don't know, and strike up a conversation. Try to talk to people at work and/or school that you don't normally talk to. Join clubs and other groups so you are around people who share common interests. i agree with this, but also to save you from awkwardness, remember to try to talk to people like you knew them for years. it actually is a good method that works well and will also make the other person comfortable also. so the conversation will flow very well |
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