Aftermath of a long term realationship |
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 Jan 23 2006, 11:56 PM
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 mmm... coffee ;]  Group: Member Posts: 65 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,845  |
How do you cope with breaking up in a long term realationships?
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Jan 24 2006, 12:40 AM
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eat chocolate, be emo, get a new girlfriend/boyfriend
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Jan 24 2006, 12:45 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 279 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,406 |
only time can heal
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Jan 24 2006, 04:48 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
I can't.. at least, not yet.
Meanwhile i like to gobble chocolate and Pringles chips and torture myself with all the memories (specific songs/places/etc). |
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Jan 24 2006, 10:40 AM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
QUOTE(salcha @ Jan 24 2006, 12:40 AM) eat chocolate, be emo, get a new girlfriend/boyfriend  Yep Yep! |
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Jan 24 2006, 11:24 AM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
With my first love, I got ova him when I just stopped all contact with him for a year. We recently saw each other and now good friends. Oh, and I occupied myself with a new bf which is now my longest relationship and still goin strong. u just needa get out there.
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Jan 24 2006, 03:25 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
QUOTE(mouse_3k @ Jan 24 2006, 11:24 AM) With my first love, I got ova him when I just stopped all contact with him for a year. i agree...that's how i get over people sometimes. you have to gold cold turkey for awhile. when i do go cold turkey, i think of all the reasons why it ended and what was wrong with him. i also think about what i can improve on with myself. but ultimately, it helps to just let it all out now. if you try ignoring the pain, it will be a bigger kick in the pants later... |
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Jan 24 2006, 03:48 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 75 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 280,479 |
problems like that, i dont eat anything, i just starve and i just stay in my room, and dont really do anything but think, i cant function right when i feel like that. i hate it. is that normal?
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Jan 24 2006, 05:39 PM
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 Day's Nearly Over Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,553 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,183 |
QUOTE(K!$$ @ Jan 24 2006, 5:48 AM) ... torture myself with all the memories (specific songs/places/etc). Yeah. That's exaclty how I deal with it. 
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Jan 24 2006, 06:18 PM
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QUOTE(Chii @ Jan 24 2006, 4:25 PM) i agree...that's how i get over people sometimes. you have to gold cold turkey for awhile. when i do go cold turkey, i think of all the reasons why it ended and what was wrong with him. i also think about what i can improve on with myself. but ultimately, it helps to just let it all out now. if you try ignoring the pain, it will be a bigger kick in the pants later... yup, yup. only safe way to cope in my opionion. |
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Jan 24 2006, 08:53 PM
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 Word. Group: Member Posts: 3,004 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,673 |
after my first love, it was also a long relationship..
i got really emo but usually when i was with myself, i didnt like to show it in public but then eventually i started tlaking to my friends about it and then I talked to her.. i just started to be in agrees like to be friends and what not... we broke up last november and we talk soo much now, we talk soo much, it's like we never broke up but were always best friends |
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Jan 25 2006, 11:09 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
you just need to have fun..party with your friends..and go home with numbers
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Jan 25 2006, 03:22 PM
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its really hard. And seeing him everyday at school ( we have 2 classes together) doesn't help either.
I don't know. Just occupy yourself. |
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Jan 25 2006, 06:16 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
QUOTE(Chii @ Jan 24 2006, 3:25 PM) i agree...that's how i get over people sometimes. you have to gold cold turkey for awhile. when i do go cold turkey, i think of all the reasons why it ended and what was wrong with him. i also think about what i can improve on with myself. but ultimately, it helps to just let it all out now. if you try ignoring the pain, it will be a bigger kick in the pants later... i should try that i just ended my long distance and long term relationship with my ex. he was cheating on me and i found out from the weirdest way. but i am not just killing myself with the memories and stuff |
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Jan 25 2006, 07:09 PM
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Well; my friends always say I should avoid the person I break up with for a while. After all; what you can't see can't hurt you. So I guess being distant can help die down the temptation for more.
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Mar 4 2006, 11:16 PM
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 banangst ♥ Group: Member Posts: 727 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 237,399 |
when my bf broke up with his ex after a years relationship.
he sobbed at home for around 2-3 months until he started going out with me. missed school, fooked grades. |
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Mar 5 2006, 02:10 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 185 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 365,309 |
Im not the kind of person to show emotion, unless everything gets too much, then i start breaking down in front of everyone :| but i tend to try & have fun instead, just get really busy to keep my mind of off it.
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Mar 5 2006, 03:29 PM
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whenever i had a long term relationship and we ended up breaking up;
we tried to stay good friends. but that didn't work out because he was still very into me and i was trying to get over him. so we just completely stopped talking or anything. eventually i got a new boyfriend who i'm very in love with and i gradually started talking to my ex again and now we're really good friends; we even ask each other for relationship help. we both bring up some things about the past and it's not even awkward. |
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Mar 5 2006, 06:44 PM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
Avoid all contact. This means no talking, no going to places where you know they'll be there, don't "accidentally" bump into them...just...pretend they never existed.
Treasure the memories, but don't dwell on them. If it helps, throw away everything that they gave you...if you'd like to keep them, stash it somewhere where you know you'll never go look for it. Occupy yourself somehow...learn something new, take a new class, organize your closet...do something to occupy your time. Time will heal all wounds, but you can help to speed it up by not thinking about them. What I did to get over him was to do this: everything I caught myself thinking about him, or us together, or anythign that tied the two of us together, I would force myself to think of three different things that are totally unrelated to him. Also, if I caught myself looking for him, I would force myself to look for someone else instead...anything to do with him, I just replaced with something else. Eventually it got to the point where he didn't exist in my mind. |
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Mar 6 2006, 03:39 PM
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 im not crazy im just a lil unwell... Group: Member Posts: 88 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 382,236 |
i dunno about yall but listening to music and writing it always helps me just so that u know that other people go through the same thing and try to keep occupied
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Mar 6 2006, 04:51 PM
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 roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
try to find a hobby..comfort food more comfort food..make a "good riddance list"..list all the bad things about him/her..like "Stupid sweatshirt he wears all the time!" etc.. ( i got this one of a book, the idea is funny )
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Mar 6 2006, 04:57 PM
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QUOTE(salcha @ Jan 24 2006, 12:40 AM) eat chocolate, be emo, get a new girlfriend/boyfriend haha that's what I would do |
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Mar 9 2006, 06:12 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀) Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477 |
its been a year and no, i am still not over him.
=( |
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Mar 9 2006, 09:52 AM
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 × Dead as Dillinger. ♥ Group: Member Posts: 1,527 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,615 |
I really take it hard.
My current boyfriend has broken up with me FOUR times. But I keep going back to him because I just love him. It's hard to explain. I've created such a strong emotional bond that it seems impossible for me to be with anyone else. Call me a little psycho, but.. At first when he broke up with me I was SO pissed. Like, swearing everything to hell. But then I got majorly depressed. Like it was my fault. I think What did I do wrong? I go through everything we went through in my head and it just makes me cry, thinking that it will never happen again. I guess I'm just trying to be happy now with him but I'm so paranoid..even if I tell him I'm not. But to sum up all that mush, I take it pretty hard like any normal girl. I talk too much. |
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Mar 9 2006, 07:49 PM
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 </3 Group: Member Posts: 1,113 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 106,746 |
I usually get really depressed. But I talk to some friends, write and other things.
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