I'm so love sick, I don;t know what to do Options

[Blk`SpY]

Man, I’ve never in my entire like EVER had a girlfriend. So many times I could have had a girl but something went wrong, and it mostly had to do with my second guessing myself. I really have no confidence in my looks even though I’ve been called cute more times than ugly by girls. I jus don’t know how to come at a girl it’s so hard….But I can talk to girls. I tend to have a lot of girl “friends” but not relationship wise. Girls do think I have a nice personality and really sweet. But I can’t get them to know I like them… What probably is the easy thing for a guy to do is the most complicated to me. But I met this girl a couple of months ago…and we really clicked off she was soo interested in me. I really thought she was pulling my leg. But this girl was incredibly beautiful; I’ve never attracted a more beautiful woman. So weeks past and are feelings were getting stronger and I really thought I could finally have a girlfriend and a beautiful one at that! She finally told me she loved me but I didn’t say it back I more like agreed, she expressed all her deep feelings for me and it was heart warming. But then I started to get busy and we didn’t talk as much, we didn’t talk for like I think 2 or 3 weeks straight. And all those weeks was really making me miss and love her more. For this girl I would go to the ends of the earth and bend over backwards. I felt that thing normal people call “Love” and it felt so good. So when we finally talked I told her how I felt, and I jus let my heart spill out. I think she cried and she told me that she was talking to someone else and she thought I didn’t feel the sameway she did ( do to my lack of expression towards my emotions). But she said that she was going to let dude off the real easy because she really loved me more than him. But now I still see them talking and I overheard her and a friend and she said he’s still her crush. I don’t know what to do, I feel so sad inside that she would do such a thing….any suggestions?

sorry it's soo long

[Chii]

my initial reaction: what is your problem??? this girl tells you she "loves" you and you really like her too but you don't admit it when she does???

but that's not really the issue so, i suggest that you confront her about what you heard. you've let too many oppurtunities pass you by. go for this one. tell her that you always felt for her the way she did for you and that it hurts to hear that she is still in talks with that other guy.

you have nothing to lose and everything to gain in this situation. if you let it pass by, that guy might get her but if you confront her and get through to her, you can have her.

[Hell-Rell]

Sorry to here that your love sick..But I think that you need to be more expressive towards to opposite sex...you can't jus expect everything to fall in your lap. I feel u on the love thing it is hard. But what you need to do is talk to your girl about it..

[c4rL4]

i think you just tell her how you really feel. i mean you've let her know how you feel for her, let her know how you feel on the things thats happening now. that you still care for her but shes just talking to someone else. youre probably jealous but if you really cared, try to talk it out. its worth a try. :]
i dont really know what else to say except for go for it. never put yourself down. just boost your confidence but dont be too arrogant. just believe in yourself. it'll take you places. :]

[*mipadi*]

It's alright to make a mistake now and then, as long as you learn from it. I can understand your being shy, but remember in the future that sometimes you have to put yourself out there to get someting in return. No reward without risk.

[EyeOfTheTiger5]

What you need to do is take the male approach - be straightforward. If you are confused, you need to bring it up, and you've said you know how to make conversation - so do it easily, not bluntly.

Next, she has said she loves you. Take her word for it! Even if you aren't sure that she loves you, act as if you ARE sure. You can offer to give advice on her relationship with the other guy, but that's her business to sort out.

I've seen this stuff before; it's very likely that what she did was assume you didn't like her back and try to find a 'replacement' for you. Obviously, that doesn't work, and once she found out you do love her, she wants to break up with the other guy. That's the part that's out of your hands.

There's a chance that's not the case, but I'm fairly sure it is.

Just keep talking to her, make sure to let her know subtly that you DO have feelings for her.

As for her saying he's still her crush... it is likely that she's trying to prolong breaking up with him until she's sure of it. And that means she'll try to hide her feelings if need be.

Bottom line, don't believe anything love-related you hear ABOUT her unless you hear it FROM her.

Talk to her.

Hope that helps :)