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asking guys out...i need help!, whats the best way?
lAdDLuVeR1
post Dec 2 2005, 11:35 PM
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Alrighty, I've never gone out with a guy or even asked a guy I liked out. So, I've liked this guy for a few months now, and he hasnt asked me out. So now I want to ask him out, but I dont want to look like a complete idiot and mess it up. What do I do? How do I ask him out?
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 12:41 AM
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My advice;
Let him do the asking
Be nice, yet hard to get
He should be worked up, not you
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If that fails, just ask
Say something sweet attatched to it
Yet something from the heart
Never ask out a guy throguh im, phone
Do it in person
So much more sweet, romantic
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 01:45 AM
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i think its easiest to ask what their plans are first, find out when theyre free and then go from there.
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 07:53 AM
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just ask to hang out with him first
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 10:28 AM
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"Hey, do you want to go see a movie on Friday night?"
 
lAdDLuVeR1
post Dec 3 2005, 12:29 PM
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My advice;
Let him do the asking
Be nice, yet hard to get
He should be worked up, not you

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thats exactly how i feel. the guys should do the asking. He's been playing hard to get from the beginning and I started to about three months ago and when he asks for help in math, he looks really deep in my eyes and I know thats its working! So I really appreciate your reply!
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 12:54 PM
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QUOTE(mipadi @ Dec 3 2005, 10:28 AM)
"Hey, do you want to go see a movie on Friday night?"
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QUOTE(lAdDLuVeR1 @ Dec 3 2005, 12:29 PM)
My advice;
Let him do the asking
Be nice, yet hard to get
He should be worked up, not you

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thats exactly how i feel. the guys should do the asking. He's been playing hard to get from the beginning and I started to about three months ago and when he asks for help in math, he looks really deep in my eyes and I know thats its working! So I really appreciate your reply!
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maybe you only think that he's playing hard to get...after all, maybe he doesn't even know that you like him. girls are starting to ask guys out a lot more throughout the years. guys love it when girls ask them out.

i agree with mipadi, i was going to say something like that. go to the movies then get a little something to eat, then you can talk about the movie and god knows what thumbsup.gif
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 12:56 PM
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If you wait for the guy to ask you, you're only going to get more frustrated. I say just talk to him first, make him feel comfortable with you, and after a little bit, ask him out. Just keep it simple and sweet, nothing overdone. Just asking him is all you really need to do.
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 09:35 PM
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"hey, i was wondering, will u go out with me this (insert date) to (insert activity here) *smile flip hair smile*"

ta-da.

iono. keep it simple. don't worry. just think of it as asking them to go chill. except more feeling-ish.

guys usually do the asking, but hey, playing hard to get is bull. so gopher it.
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 10:11 PM
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I'm kinda with you.. about this "new-dated-before-like-this-guy-for-a-while-thinking-of-asking-him-out" senario. I want him to ask me, because I want to know that he likes me, not that he just said yea cause hes just nice like that. its weird.. my friends say he likes me, and is just too shy.. but after our witner dance at our school, if nothing happens.. i'm thinking of asking him
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 11:02 PM
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QUOTE(x3Death.By.Knife. @ Dec 3 2005, 11:11 PM)
I'm kinda with you.. about this "new-dated-before-like-this-guy-for-a-while-thinking-of-asking-him-out" senario. I want him to ask me, because I want to know that he likes me, not that he just said yea cause hes just nice like that. its weird.. my friends say he likes me, and is just too shy.. but after our witner dance at our school, if nothing happens.. i'm thinking of asking him
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OMG!! same thing with me!! At our Halloween dance, he danced with all my friends and all the girls but he never danced with me! and my friends say he isnt worth it to keep going on like this and not asking him out. But to me, he really is worth it. I'm also thinking of asking him. Plus, theres another dance coming up!
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 11:06 PM
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maybe he just doesn't think of you that way? most guys don't play hard to get. this might just be the guys i know, but it's usually that it's either obvious or it isn't. maybe you should try hanging out and being friends first...
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post Dec 3 2005, 11:38 PM
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Get a sharpie, and a big rock. Take the sharpie , and write, Will you go out with me in big block letters. Then sign it and throw it at his head.

Okay no. If you have the courage and (`scuse me) balls to really ask him out, then ask him out in person. If you like him enough you should be willing to take the lead and ask him.
 
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post Dec 3 2005, 11:57 PM
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Ummmm. A good way to test if He's really interested is to check or get your friends to check out if He checks u out in class etc. That's usually a good indicator.

But yeah, I'm guessing that he doesn't go through all the trouble of asking for help just for nothing if U KNO WAT I MEAN!
 
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post Dec 4 2005, 10:47 PM
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Go to a movie or the mall together and tell him you like him more than a friend. But don't get your hopes up too high because he might not like you back.
 
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post Dec 4 2005, 10:48 PM
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"Hey, you want to go out with me?"

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post Dec 5 2005, 12:43 AM
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im like really shy so i would probably like ask a friend or write a note cuz then there woulnt be that moment like after he says no it would be weird u know??
 
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post Dec 19 2005, 08:59 PM
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dont be straightup like DO U WANT TO GO OUT? ya noe.
say other stuff, like how u feel n bring it up like so yeah do u think we can give it a chance? n blah blah.
 
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post Dec 20 2005, 11:07 AM
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DON"T do a note whatever you do...you might not see his reaction for one thing and if you find it crumpled up in a garbage can later that day... mad.gif ...lol well it was like 6th grade and he was an a$$. but definitely ask in person.

just say "you wanna hang out on ___day? because i really wanted to *activity* but my friends alreday made plans." something like that...
 
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post Dec 20 2005, 07:38 PM
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hmm..you can probably led him on first to let hi, knwo what he is getting into
if he doesn't avoid the situtation..just ask him if you want to hang out?If yuo had a really good time,ask him out.
My friend "hanged out" with someone and now they're dating.
 
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post Dec 20 2005, 08:01 PM
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its no biggie. been there, done that.

be CASUAL..be SPECIFIC. with the clear date and activity. for example.

"hey, im going to watch (insert movie) this friday. You wanna come with me?"

its probably a really big deal to you, but you can't let him detect that. its probably better if you get a chance to be alone with him for just a minute or so. So you won't get embarassed if he says no.
 
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post Dec 20 2005, 10:25 PM
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I wouldn't recommend asking the guy out. Unless you're prepared for a 50 percent chance of happiness or a 50 percent chance of rejection. But if you have the guts to do it; then go ahead. Wait for the right moment where its just you two.
 
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post Jan 18 2006, 10:05 PM
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Just ask them if they would like to come with you to a movie or something, it's not that bad. I promise you can do it.
 
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post Jan 21 2006, 02:48 AM
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QUOTE(Ilaem @ Dec 3 2005, 12:41 PM)
My advice;
Let him do the asking
Be nice, yet hard to get
He should be worked up, not you
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That's what i live by _smile.gif
 

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