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 Jan 27 2006, 08:51 PM
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i feel like a crappy girl friend. when i do have a boyfriend, i feel weird...
like when i'm out alone with my bf, i feel kind of nervous, cause sometimes theres nothing to talk about! and also, i dont like getting close to guys physically, as in making out. but yeah... anyone else feel this way? |
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Jan 27 2006, 08:56 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
You're scared and nervous.
Maybe a past experience has made you like this? Just try to relax and have fun. |
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Jan 27 2006, 10:07 PM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
^ Yeah that's basically all I can think of.
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Jan 27 2006, 10:13 PM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
I feel that way when i think i'm not good enough for him.
You should think: he's out with you = he likes you = you ARE good enough for him. |
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Jan 27 2006, 10:17 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,746 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,125 |
First of all, how old are you?
We need this information. If you're 12, it makes sense that you aren't into making out. If you're going into late teenage years, it can become more of a discussion. |
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Jan 27 2006, 10:34 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
QUOTE(K!$$ @ Jan 27 2006, 10:13 PM) You should think: he's out with you = he likes you = you ARE good enough for him.  agreed. just relax, and have fun. if you're not ready to be physical then tell him you're not ready |
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Jan 28 2006, 04:29 PM
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 "my girls rock balenciaga and smoke mad marijuana" Group: Member Posts: 2,089 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,049 |
nope sorry i dont feel this way.
whenever im out with a guy im always myself. i dont get nervious cause if you really like the guy why woudl you? and i dotn get why you dont like being physical. its kinda something you do. not as in making out alone.. but as in holding hands, hugging and stuff? im confused about this topic tho. |
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Jan 28 2006, 04:40 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
It depends for me. If he likes me, I get uncomfortable because of things that have happened to me previously. And I know I shouldnt judge boys based on others, but when its happened more than twice with boys who seem so nice, I dont know what to expect
If its a boy I like, and he doesnt like me ( or doesnt know I like him ) any of my guy friends or any boys in general im just myself, and im comfortable. Its normal to feel a little bit weird if its the first few dates. But after a while I see no reason why you would be uncomfortable around him. As for getting uncomfortableness physical, it means you are just not ready to engage in sexual activity yet. |
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Jan 28 2006, 06:08 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
QUOTE(K!$$ @ Jan 27 2006, 10:13 PM) I feel that way when i think i'm not good enough for him. You should think: he's out with you = he likes you = you ARE good enough for him. yeahh there you go! he wouldn't be with you if he didn't have some sort of feelings towards you. =] |
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Jan 28 2006, 06:40 PM
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 Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
That doesn't mean you're a crappy girlfriend, it means you're not very confident in yourself, or you just really don't like the guy.
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Jan 28 2006, 06:53 PM
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 o.x Group: Member Posts: 89 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 78,026 |
There's two possibilities I can think of;;
1. You just aren't ready, too young and nieve. Time will come. or 2. Possibly look into the question of being a lesbian? I would only consider this if you were older, like someone else said, not 12 or something. |
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Jan 28 2006, 07:15 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
maybe you're not comfortable enough with the boy to be dating him.
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Jan 28 2006, 07:44 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(sheepy @ Jan 28 2006, 7:15 PM) maybe you're not comfortable enough with the boy to be dating him. i agree, maybe what you're looking for just isn't in this guy. you should be able to be who you are when you're in a relationship. sure things are awkward in the beginning because the relationship is shiny and new. but eventually, you should be able to get through that phase. just talk about things you like, your hobbies, your favorite sports, ask him what he likes, etc. after all...what kind of relationship will it be if you can't communicate and tell him what's on your mind? |
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Jan 28 2006, 10:59 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 185 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 365,309 |
Yeah, Im totally like that. Ive never made out with anyone cause Im so freaking P**sy to
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Jan 29 2006, 02:39 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 129 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 320,404 |
out of all girls he chose you...
so open up to him be yourself see him as like any of your good close friends get comfortable. TRY :) |
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