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 Mar 8 2006, 11:35 PM
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I don't really know if I want to be in a relationship again, but I have someone in mind. His name is Frank & we've been friends for about a year. He & my friend talked & he admitted to her he likes me. But the thing is, he's everything I don't like in a guy, but for some reason, he's still on my mind. He's had like thousands of thousands of girlfriends. & He's already gone to 3rd base. HE'S JUST FOURTEEN. I never even got my first real kiss yet
 But I also love him to death. I know he thinks Im good-looking 'cause he said so (in different words..) & he loves hugging me 'cause Im like a teddy bear to him (about that too, what am I fat or something? >:[) Everytime he holds me & leans his head on me & talks softly to me I feel really good & special. I just don't know if it's another one of his tricks, though..should I give him a chance? Is it possible he won't throw me away like all the rest?
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Mar 9 2006, 12:14 AM
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I'm 16.
When I started going out with the girl that I'm going out with now (we've been together 11 monthes), I'd had plenty of girlfriends, done plenty of things, hell I even had sex. But when I started going out with her, I let her wait until she was ready to do anything sexual. It was all up to her, and I let it be all up to her as to when and where. All you gotta do if you go out with this guy, is make sure that he lets you do the deciding as to when/where/what your going to do. The second he doesn't dump that foo and move on. |
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Mar 9 2006, 04:10 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
it's up to you. just make sure his feelings for you are real, and he's willing to wait until you're ready to do anything.
just be careful |
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Mar 9 2006, 05:37 PM
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if you're really like this guy, make sure you'll be the one in control of your relationship because if he already went to third base, he could be the cause of rushing things just for pleasure. test him. make him wait. take things slow. like first month, just hugs and holding hands. second and third month, kisses on the cheek. etc. it'll show if he's patient and respectful of what you want in your relationship.
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Mar 9 2006, 05:55 PM
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Changa Group: Member Posts: 53 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 177,785 |
go for it
cause if you dont, when you lose the chance. you wil regret. i say try it ..for like one month. just to get a taste. if you like him at the end of the month, thats great. at the end of the month, if you think hes just a controlling freak, then just move on. |
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Mar 9 2006, 06:09 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
hmm..i guess you could give him a chance...but as soon as you suspect something's up you should get out ASAP...you don't want to let yourself get hurt, because he kind of sounds like a player to me...good gosh the boy is only 14 and already went that far? ahh well, if your feelings for him are that deep then i guess you should go for it, but just don't confuse love with like, lust, or infautation. you said you love him(and i don't know if you meant friendly love or love love, so i'm assuming love love) but do you really? i mean think about it. no one can tell you to go out with him or not to go out with them, only you can. go with what your heart says
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Mar 9 2006, 06:38 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 185 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 365,309 |
QUOTE(lilxl0ser @ Mar 9 2006, 3:09 PM)  hmm..i guess you could give him a chance...but as soon as you suspect something's up you should get out ASAP...you don't want to let yourself get hurt, because he kind of sounds like a player to me...good gosh the boy is only 14 and already went that far? ahh well, if your feelings for him are that deep then i guess you should go for it, but just don't confuse love with like, lust, or infautation. you said you love him(and i don't know if you meant friendly love or love love, so i'm assuming love love) but do you really? i mean think about it. no one can tell you to go out with him or not to go out with them, only you can. go with what your heart says ah, yes. i meant friendly love :] i don't believe in love love at this age |
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Mar 9 2006, 08:05 PM
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yeah, go for it. why not? BUT! i think you should tell him what's what before you guys go out. if he can understand your fears, wishes, etc., then he's worth it but if not, then forget about him. just don't let it get too deep. take the time to think things out etc.
good luck! ...and go get your man! 
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Mar 9 2006, 11:08 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
QUOTE(shes out @ Mar 9 2006, 6:38 PM) ah, yes. i meant friendly love :] i don't believe in love love at this age hmm, okay then what do you think would be better? a friendship , or a relationship that could grow into something bigger? ehh it's all up to you...
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Mar 9 2006, 11:36 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
when i was 14 i got to third place and it was all my doing, plus i'm a girl. big freaking deal, it takes two to tango. he couldn't have forced himself on all of them, if he did there would be plenty of talk.
but anyway, if you like him then go for it. just keep your legs closed and your clothes on if you want to. be upfront with him and tell him how you feel about the rumors you heard about how he's been all over his ex's. if he tries to slide his hand up your shirt or your skirt, push it away. if he tries to place your hand on his d**k, push it away. it's as simple as that. if he's forceful, slap the crap out of him and scream. then kick him in the balls or something. |
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Mar 10 2006, 12:39 AM
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i'll talk to you more about this on aim.
he seems ok, go for it. its ok if he leaves you, that means he's not worthy of you. |
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Mar 10 2006, 06:03 PM
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take the risk..
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Mar 12 2006, 02:53 PM
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 i'm maggie =] Group: Member Posts: 3,607 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 361,616 |
well, whatever you wanna do, then do. if he does.."throw you away," youll end up learning from your mistakes.
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