its not right to sey i love ya if you dont mean it, is it?x_X Options

[NgocQuyen]

ok...so i have a friend...and like...her and her bf have been goin out fer 3 months.... they rarely get to see eachother but its ok because they love eachother right?and thas all that matters but outa tha blue...he str8 break ups with her...and he's all like...'tha long distance thing isnt werking for me' omigosh!!if he really LOVED her like he sed he did...that wouldnt matter would it?! come on pplz....ya gotta give me some luvin....=] atleast tell mehh if im rite or wrong omigosh...seriously...when my friend told me they broke up...i cryed....they were so0o0o cute together!!!!

[LiNHy POO]

this happened with my friend too!!! but i dont really think he loved her... i know she did! she was crying in math today cuz of him!

[*Kathleen*]

Ugh. Why do people do that? People are just so...incompetent, and don't quite comprehend what you're saying to someone when they say those three little words. Hey - no matter how little they are, they still mean a whole lot.

I remember my ex used to tell me he loved me. Hah. Then he cheated on me. I told him I loved him as well, because I really liked him. Anyways, I learned my lesson after that...whenever I'm going out with someone, I'll wait before I say it. Heh. My last boyfriend, we went out for three months and we spent a lot of time together...I didn't love him, and I knew it, so I didn't say it.

[tinababy143]

i agree..he shouldn't have said it if he didn't mean it..my boyyfriend and i have been together for a little over a year and i live in san francisco and he lives in san diego and we love each other..but also..that word gets thrown around SO MUCH..people think they are in love when it is realli infatuation or lust..

[x0 sweetsorrow]

i agree with everybody. he shouldnt have said he loved her if he didnt mean it. ive only ever said i love you to one person. its not something to just throw around. yeah...

[twistedfate]

hey, i am the person who lilxl0ser was talking about in this topic. All of this actually just happened recently. he told me he loved me and that he never wanted to let me go. i mean isn't it ironic that he broke up with me when he told me never to let him go????

[NgocQuyen]

this happened with my friend too!!! but i dont really think he loved her... i know she did! she was crying in math today cuz of him!

lols!!!!!yea...i getchu...but i have a thing with ppl...they just cant cry for long when im arounds!!!lols!!isnt that rite coley?!?!?!=] ehhehehe but omigosh!!!why would someone sey they love you but not mean it!!!how can anyone be so cruel!?!??!?!

[twistedfate]

rite how could they be so mean?!?!?!?!?!?!?!??! o well like about twenty thousand other ppl have told me, there are plenty of other fish in the sea....but i want the wun i had!!! haha

[NgocQuyen]

lols...cOLeyyyyyy i myss jOsHeEeee =[ ......my sich isnt as bad as yurs though huh.....anywho...he prolly dont even care no more...gee i wish i never met him!!!ok i take that back....he's awesome....but he dont kno that i think that....har har har...suckerss....;] lols........i am not tha type of person tah love nah mean?!?! im juz suppose to be....blacksheep...outkast...'tha single one' lols...=]

[Fatality]

He didn't love her. I learned my lesson with those words. You have to trust the right people and be sure there feeling the same way. Took me a while to believe my boyfriend..we've been going out for a little over 7 months..but I rarely say it because I'm afraid of what will happen in the end..So

He didn't really love her. He was just wanting some..another thing I learned..sometimes guys will say they love you for some BoOtY!

My opnion and not all guys are like that

-Illusion-

[twistedfate]

AWw thank you Quyennie. I think he may have been FOND of me or just couldn't make a damn decision for himself but...it's all good

[NgocQuyen]

AWw thank you Quyennie. I think he may have been FOND of me or just couldn't make a damn decision for himself but...it's all good

i dont get wutchu thanking me about but thanks yu!!!!yur a doll...;] coley...i think yur tha strongest person on earth....im sho proud of you...it took me FOREVER to get over josh [as yu've prolly noticed] lols!!yur awesome...and i heart ya!;]

[twistedfate]

thank you for everything is what i mean!!! ur the best

[NgocQuyen]

lols!!!i am tha bomb!!!i just sed i didnt LOVE josé i only LIKED him!!!which is so totally true!!!see!!!!if I can do et!!why cant them stupid guys do it!!!!omigosh!!!!see i dont throw tha werd around like its a bunch ov rubbish!!!!lols....anywho...yur so welcome coley...after all yu've done a whole lot more for me then me to you....x]

[hOeyx3]

i think its so much freakinq bullshit when people say they love each other when clearly, they don`t, you know? i mean, i`ve said i loved quys a lot in the past, but that was back in what? middle school? screw that haha.. buti can truly say that i love/d someone. i hate it when couples JUST qet toqether and they`re like.. "i LOVE YOU BABY" nd all this other shit. they really need to just shut the fudge up. but anywho, if you don`t really feel/mean it when someone says that they love you, talk it throuqh with them. or that you like them a lot but you don`t love them .. yet? haha

[EmeraldKnight]

i think its so much freakinq bullshit when people say they love each other when clearly, they don`t, you know? i mean, i`ve said i loved quys a lot in the past, but that was back in what? middle school? screw that haha.. buti can truly say that i love/d someone. i hate it when couples JUST qet toqether and they`re like.. "i LOVE YOU BABY" nd all this other shit. they really need to just shut the fudge up. but anywho, if you don`t really feel/mean it when someone says that they love you, talk it throuqh with them. or that you like them a lot but you don`t love them .. yet? haha 

I dont know.. I think the problem is, that as teenagers, we're not completely sure what love is, and may perceive a crush or infatuation as "love", and yeah.. then the word and the meaning get all mangled and abused.. i mean.. love.. is just so ambiguous, how can one tell if its realli love or not? there's a lot of confusion involved..

[hOeyx3]

I dont know.. I think the problem is, that as teenagers, we're not completely sure what love is, and may perceive a crush or infatuation as "love", and yeah.. then the word and the meaning get all mangled and abused.. i mean.. love.. is just so ambiguous, how can one tell if its realli love or not? there's a lot of confusion involved..

yeah, i totally aqree. i used to throw the word around because i had a crush on some hot quy, i`d be like "omq i love him" or whatever.. people just say the word so much it lost so much meaninq. i said it to someone i truly loved and he didn`t even know how to interpret it. like, how i meant it or whatever. it wus just bullshit hah. but yeah, i totally aqree with you

[Winter]

People shouldn't say things they don;t mean. Thy just others hope. And when they're bored of it already, they just leave. And other othr person is left depressed or in disbelief.

[*CEP*]

I love you guys!!!


But yeah, kids really shouldn't say what they don't mean. That's why adults rarely trust us anymore.

- Chinkieeyedpnoi

[melface]

I disagree... sort of... Distance between two people in a relationship is something really hard to deal with... even if you love them... you might need to let them go... because you want to hug them or kiss them or whatever... and because of that distance... you cannot... and that really has an effect on both or just one person in a relationship... Love fades... and it doesn't last forever... especially in a long distance relationship... In your friend's case... it was just three months... the guy is a prick... Love takes a bit longer than just three months in order to just stop loving someone.... Also... there is something I need to mention.... You do know there's a difference between being IN love or just loving someone, right?

[ThePrincessofTKD]

I disagree... sort of... Distance between two people in a relationship is something really hard to deal with... even if you love them... you might need to let them go... because you want to hug them or kiss them or whatever... and because of that distance... you cannot... and that really has an effect on both or just one person in a relationship... Love fades... and it doesn't last forever... especially in a long distance relationship... In your friend's case... it was just three months... the guy is a prick... Love takes a bit longer than just three months in order to just stop loving someone.... Also... there is something I need to mention.... You do know there's a difference between being IN love or just loving someone, right?

such wisdom!...that`s really true..

i say..you just need to observe those couples "in love" and learn from their mistakes on love..

or just try it out yourself. it won`t hurt THAT MUCH. it just makes you a better person. that`s what i know so far..

This post has been edited by ThePrincessofTKD: May 21 2004, 05:03 PM

[illuminessence]

Sometimes, ppl feel as if it is the right thing to do when in a situation like that. Maybe it was too painful for him. Either that or he's a total jackass. If he loved her, he'd do it for the sake of ending the pain. If he really loved her, he would've stayed with her. It all depends on his reason behind it.

[x hYpErRoSeY x]

if he really luved her i dun think he woulda broke up with her just lyk that- unless of something else

[Caitlin]

i made the mistake of telling someone i loved them but they said that they truly loved me but obviously they didnt.
love is too complicated at times

[rOckThISshYt]

well, i think long distance relationships could really be hard. i mean even if you love each other. it could be worse that way cuz you always want to see each other but you rarly can. i mean, i would hate that. i think it might have just hurt too much for him. maybe he was hoping it'd be better and easier for both of them.