Want my mom to stop forcing me.. Options

[vehvih]

to believe in God and go to Church.

Talked to her already ... but nothing made a difference.

How the hell can I do this?

[i_liek_sushi]

I don't think we can say anything that'll make a difference.

But try telling her you're Jewish.

[illumineering]

You might try involving yourself in other activities of "similar" value rather than going to church. Try volunteering for a local non-profit, soup kitchen, or other organization that helps people in need. Cut the grass or shovel show for an elderly neighbor who can't. See if your mom will agree to view these activities as substitutes for attending church.

[vehvih]

...

Seconds ago, my sister just called me a demon for not attending the mass or not believing in God...

She's 18.

I've been encountering people like this.

[DaTru KataLYST]

...

Seconds ago, my sister just called me a demon for not attending the mass or not believing in God...

She's 18.

I've been encountering people like this.

Sounds like that Trading Spouses show... =/

[i_liek_sushi]

damn, are you guys Korean?

Korean people are so freakin (Christian) religious sometimes, like these friends I have.

[vehvih]

Well mine's real and not the shit at all.

[vehvih]

We are not Korean, we are Filipino.

Double post :p didn't mean..

[illumineering]

What about converting to Buddhism? They don't recognize God the way Christianity does and are free from a lot of the dogma as well. Theravada Buddhism is practiced in many southeast asian countries.

[vehvih]

I converted myself into an Atheist.

[topsyturvy]

If you talked to her and it didn't make any difference, just ignore her from now on. Don't let desperate Christians affect your way of life. As long as you're not committing crimes or whatever you're basically morally safe. There's no need to feel bad just because your overly-religious sister called you a demon for not believing in Jesus.

[misoshiru]

well there's not too much you can do. just go along with her to church and all, but it doesn't mean that you have to believe in god, nor do you have to care about what your sister calls you.

[EddieV]

You don't have to believe in God in order to be a good person. You can worship Satan and still be a good person.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

We are not Korean, we are Filipino.

Double post :p didn't mean..

hm same here. Filipino and Roman Catholic. My mom thinks I'm a satanist for listening to The Disturbed.... I keep it a secret from my parents that I'm an aetheist but maybe you could put a second chance on discussing it with her but this time go on depth? Don't go too much that you'll get disowned.

[richc]

it doesnt matter

if u call urself a christian

yet u are unwillling

u are not a christian at all

so u werent a christian from the beginning

[pshaa.shauna]

Oh Dear, religion is such a touchy subject. I have the same issue m'dear. My mother is a very religious person, but she doesn't talk about it constantly because my father doesn't share the exact same views. Well, my grandparents are scrit baptists, and they want me saved. They've already convinced my brother to be saved, and that's what he believes, but they are begging me. the only that's stopping them from dragging against my will is my father, who says I can make decisions for myself. I was atheist, but i'e thought, and i don't know what I am. I don't excatly believe in a God, but I'm not exactly ruleing out that there is something else out there.

Maybe you should try to explain your reasoning to your family. Explain all the reasons that you have come to this conclusion. if they still don't understand (which from their reactions, I don't think they will), tell them to back off you for awhile. That you have to think about it. That forcing you to go, and trying to force you to beleive, is making you resent Christianity, and that will deem you to hell. So if they really want to help, give you some time> tell them that there are plenty of people who have founf Christ as their savior when they were in their 30's or 40's. That it'll never be too late for you. Grant it, none of this will be true, but if they really believe in the Chrsitian faith, they should accept this answer.

And keep a bible by your bed, everytime they walk in at night, open it up and pretend you were reading it.


I know this isn't the most honest of solutions, but I don't really think anything else would really work.

[MzLoca]

Do they know that your considering yourself atheist?if so maybe thats why your getting the reaction you are?because i know a few friends (christian and catholic..im catholic) that have said their parents talk about how evil atheism is and how most people who are atheist are satanic and weird ..and a bunch of other stuff ,maybe try sitting your mom and sister down and approaching the situation in a different way then saying your atheist..i dont know man the whole religion subject is such a touchy thing and makes me go lol

[misoshiru]

it doesnt matter

if u call urself a christian

yet u are unwillling

u are not a christian at all

so u werent a christian from the beginning

she never CALLED herself christian. she explicitly states that she's ATHEIST. but her mom makes her go to church.

[vehvih]

They know that I don't believe in God unlike before and that I converted into an Atheist..,.

[Levy2k6]

well i dont think their is a way to stop forcing.. the best thing to do is just confort to the situation and it will eventually get better..

im hispanic and a catholic but i used to be like that a while ago... now i'm pretty good with going to church.. actually not going to actual mass but just the youth group.... i think i am a pretty good person but mass is not my thing... i just dont like going... i get used to it tho...

[*disco infiltrator*]

Instead of taking it in as a bad thing, look at it as a learning experience. The more you continue to attend, the more you learn about the side that is opposing to your views. Ask her if you can attend, just not participate in any of the praying or activities that require actual worship.

[shortiiex]

She has to resepct yur decisions but if she is really into her belifs..then there is nothign you can
In the book a Raisin In The Sun...there is a quote "In my mother's house there is still God"


so as long as you live in you mother's roof..there is nothign you can do.

[Gerifan04]

Well you have to look at it from her point of view. She's a mother and I think this could just be something out of love. If she's christian(I'm assuming she might be from your post) then she's just trying to make sure you're safe. In her belief system this means taking christ as your lord and saviour. But if you don't do this you're leading yourself straight to an eternity of torment in Hell. She just wants you to be safe and taken care of.

But while those are good things for a mother to do, it's not good that she's trying to force you to join a religion with beliefs that you don't agree with. But to her she sees nothing wrong with this. She doesn't want you to make the wrong descision so its not a bad thing in her eyes to try and pound some "sense" into your head. The best you can do is let her know that you respect her beliefs and her right to choose whatever belief system she chooses. But in doing that, you would like that she does the same for you. I doubt this will make much of a difference and you might have already said something similar. If after all this she still continues to try and force you to believe in her religion just walk away if you can. If you can't, just ignore her. She'll get mad but you've done all you can do.

Also, don't lie about your beliefs to please her. It might seem like the "easy" route but all it'll do is tell your mother that with a little persistence anyone can make someone believe what is "right" and that it is perfectly fine to do what she's doing. Good luck...

[aznxdreamer]

if your mom can't understand that not everyone believes in god, then just ignore her.

[Bridget_rules_4e...]

You kinda sound like me i converted to atheist.... butsept i was a jew... lol
I never told my family but i told my friends and they didnt care... Your sister called u a demon?!?! hmm just explain to your mom you dont want to be forced to go to church you have a right to believe in what you want... sorry thats the best i could think of.... it sounds like everyone else gots good ideas ... I'd listen to them....