first girlfriend...., first "date" Options

[upf147]

ok, so here we go, me and this girl, alyssa, have been friends for a while. I played football and she was a trainer in the training room and thats how we met. (works well together doesnt it) and we have been friends for a while now and talk a lot. So we are in gym the other day and she kept mentioning how she wanted to go to the movies.....so i asked if she would want to go with me and she said sure. So we have plans for that now. Then we were hanging out last night....and we got to talking and we actually talked about it and finalized things (going out). So we are going out now, i just need to know how i approach the whole situation. That night when we talked, after we had gotten alone (we were with a couple of friends) she was staring in my eyes while we were both quiet and i know she was waiting but i didnt know what move to make, you dont want to overstep your boundaries but i figure hey, if she wanted a kiss (we already know each other well), ill let her start going in for it first....its tricky when its your first girlfriend, you feel so prude. And i want to know how i go from here as far as Sunday nights date. (remember, we are already going out) help, thanks.

hold hands, first kiss, etc.? i really like her.....

[anoniez]

Hahah, that's really cute =) and very sweet.

Just remember that communication is key.. sounds like you have stuff down pretty well (ex. if she mentions a lot that she wants to go to the movies, she wants you to ask her)

I wouldn't worry too much as to where you guys should go from here- act as normal, and it'll start coming together as you guys become more affectionate. I would, however, try to spend more time with her at school- walk her to class if you can, spend lunch with her, get to know her better, etc.

About kissing.. I do think you should be the one doing it, especially if you're her first bf as well. Just go for it when it feels like both of you wanna try for it. It's always awkward the first time but you'll be glad that you did it.
Talk to her about it. Tell her how you're feeling (shy, awkward, prude, whatever); she'll most likely think it's really cute and/or be feeling the same way.

Just remember that she'll most likely forgive you even if you do the awkwardest thing in the world. She probably likes you just as much as you like her and is wondering the same things you are right now. Best of luck

[vash1530]

only push little and let her push back.

[babygurl_xtacy]

The more tensed up you are, the more you're gonna mess up. Relax and things will come naturally.

[upf147]

ok thanks, btw, im not her first, im like number 2 or 3. we are seniors in hs ill admit it, i was always too shy so i never dated.

[_sarcastic_]

relax be yourself. i agree with babygurl_xtacy the more tensed up you are the more things will go the wrong way.
talk to her, walk with her to class in school stuff like that. everything will just click into place soon

[topsyturvy]

When you're asking yourself whether you should kiss her or not, just do it. The fact that you're thinking about it means you want to. A girl likes a guy's "want to".

[upf147]

yea, i can always relax around her, ive known her for a good while now which helps, just the moment got me tensed for obvious reasons, ill see her tonight after shes done work, so things will be different tonight.

[upf147]

i was right, and so were you, we got to chill tonite, it was nice.

[Oranite]

Most relationships you just go with the flow. Don't over think or over analyse the situation.

[FoxBandCutie08]

I think you should just do what you're comfortable with, and what she is comfortable with. If she wants something she will probably go ahead and make the move knowing you haven't had a girlfriend. You can hold her hand, put your arm around her, kinda thing. Compliment her on how she looks.

[upf147]

all of the above....done, thanks. things have been good for a couple of weeks now.