he sed im boring :(, hes gonna brake up wit me plz help! |
  |
 Feb 17 2006, 10:34 PM
Post
#1
|
|
 DING DONG.  Group: Member Posts: 162 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 131,900  |
ok. on the internet i pretend to be this girl rite? and i started to talk to my bf on the girls sn but he didnt know it was me. he was like i have to tell you somthing. then i was like what what? remember im on the girls sn he dusnt knoe hes talking to me his gf. then he was like i want to break up with siena (thats me) then i was like why? on the grls sn and he was like becuz shes boring. i know why he sed it too. on the internet i never make any topics to talk about about or when he says gess u i say i donno. so plz guys help me be not borin gon the comp. give me some topics that we could talk about that arnt boring. cuz i really like him. and i know he likes me but i cant stop being nervous and being boring. which im not boring at alll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP ME PLEASE GIVE ME SOME YOPICS AND ADVICE!!
|
|
|
|
|
Feb 17 2006, 10:39 PM
Post
#2
|
|
 ^_^ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,141 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,466 |
You might very well be boring. Or, you two may not be compatible. Sure, you care about him, but if a breakup happens it happens. Either talk to him about it, or just expect the expected.
Good luck. |
|
|
|
|
Feb 17 2006, 10:58 PM
Post
#3
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 628 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,376 |
well, you can't really change your own personality. just talk to him more i guess, try to. talk about anything, be random. if you want to save your relationship, you'd have to seem like you're making an effort to talk to him alot to show that you care. good luck
|
|
|
|
|
Feb 17 2006, 11:06 PM
Post
#4
|
|
 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
^yeah, don't change yourself for him. try doing more interesting things?
if all fails, dump him before he dumps you :] |
|
|
|
| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Feb 17 2006, 11:10 PM
Post
#5
|
|
Guest |
I say, try to bring new topics into the conversation. I guess you can ask him "so what's up". One of the best ways to start a conversation is to tell him about something you saw/heard today. Or; instead of talking online why not talk on the phone? Sure it'll be a risk of many minutes. But it'll all be worth it if you use them wisely. Good luck; tell me how it goes.
|
|
|
|
| *tweeak* |
Feb 17 2006, 11:13 PM
Post
#6
|
|
Guest |
Interesting people spell things correctly
 But no, I'm not unpleasant. Well, obviously he found you interesting enough to go out with in the first place, so make the effort to say and do new things now. |
|
|
|
|
Feb 18 2006, 08:51 AM
Post
#7
|
|
 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
o_O; He's going to break up with you because you're boring and not even give you a chance?! And he's telling some random girl (that you're pretending to be) about it!? Why are you going out with someone that immature?
|
|
|
|
| *Blow_Don't_SUCK* |
Feb 18 2006, 10:57 AM
Post
#8
|
|
Guest |
QUOTE(tweeak @ Feb 17 2006, 11:13 PM)  Well, obviously he found you interesting enough to go out with in the first place, so make the effort to say and do new things now. I agree. Try to make the best of it, but don't try so hard that you're not even yourself. Besides, if he really dumps you afterwards, just move on. It's not like you guys were expected to get married. |
|
|
|
|
Feb 18 2006, 11:26 AM
Post
#9
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
you guys should hang out more [like start going to the movies, sit outside and such] idk b/c i live in NYC and theres alot of options to do lol.. but anyways, talk to him [tell him the truth that you were the girl that he was talking to online] and say that you WANT to work it out.. you cant keep everything hidden from him.
|
|
|
|
| *swtcherriipie* |
Feb 18 2006, 11:31 AM
Post
#10
|
|
Guest |
O.o Thtas realy silly lol...
|
|
|
|
|
Feb 20 2006, 01:07 AM
Post
#11
|
|
 Sing to Me Group: Member Posts: 1,825 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,808 |
anybody else see something wrong with her pretending to be this girl? even if he doesn't break up with you for being boring, he's gonna get really mad at you for tricking him into telling you stuff while pretending to be this random girl.
and asking for topics to be not boring sounds sort of pathetic, i'm sorry. you can't even think of one topic? we could suggest you talk about quantum physics or classical literature. you need to rethink your relationship. if you had something in common, you could think of one thing. |
|
|
|
|
Feb 20 2006, 01:27 AM
Post
#12
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 74 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 214,397 |
okay, first of all...if he's your boyfriend, why would u need to pretend to be another girl ?
 i mean , c'mon.. you guys are a couple.. talk to him.. PLEASE. and how did he manage to tell a stranger about this stuff... perhaps he finds the stranger, which is YOU, more interesting? talk to him like you would talk to him as the other girl. a good topic to talk about : the weather. HAAA jokes. - school ( sounds kinda lame, but it works ) - family? - something funny/interesting that happend to you today... - ask him about his day...what he did...ask why when appropriate. yea .. if all esle fails.... THATS LIFE! |
|
|
|
|
Feb 20 2006, 07:18 AM
Post
#13
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,476 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 135,305 |
try to talk to him more;)
|
|
|
|
|
Feb 20 2006, 11:19 AM
Post
#14
|
|
 Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
Someone cannot tell you how to be interesting, that's something you have to do on your own. Just talk, talk about anything. It helps if you have some intelligence, the more you know the more you can talk about. It was a little bad of you to spy on him, instead of talking to him directly.
|
|
|
|
| *mipadi* |
Feb 20 2006, 03:51 PM
Post
#15
|
|
Guest |
A lot of people I know are somewhat boring to talk to online, but a lot of fun in real life. If he's basing his interest purely on how you behave online, you don't seem to have a very solid relationship.
|
|
|
|
| *disco infiltrator* |
Feb 20 2006, 04:15 PM
Post
#16
|
|
Guest |
You're sneaky!
This reminds me of one of my friends who had someone say that as the reason for not liking them. |
|
|
|
|
Feb 20 2006, 04:37 PM
Post
#17
|
|
 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,055 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 174,796 |
QUOTE(BrandonSaunders @ Feb 17 2006, 10:39 PM) You might very well be boring. Or, you two may not be compatible. Sure, you care about him, but if a breakup happens it happens. Either talk to him about it, or just expect the expected. Good luck. ^agreed. Maybe he just said that b/c it sounded like you were being flirty, and it was his way of saying he wanted to hook up with the girl who's sn it was...but idk |
|
|
|
| *xcaitlinx* |
Feb 20 2006, 04:55 PM
Post
#18
|
|
Guest |
when you're in a relationship you shouldn't have to constantly think of something to talk about. in my opinion, you guys obviously aren't compatible. do you guys have nothing to talk about JUST online? or is it also in person? it might just be the circumstances...if you guys are fine talking on the phone and in person then i don't think you have too much to worry about. talk to him about it and see how he feels about the situation...you might be able to work it out. =]
|
|
|
|
|
Feb 20 2006, 05:04 PM
Post
#19
|
|
|
c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
umm...so you're not boring right? you're just nervous right? then just explain to him that you get nervous around him...lols...just tell him straight up that you get nervous around him. maybe he'll understand your situation..and when you're talking to him...just chill out and talk to him as if he were just one of your guy pals. just have some confidence in yourself. positive thoughts help A LOT. its so simple but it helps sooo much! lols if he doesn't understand your situation and he still wants to break up with you then maybe he's just a donkey and he really wasn't meant for you... blehh. thats all i can do for you right now with the facts i have...lols i wish you the best of luck
|
|
|
|
|
Feb 20 2006, 10:12 PM
Post
#20
|
|
|
Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 129 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 320,404 |
aw even if you like him a lot, it's not so great to change yourself. you don't think you're boring, but apparently he thinks you are. some things just don't work out. if you like him so much, maybe you can talk about what he likes? sports maybe? hope it all works out.
|
|
|
|
|
Feb 20 2006, 10:47 PM
Post
#21
|
|
 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(Endless_Symphony @ Feb 20 2006, 1:07 AM) anybody else see something wrong with her pretending to be this girl? i agree... honey, maybe you should try talking to your boyfriend instead of pretending to be some other girl... i cannot stress this to enough people but don't change yourself for anyone but yourself. you don't know if he's "the one" and it's not your fault that he's bored with you unless you either don't talk or speak in monotone. plus, why is he telling that to "some girl" instead of you? be with someone who wants you because of you not because of someone you're not or because of your ability to change your personality/features/whatever just to please them. if you keep changing who you are then you're going to lose sight of yourself. i don't know you but i'm sure that who you are is a hell of a lot more appealing than whoever you can imitate. but just give it one more chance. try being more talkative to him and talk about things you're passionate about. if that doesn't interest him then whatever, it will interest someone else. |
|
|
|
|
Feb 21 2006, 06:09 AM
Post
#22
|
|
 in the reverb chamber. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,022 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 300,308 |
Suggest playing Katamari Damacy or the ever supurior in game play, but lacking in the music department, We Heart Katamari.
|
|
|
|
|
Feb 21 2006, 09:11 PM
Post
#23
|
|
|
to hell with you Group: Member Posts: 2,547 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,506 |
dump him before he dumps you.
|
|
|
|
|
Feb 21 2006, 09:38 PM
Post
#24
|
|
 Oh Goddamnit. Group: Member Posts: 711 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 46,884 |
Talk about sex or something of the like. That always sparks up some interesting conversations.
|
|
|
|
|
Feb 22 2006, 11:08 PM
Post
#25
|
|
 ilikeyouSofreakingmuch. Group: Member Posts: 2,014 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 643 |
I just talk about funny past experiences, what's going on with my friends/family, school, music, sports, etcetc there's so many topics, you cant possibly have NOTHING to say
|
|
|
|
|
2 User(s) are reading this topic (2 Guests and 0 Anonymous Users)
0 Members: