I'm in a pickle Options

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

I am in DECA and my teacher put me in a team event.
Today, I went over my partners house to study because only cool people study during winter break. Anywho, I went there and after studying for about half an hour, we got bored and started to watch the simpsons. We joked around and he was like "I know you just want to hold my hand" because he kept taking my favorite pencil and I was attempting to take it from him. We occasionally stopped horsing around and watched every so often. After some time, I punched him in his leg and he did it to me and then he grabbed my leg and I thought he was only joking around so I did it to him. He knows about me being gay and I knew (or at least I thought he was straight)so I didn't think to much of it. Mind you I have had a crush on him for a while (he's a senior and I'm a junior and he happens to be in my first period class and my gym class).

As my story goes on, after stealing my pencil back after a time and time, he's like, we are going out. He grabs my hands and we just hold hands and he's like, we're going out now and then he smiles. I still think he's just playing and then he rests his head on me and then I decide to take a picture of us because I am obsessive like that so I whip out my camera phone and take a picture of us. He steals my pencil again and then he lays back and is like if you want it come and get it, so I'm on him trying to get my pencil and then he's looking at me and kisses me. This is my first kiss after all and it was so sudden so I'm just sitting there like...woah did this really just happen? I stare at him again and then he pulls me in and we start to make out. We keep kissing and all and his family is home so we try to keep quiet. From time to time, we both jump up because we thought we heard something but we end up going back down. One of the times we are up, he tells me that he has a girlfriend and he tells me that he isn't gay, but he's bi and no one knows. I personally think he is just curious and wanted to experiment. He told me to promise him not to tell anyone about what happened (but cB doesn't count :-D).

We aren't that good of friends so I'm not sure why he trusts me with that, but things eventually go on and things get a little out of PG-13, but not too far so you guys don't need to worry about that part. Anyway, after we are done we are talking and he deletes the picture of us on my phone and is like "uh this is kind of creepy" (which I do admit is) and then we go down to his basement to work on some homework. He seems ok with everything, but I was a little jumpy because the day of my first kiss a lot more happened then I thought would. We don't hang out at all outside of school and we do talk from time to time at school, but I'm just worried what's going to happen when break is over. For me, it seems like everything I wanted is comming together and I know that this is too good to be true. After writing this, it sounds so fake to me, but I know it happened.

So basically, what am I supposed to do? I like him a lot, but I don't want him to know how I feel because besides the fact that he does have a girlfriend, I don't want him freaking out or anything and I'm really worried about things being diffrent during school. We only talked during school, and to go from saying hi every so often to making out and doing other such things is kind of shocking for me. Any opinions?

[*anubis*]

and i thought i had an interesting day.

you're right--he was obviously curious and experimenting considering he kinda passed the "joking around" sign by about a hundred miles.

but people sometimes spontaneously do things like that without much thought to it and then have sheer regrets or insecurity about it afterwards.

my advice would be to not talk about it. not even to him. at least not yet. it's making him uncomfortable to think about what he has done so don't mention it to make it worse.

of course, a big factor of it is the fact that he has a girlfriend.

you should see how their relationship is the next few days or weeks--see if it's changed in any way.

if he acts the same way towards her as he always has, don't get your hopes up about ever kissing him again.

but if he seems to start losing interest in her, or even break up with her, then that would be the right time to talk about it--assuming that you were the reason why.

[runforfun529]

wow.. sounds like you had an interesting time. I definitely wasn't expecting that

Well anyway, I would have to say that you should try to talk to him about it in a couple weeks if you can. Assuming you didn't imagine it, he obviously liked you at least a little. Maybe try to figure out what his true intentions were.

[LittleLulu]

wow

im speechles......




oh who am i kidding? i'm NEVER speechless. XD

anyways. it might be smart to sort of just lay back and see what happens. if you mention it to him, you never know what his reaction might be. so to play it safe just keep it low for a while and see what happens.

maybe hint around it but directly confronting him about it might me just a bit too risky, you know?

Um...if he has a girlfriend, ever thought that what he did might be considored cheating? blahh . dont mean to rain on your parade or anything.

[*wind&fire*]

first off... congrats to you...

secondly easier than it sounds... ask him what going to happen after break

[lbjshaq2345]

i'm in a cucumber

[_sarcastic_]

wow.

he's probably curious and yeah is experimenting. don't bring it up quite just yet, let it settle down for abit. and he has a gf, just wait awhile and see what happens

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

I guess the biggest problem would have to be the fact that as soon as school starts (either the 4th or 3rd), the day after that him & I are in that team event for DECA and we are going to be spending literally almost the whole day together. I don't want to just be like, hey what we did the other night was fun, so what do you really think about me? This whole experience was pretty big for me, so I mean I don't know whether it was that reason but I just feel a lot closer to him. I do feel really bad about the whole girlfriend situation though because I honestly didn't mean to be the third wheel. The thing is though, I really didn't even know he had a girlfriend and (this is to dustin) I don't know how I am going to find out what happens between them unless I for lack of a better word, stalk him. There is always gossip, but you know how unreliable that is.

[Ilaem]

My guess is
He's probably experimenting
Ask him
Talk to him
Find out, child

[da_SALSA]

Interesting.

Alright, well this guy may--MAY--be playing with you. It seems like he's just exploring. Don't get too attached yet unless he breaks up with the girlfriend, if you do get attached...I'd watch out for the girlfriend. You'd be in a REAL pickle.

[Anime_gurl_4eva]

one word.


CONFRONTATION!

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

Just to sum up the whole ending,

He's a ****.
I feel so used =(

[xmorningstar7x]

Awww *hugs*

[full:O:beans]

EDIT

oh shoot, I didn't read the other posts, I'm an idiot. sorry.

And I'm also sorry about the unhappy ending. Things'll come around in time

[DaTru KataLYST]

Just to sum up the whole ending,

He's a ****.
I feel so used =(

I'm sorry. =[

If you believe in Karma, you'll get a guy much more caring, hot, and (insert positive characteristic here) .



Oh, and Karma is real . So dun stress ! =D

[ParanoidAndroid]

Just to sum up the whole ending,

He's a ****.
I feel so used =(

Aw You really deserve better than him *hugs in comfort* You'll find someone (just like the person above me said) that will cherish you and care for you deeply! Don't worry and don't be too saddend by this!

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

Aw   You really deserve better than him *hugs in comfort* You'll find someone (just like the person above me said) that will cherish you and care for you deeply! Don't worry and don't be too saddend by this!

Haha thanks and I just hope I do.
This guy is unbelievable. I was used and he's ignoring me. For DECA, he purposley failed and if he did what I know he can do, we could have moved on but now we can't. Lots of other oh so intresting stuff, but oh well...

[FoxBandCutie08]

I think you should tell him, even though he has a girlfriend. I mean, it's better if he knows, and how knows, maybe he likes you enough to break up with his girlfriend for you.

[DaTru KataLYST]

^ dudette...it's been over for a while.