what do you look for in a girlfriend?, what qualities interest you? Options

[*disco infiltrator*]

I know there's been others, but they were really old. Yes, I know it's a duplicate topic, though I'm usually pretty lenient on that...

Anywho.
What qualities make you say "Hey, this girl might make a good girlfriend" right off the bat? What're you looking for? What interests/hobbies/general knowledge would you be looking at?

Please go into more than just looks or "funny and nice and smart". Otherwise, it's like, duh. Cute, funny, nice, smart - We all know people want that. But what do you want, individually?

[vash1530]

a girl that i know i could be friends with.

[cookieskater2]

Similar interrests, fun to be with, good personality.

And because "Opposites attract" It's cool if they like different stuff as well.

I'd say personality matters more than looks and my standards for pretty aren't exceedingly high. Though I'd say my girlfriend is beautiful =]

If they like doing stuff and enjoy talkign to you, try new stuff with them. Now I'm sorta rambling, haha, any girl you have fun talkign with is worth a shot to me.

[sadolakced acid]

well let's see...


first, nice looks. either hot or cute. i prefer the cute ones. doesn't really matter that much, it's just the easiest thing to see.

niceness. i don't like malicious girls. mean, sure, as long as she has spurts of niceness.

self confidence. low self esteem is very unattractive.

someone i can talk to. this one's pretty important. she listens to what i talk/rant about, and is able to talk/rant about stuff herself.

able to argue. i like debating with people. a girlfriend shouldn't be an exception.

intelligent. stupid people are annoying, but i do tolerate them.

avalible. self explanitory, i think.

huggable. i like hugs more than kisses.

someone i like. there has to be a sparkish thing, you know. this one's the most essential, and the most unpredictable.


err... yea. i think.

[verlorenrivets]

I am personally interested in girls who have better things to do other than hang out with me. Sure, I would like a girl who I could just be around all the time, but I also prefer a girl who has big goals, and is willing to work for those goals. Girls who don't talk about a scene or specific people, but rather society and greater events. I would like a girl who is intelligent. Not dumber than I am, and preferably not much smarter. I'm not referring to book smarts, rather "common sense" and ethical intelligence. Someone who is possibly on the same level of intellectual and ethical maturity might be nice? Most importantly, I want a girl who is rational. Someone who won't waste my time and money. Imagine me checking someone out. Very hard to tell all these things just by the way a girl looks and smells. I have to spend copious amounts of time getting to know girls if I want to be "on the market".

CAN SOMEONE JUST HOOK ME UP WITH AN ACCOUNTANT OR LIBRARIAN THAT CAN DISCUSS NON-MARXIST SOCIALISM? THAT'D BE GREAT, THANKS.

[_suzie_]

''CAN SOMEONE JUST HOOK ME UP WITH AN ACCOUNTANT OR LIBRARIAN THAT CAN DISCUSS NON-MARXIST SOCIALISM? THAT'D BE GREAT, THANKS.'

lol, dude, exactly. even tho im a girl, i totally agree. no one wants to debate these days !

[sadolakced acid]

i currently enjoy debating about human rights as well as international politics, like france and iraq, as well as domestic things. it's very enjoyable.

[*mipadi*]

I liked this topic, but it kind of died down, so I think I am going to get it kick-started for Sammi.

I should preface this by saying that it was really tough to compile a list, and clearly, I don't feel a potential date must meet all of these requirements. I hesitate to even make a list of guidelines; but then again, I think to develop a good relationship, it's important to really note what you want. So I racked my brain and came up with a few basic, non-binding guidelines of what I like to see in young women. In no particular order:

• Fun. First and foremost, she has to be able to have a good time. Maybe this seems like an obvious trait, but I think a lot of time people really do overlook its importance. She can't be overly dramatic, or melodramatic. I'm a fairly relaxed person, and I like people who don't stress me out. I need to have a good time with her, be it something as simple as watching a DVD or playing Xbox. She should have a good sense of humor, too; note that making jokes herself is not a requirement, but being able to laugh and generally have a good time is.
  
  However, she should still be pretty mature, just not so mature that she forgets how much fun it is to be a kid.
• Not overly serious. Kind of goes along with being fun, but it's also important that she not be overly serious. Life is a big game, and people need to remember that. It's not that serious. Have fun while it lasts. Live in the present, not the past or the future.
• Intelligent. I like people I can talk to. It's cool if she's well-read, maybe able to engage in "philosophical" discussion or even debate. But I also don't want someone who goes out of her way to be intellectual. Those people are too fake. And to be honest, by smart, I mean that, given the option, I'd like the girl who can do integrals in her head, or talk about particle accelerators, or the Google computing cluster ( ), over one who is a "pseudo-intellectual". Hey, I like intellectual discussion, but I'm more of a math/science person myself, and I relate much better to people like that. (Not that the artsy-poetic types are bad...I just don't understand them. )
• Relaxed. I'm probably getting redundant, but a girl who is relaxed and at ease is key.
• Confident. Probably should be higher up on the list for emphasis, but recall that this list is not in any order. This is important. Confident people are much better at carrying themselves, and handle social interaction a lot better. They're also not whiny and bitchy and angsty towards life.
• Athletic. I like to run, move around, and so forth. She doesn't have to be a super athlete, of course, but I like people who keep themselves in shape. It also says a lot about her personality--staying in shape takes a lot of determination and discipline.
• Short. This is a minor one, but I'm not very tall, so I'd prefer a girl who isn't, like, six feet tall or something like that. Maybe it's a wee bit shallow of me, but I think we're all allotted a bit of shallowness from time to time.
• Similar interests. She doesn't need to be exactly like me, but we do need something to talk about, right? I love to learn about new things, so she should bring something new to the table, but if she knows what Linux is, or likes cars that go fast, or can recite the specs of the Xbox 360, or discuss the technological aspects of the Google computing cluster ( ), then she's okay in my book. (And yes, that's kind of nerdy, but...so am I, so I imagine she'd have to be, too.)

[sadolakced acid]

being able to discuss books with her is a must.

like... 1984, and stuff.

[*disco infiltrator*]

Short. This is a minor one, but I'm not very tall, so I'd prefer a girl who isn't, like, six feet tall or something like that. Maybe it's a wee bit shallow of me, but I think we're all allotted a bit of shallowness from time to time.

Hahaha. Awww. How cute!
Geez, imagine you with a girl six feet tall....[/font]

[lilxroxy]

well. i'm just gnna say what my guy friends told me..

1) someone who doesn't care about physical appearance and refuse to drink anything besides water and eat salad without dressing.
» makes guys insecure as well
» another option off for inviting girls out
2) someone that shares the same interest.
» something to talk about. opinions blehh..
3) someone who's genuine from the inside
4) fit
» not like..super skinny or it won't be good to cuddle with
» not obese but someone that's fit like..in shape.

[teeblue]

someone you can hang with all the time and still hang with them the next day. They are happy that you are there with them.

[The Name's Billy]

she cant CONTROL you shes gotta give a guy his space and cant be the type that cheats but as long as shes got a nice personality its all good

[racoons > you]

personally, i want someone who will tell me when im talking bullshit, and be able to tell me why.

she needs to be able to stick to her guns, and be able to take someone on if they're out of line. self confidence is a must, i dont want someone who would just back down.

make me laugh... in a group... dont just sit back and let everyone else over shadow you... have a personality which brings itself to the front. i want someone who i can look at when we're all hanging outand think 'wow, shes with me. im a lucky bastard...'

dont have hang ups... i dont want lectures on smoking or drinking... you dont have to do it, just be content with others.

[SSJ Kenshin]

I liked this topic, but it kind of died down, so I think I am going to get it kick-started for Sammi.

I should preface this by saying that it was really tough to compile a list, and clearly, I don't feel a potential date must meet all of these requirements. I hesitate to even make a list of guidelines; but then again, I think to develop a good relationship, it's important to really note what you want. So I racked my brain and came up with a few basic, non-binding guidelines of what I like to see in young women. In no particular order:

• Fun. First and foremost, she has to be able to have a good time. Maybe this seems like an obvious trait, but I think a lot of time people really do overlook its importance. She can't be overly dramatic, or melodramatic. I'm a fairly relaxed person, and I like people who don't stress me out. I need to have a good time with her, be it something as simple as watching a DVD or playing Xbox. She should have a good sense of humor, too; note that making jokes herself is not a requirement, but being able to laugh and generally have a good time is.
  
  However, she should still be pretty mature, just not so mature that she forgets how much fun it is to be a kid.
• Not overly serious. Kind of goes along with being fun, but it's also important that she not be overly serious. Life is a big game, and people need to remember that. It's not that serious. Have fun while it lasts. Live in the present, not the past or the future.
• Intelligent. I like people I can talk to. It's cool if she's well-read, maybe able to engage in "philosophical" discussion or even debate. But I also don't want someone who goes out of her way to be intellectual. Those people are too fake. And to be honest, by smart, I mean that, given the option, I'd like the girl who can do integrals in her head, or talk about particle accelerators, or the Google computing cluster ( ), over one who is a "pseudo-intellectual". Hey, I like intellectual discussion, but I'm more of a math/science person myself, and I relate much better to people like that. (Not that the artsy-poetic types are bad...I just don't understand them. )
• Relaxed. I'm probably getting redundant, but a girl who is relaxed and at ease is key.
• Confident. Probably should be higher up on the list for emphasis, but recall that this list is not in any order. This is important. Confident people are much better at carrying themselves, and handle social interaction a lot better. They're also not whiny and bitchy and angsty towards life.
• Athletic. I like to run, move around, and so forth. She doesn't have to be a super athlete, of course, but I like people who keep themselves in shape. It also says a lot about her personality--staying in shape takes a lot of determination and discipline.
• Short. This is a minor one, but I'm not very tall, so I'd prefer a girl who isn't, like, six feet tall or something like that. Maybe it's a wee bit shallow of me, but I think we're all allotted a bit of shallowness from time to time.
• Similar interests. She doesn't need to be exactly like me, but we do need something to talk about, right? I love to learn about new things, so she should bring something new to the table, but if she knows what Linux is, or likes cars that go fast, or can recite the specs of the Xbox 360, or discuss the technological aspects of the Google computing cluster ( ), then she's okay in my book. (And yes, that's kind of nerdy, but...so am I, so I imagine she'd have to be, too.)

All of the above except for the height thing...I'm 6'7", but if fate leads me to a short woman, then so be it.

[*ranniel*]

someone who is good looking. smart. is someone to look up to.
^basically those, but the more good qualities the better.

[AnnahhbeL]

for a guy..

i would go with someone who has a good personality, a good heart, and be there whenever i need him to be there.

[dzbemark]

I LOVE SCENE GIRLS =]
i miss my ex, she was perfect =\

[NoSex]

Someone who doesn't suck. That's a start, huh?

[*swtcherriipie*]

I liked this topic, but it kind of died down, so I think I am going to get it kick-started for Sammi.

I should preface this by saying that it was really tough to compile a list, and clearly, I don't feel a potential date must meet all of these requirements. I hesitate to even make a list of guidelines; but then again, I think to develop a good relationship, it's important to really note what you want. So I racked my brain and came up with a few basic, non-binding guidelines of what I like to see in young women. In no particular order:

• Fun. First and foremost, she has to be able to have a good time. Maybe this seems like an obvious trait, but I think a lot of time people really do overlook its importance. She can't be overly dramatic, or melodramatic. I'm a fairly relaxed person, and I like people who don't stress me out. I need to have a good time with her, be it something as simple as watching a DVD or playing Xbox. She should have a good sense of humor, too; note that making jokes herself is not a requirement, but being able to laugh and generally have a good time is.
  
  However, she should still be pretty mature, just not so mature that she forgets how much fun it is to be a kid.
• Not overly serious. Kind of goes along with being fun, but it's also important that she not be overly serious. Life is a big game, and people need to remember that. It's not that serious. Have fun while it lasts. Live in the present, not the past or the future.
• Intelligent. I like people I can talk to. It's cool if she's well-read, maybe able to engage in "philosophical" discussion or even debate. But I also don't want someone who goes out of her way to be intellectual. Those people are too fake. And to be honest, by smart, I mean that, given the option, I'd like the girl who can do integrals in her head, or talk about particle accelerators, or the Google computing cluster ( ), over one who is a "pseudo-intellectual". Hey, I like intellectual discussion, but I'm more of a math/science person myself, and I relate much better to people like that. (Not that the artsy-poetic types are bad...I just don't understand them. )
• Relaxed. I'm probably getting redundant, but a girl who is relaxed and at ease is key.
• Confident. Probably should be higher up on the list for emphasis, but recall that this list is not in any order. This is important. Confident people are much better at carrying themselves, and handle social interaction a lot better. They're also not whiny and bitchy and angsty towards life.
• Athletic. I like to run, move around, and so forth. She doesn't have to be a super athlete, of course, but I like people who keep themselves in shape. It also says a lot about her personality--staying in shape takes a lot of determination and discipline.
• Short. This is a minor one, but I'm not very tall, so I'd prefer a girl who isn't, like, six feet tall or something like that. Maybe it's a wee bit shallow of me, but I think we're all allotted a bit of shallowness from time to time.
• Similar interests. She doesn't need to be exactly like me, but we do need something to talk about, right? I love to learn about new things, so she should bring something new to the table, but if she knows what Linux is, or likes cars that go fast, or can recite the specs of the Xbox 360, or discuss the technological aspects of the Google computing cluster ( ), then she's okay in my book. (And yes, that's kind of nerdy, but...so am I, so I imagine she'd have to be, too.)

Awww im glad you took the time to write this down! Thats so cute.

[*chaneun*]

I don't like long hair on guys. :)

Personality wise? Nice, dependable, trusting, honest, not a hypocrite.
oh, and talented too, unless you're John Agnello. <333

[NoSex]

I don't like long hair on guys. :)

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

I like guys who play guitar. I love musical guys. And a guy who's as interested in videogames as I am! We can verse each other . And a guy who knows how to take care of girls. Niether mature nor immature. I also love guys who can cook. It's kinda funny!

and doesn't listen to rap!

[racoons > you]

Someone who doesn't suck. That's a start, huh?

im immature, and that made me laugh.

*sigh*

[radhikaeatsraman]

I'm going to say the qualities I want in a boyfriend, since I'm a straight girl.
(I will compile my list a la Michael.)

• Intelligent - Stupid people piss me off. Besides, I should be able to discuss politics and philosophy and all that jazz with him. I also like a good debate.
• Funny - He has to make me laugh. If he cannot be witty and make me laugh and he's extremely boring, then no way.
• Mature - He can be wacky and silly, but there's a limit. I'm pretty mature for my age, and I won't tolerate him if he's going to act like a baby all the time.
• Wordly - I love different cultures and people, and I'm willing to try anything at least once. I think worldly people are so interesting and cool, very good to have a conversation with.

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