How did u handle it?, For the ppl with major heartbreaks Options

[cuul_gurl]

HOW DID U GUYS REACT WHEN UR RELATIONSHIP BROKE/ WHEN U LOST UR FIRST LOVE?

I know this guy for the past 4 years. He flirted a lot with me, and there was a stage when he said things which would only mean he really really loves me and is serious about me. He moved a few days after he said those things. He's been out of town for 3 years now. We kept in touch (and still do). We were close and i fell in love. He's about 6 years older, and told me he wouldnt b getting married anytime in the near future when i last met him 8 months back. I believed him.
His dad comes and tells me 3 weeks ago, "he's getting married..do u know?" I was shocked. He never told me a thing. I cried, i was devastated.
We have a large common social circle, and happen to b family friends. He called me and clarifyed everything. I realised he all he did was just for timepass. His fiance and I share our name, our birthday and we both can cook and sing well. She's a couple of years elder to me.
I decided to take it well. I told myself i will not cry. Whatever has happened has happened for my good. Maybe i'll find a better person in future. He's not that well off financially. His job has odd timings. Maybe my life holds something better. On the plus side, we can still b friends.
I cant say it doesnt hurt, coz he has gone thru a major transformation. He was lazy, unemployed and a major flirt. He's become more responsible and mature over these 4 years and i'm proud to say i've seen his transformation. And he's the hot topic in my home as well as our social circle. I still feel a stone drop in my somach when someone mentions his name.
I'll take it positive and move on with life..it has taught me one thing..just wait for ur man..he'll come along one day, and u'll know how lucky u r..i'll wait and watch!

[Joss-eh-lime]

wow lots of similarites between u and his fiance

..creepy


maybe he wanted you but since you were so far away he tried to get someone just like you. dont feel bad you'll find someone else.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Ive only cried for two boyfriends. One who was murdered, and one who broke up with me .. and who im now not sure if i ever even got over.

I keep it bottled inside, and i know i let it take over me. I let it grow and grow, until i cant take it. Then i write about it, and most of the time produce some of the greater pieces of writing i do.

[littleswallow]

I've been in love with the same guy for almost 7 years, and he doesn't know. Why? Because I think it would be better if he doesn't know, because I know he can never love me.

But you know what? Even if I know that, I still love him.

It's great that you took your experience as a positive! Good for you! I handle mine by making him my inspiration. Like when he congratulated me because I did a good job with my academics, I thought to myself, 'those 4 hours of sleep every night wasn't so bad after all'.

I'm hopeless...

[ANG33ZY]

How did I handle it? I cried my eyes out. .. I hella remember I thought I wasn't gonna get over that boy. Like, noooooo my life is over. But I got over it pretty well.

[LittleLulu]

oh god.

the first time...it was terrible. lost so much weight. did eat anything. cried my eyes out. wrote like 10 pages in my diary about all the crap i was feeling. talked for hours on the phone with my friend. but nothing helped until we got back together.

2nd time....i was sorta in the state of numbness to feel the pain. It caught up with me afterwards but still not as painful as the first time we broke up. I just acted like nothing had happened. ( although very few close friends knew i was hurting inside) i didn't want to give him the satisfaction of making me miserable.

[_sarcastic_]

the first one we both actually agreed that it wasn't working out, but he dumped me anyways. i cried every now and then when i think of him, but after half a year? i got over him yeah i know half a year long time. but he was my first love.

i'm currently with my second bf, going through hell right now with him, this relationship is about to fall apart any minute.

[cuul_gurl]

part of life...happens to everyone...everything depends on attitude and how far we are able to handle it!
I'd b glad if all of u could share it with us!

[KissMe2408]

Wow...I can't believe his fiancee has the same name and birthday. That is very creepy.
I'm really sorry about all of this. Remember he's 6 years older, so it probably was different for him. I'm sorry about this heartache. I really am :(
How did I react after my first love? hmm...I cried a lot. I ate ice-cream and gained a lot of weight. I hated his new girlfriend, but probably hated myself more. I missed him terribly. I talked to him a few different times. Once I went back to his house to drop off his stuff. That was one of the hardest things. I remember him saying that I could keep it, but I said I needed to give it back. He told me he regretted it, dumping me. And I looked into his eyes, and we both knew we still loved each other. That totally sucked man. lol. I still care about him. He probably still does'nt care about me, he's with my ex best friend now, and they've been dating for a while. I can't believe she did that to me. Long story.
He buries his feelings very deep and hides them well. I'm sure i'll never be with him again, but I didn't take it really well. It takes a long time to get over someone you truly cared about. BUt i'm hoping that a guy will come along that will be much better then him, and will make me feel the way he did, or even more. So i'm hanging on to that thread of hope. You should too. It gets bettter. It has to.

[cuul_gurl]

thats the spirit dear!!

[*Zatanna*]

Heartache. UGH, it's so hard to live through sometimes. I'd love to tell everyone here that it gets easier as you get older, but that would be complete bullsh*t. All I can say is that it will pass.

When I'm all heartbreaky (as I am now), I have to keep busy. Learn something new everyday and focus on that. It's helped me get through the ache.

[illumineering]

Why are you dissing this guy? One minute you think he's great and the next your giving him for being unemployed, lazy and not having enough money for you. If that's how you really feel, he probably sensed it. Maybe the greater lesson is to not be so attracted to vanity and learn to see a person through their character, integrity and actions.

Sometimes the most powerful lessons in life are the most painful. Hopefully you'll learn from this one. Good luck in the future!

[*mipadi*]

I've only seriously been interested in a few girls. The first was this awesome girl, but nothing ever worked out with her, and, due to a bunch of problems, she ended up not talking to me. I spent a whole summer agonizing over it. I didn't really "get over it" until I met some other people and made some new friends. It was a rough time, but I really learned a lot from it. I can't say I'd want it to happen again, but it was a valuable learning experience. I think that's the key: you can't avoid heartbreak, but if you learn the right lessons from it, maybe it's not such a bad thing after all.

[SimplicityGirl]

I was very very very upset over it. He was my first boyfriend and first love. Even though we didn't have a long lasting relationship (we only went out for a month and a bit), it still hurt. I didn't cry at first. I think I was just too numb from all that. I went through school acting normal, but friends knew I was hurting on the inside. But I was determined to never let him have the satisfaction that he hurt me. So I kept it all inside. Then one day, I saw him flirting with another girl at lunch, and I just couldn't take it. Went hom that day and cried. Then the months after...I wrote whenever I thought of him. And I wrote some of the most thought provoking stuff in my life. I kept myself busy and eventually I find myself not thinking about him anymore.

[Justingamemaster]

i killed myself.

[cuul_gurl]

Why are you dissing this guy? One minute you think he's great and the next your giving him  for being unemployed, lazy and not having enough money for you. If that's how you really feel, he probably sensed it. Maybe the greater lesson is to not be so attracted to vanity and learn to see a person through their character, integrity and actions.

hmm..i didnt mean it that way...he was unemployed and lazy the time i met him, he changed within a year after that and thats what made me and everyone else proud of him..and thats the reason y i fell in love with him..its not abt money..its just that he's such a wonderful person to be with..anyone can fall in love with him!!

[topsyturvy]

i killed myself.

Ouch that must've hurt. Care to tell us how?

My first love.. i ignored him. I don't know why i did.

[s_parker_luver]

well.. i cried myself to sleep for half year. and then i move on. but it still hurts when i think back

[cuul_gurl]

yes..it takes longer for some ppl to forget their first love..it is difficult..but its not impossible!!
Anyone else like to share?

[full:O:beans]

Ive only cried for two boyfriends. One who was murdered, and one who broke up with me .. and who im now not sure if i ever even got over.

I keep it bottled inside, and i know i let it take over me. I let it grow and grow, until i cant take it. Then i write about it, and most of the time produce some of the greater pieces of writing i do.

omgosh I'm so sorry your boyfriend was murdered that's horrible

I've never had a heartbreak. never had a boyfriend.

[da_SALSA]

Ergh...cried myself to sleep. Woke myself up crying. Stayed around in bed wearing crap. Let it all out. Then went out w/ my closest friends who helped me. Actually...I'm not over it still. It hurt a lot...what he did.

[teeners4]

i cried for like a day.

[cuul_gurl]

there's no point crying...its u who gets miserable, the other person is not losing anything.
Just think this way..if he/she ditches u, he/she's the one who's losing u...u r not losing him/her...u'll feel a lot better!

[lit0chinagirl]

i'm so sick of all of the heartbreak stuff. i get along pretty nicely nowadays. i've decided to hold off on getting back into the whole dating thing. i'm not ready for all of the emotional and physical involvement. i'm still young!...so no hurry.

[pshaa.shauna]

What did I do? I cried. I cried a lot. I stopped eating actually, not because I was punishing myself, I tried to eat, it just got caught in my throat. I slept less too, insombia. Then I started writing and draiwng, and I felt a lot better.