please i need help. please., idk what to do... |
 Jan 4 2006, 06:25 PM
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 sandra <3 chris  Group: Member Posts: 54 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 338,520  |
 Some of my friends, Sharon and Ella dont trust me anymore. They always think im lying when im actually telling the truth. well.....My dad's a bad person. Hw gambles and smokes  so he sometimes at home and sometimes out...gambling. They think i lie about that. They think i lie about stuff but i really dont. Sidney, another friend (a better friend, iguess) wanted to walk home with me together since i go home and she go to subway station. since she has a doctors appointment today, she told me to wait in E. center for 20 mins and she'll keep calling rto make sure i dont leave. Sharon and ella came along and saw me waiting in e center. They wanted me to bring them to see sidney. (what they really wantted to do is get sidney to not hang out with me no more) i said i cant cus sidney dont wanna hang out she just wanna go home. they said okay. and they turned around to leave. i ran to sidney but they were following me all along. they told sydney to hang out with them and leave me alone in front of me. Sidney want to see a TV show so badly to she had to go to sharon's home to hang out. They left me walking by myself when i waiting for sidney. I was crying home and and at home they made up a screen name called sandra sucks. and they IMed me taking turns yelling at me and dissing me and telling that they hate me. i tried explaining and i tried saying sorry althought i dindn't do anything wrong. i dont want this to get into a fight or else i wont graduate. I dont know what to do...Yes i got some other friends but now they told hing-na and her sister to hate me. Hing-na dont wanna share lockers with me anymore and i have to share with yang.
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Jan 4 2006, 07:03 PM
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 Yea Yea. Group: Member Posts: 837 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 79,366 |
Omg they are such biatches.
 The only thing I could tell you is tell them that they are being immature and unreasonable and that you're not lying. They might have a reason for thinking you lie because since your dad has some problems, if you mention it a lot.. they might think you make that up for attention, which some people sadly do things like that.  For now, try to hang out with different people that aren't being convinced by them or people that doubt what they are saying and would believe you. They might eventually get over the drama they are creating, us girls usually do. Feel better! 
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Jan 4 2006, 07:09 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 189 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 63,312 |
Find other people to be friends with. I wouldn't even call these people your "friends" if they diss you and tell you they hate you. Don't fight with them, just ignore them if you can, and make it clear to your new friends that what they're saying is false.
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Jan 4 2006, 07:35 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Elizabeth Center in Chinatown?
Well, I agree with the others, they aren't true friend if they diss you and say that they hate you. Just leave them for a while to cool down or something and hang out with other friends. |
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Jan 4 2006, 08:10 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
They arent your friends. No friends should make you feel bad, and turn anyone against you. Even if you have to hang by yourself for a while, you cant keep on trying to be forgiven for something you never even did. Those girls are first class bitches, and you dont need to convince them about your life, and you dont need their shitty friendship either. As for your friend Sidney, if she was there, and she didnt try to stop them from harassing you, then she might as well have been the one clicking send. Dont say sorry, dont crawl back to them. First of all, you have nothing to be sorry about. You did nothing wrong. Second, if you just go right on being friends again, they know they'll have power over you. And friends like that, is what nobody needs, nor should want.
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Jan 4 2006, 09:48 PM
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 Newbie Group: Member Posts: 7 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 340,799 |
I wouldn't call them your friends.
You have to be the better person sometimes and show them that you are strong enough to endure their petty nonsense. Ignoring them would be the best solution. If you don't acknowledge that they're getting to you, you can show them that they can't just keep walking all over you like their door mat and probably eventually will grow tired and give up. If it becomes too out of hand and they don't stop picking on you, I'd suggest telling a trusted adult. Harrassment is never a fun thing to deal with. |
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Jan 4 2006, 09:50 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
they can't even be counted as friends in the first place. don't apologize for something you did not do, ignore them, they're not worth your time.
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Jan 5 2006, 06:34 AM
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 mmm....beer.... Group: Member Posts: 752 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,854 |
f**k those aren't real friends if they don't trust your ass..
i say f**k 'em |
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Jan 5 2006, 12:09 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
well, at least you know how those girls really are. i've dealt with that kind of crap before. be who you are, if they don't like it then they can go f*ck themselves.
if they can convince people to just hate you with just rumors and words then who needs people like that? i'm sure that you'd probably want friends who stick by you through crap, not switch sides when things are getting bad. (if you really are talking about elizabeth center, i personally hate the people who hang out there, they're all loud, annoying, basically hang out there every damn day, and essentially have the same personality.) |
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Jan 5 2006, 12:44 PM
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sandra <3 chris Group: Member Posts: 54 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 338,520 |
I fell kind of better that i know Sidney is my my side. Hing-na was trying to get me to talk to her during lunch period but i just shrugged and looked awy. I hope im doing the right thing because i really respect her and she was such a great friend. She's always the one to lend me money when im hungry and she really cares about me when im in trouble but she seems to be a different person online. Maybe beacuse of the reason that she doesn't have to talk to me face to face on aim. Maybe i shouldn't talk to her but i dont want some little arguments that Ella and sharon started to ruin our friendship...
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Jan 5 2006, 02:24 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,692 |
It's a good thing that Sidney's on your side. If she truly is, that's awesome. A friend to keep. Haha. She reminds me of myself. My friends go through rough times like these. Actually two of them. Rumours were spread and they were ignored. But I defended them and whenever people bashed about them in front of me, I just left them. I didn't care. Like I didn't want to get involved, but be there for them, you know?
They are so not your friends. They aren't worth it. They are just bullies who are probably jealous of you or something in some ways. Definately people with no lifes =D While you have one and since you do, meet new friends and stuff. Don't need to hang out with people who have such low class and all they do for entertainment is bother people. Don't let them push you around because in the end, or if you have already noticed, you're so much better than them 
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Jan 5 2006, 02:59 PM
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 Sing to Me Group: Member Posts: 1,825 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,808 |
you still called them your friends? just forget about them. i don't suggest you confront them and diss them and stuff. i went through the same thing with my ex-"friends" and they got people to gang up and torment me. forget them.
besides, friends who create a sn 'sandra sucks' is kinda... how do you say immature? |
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Jan 5 2006, 11:13 PM
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hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
QUOTE(Chii @ Jan 5 2006, 12:09 PM) (if you really are talking about elizabeth center, i personally hate the people who hang out there, they're all loud, annoying, basically hang out there every damn day, and essentially have the same personality.)  I agree. I really don't like the place and the people that go there. I first visited that place this year... and I don't go back unless I'm dragged there. Anyways, since Sidney is on your side, just hang out with her and forget about the others. |
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Jan 6 2006, 11:13 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
Why did you apologize? You didn't do anything wrong. You didn't lie. What were you apologizing for? The fact that Sharon and Ella don't like you?
Forget Sharon and Ella. And Hing-na. If Hing-na appears two different people in person and on aim, then she's one of those people who are scared of others (Sharon and Ella) and put up a mean front when she doesn't have to talk to you face-to-face. Bitches. Sidney is a good friend. Stick with her. |
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Jan 7 2006, 03:27 PM
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 ...who created this mess...? Group: Member Posts: 451 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 97,244 |
Like the others said, ignore what Shanon and Ella are sayng. They aren't true friends; don't feel bad about breaking your relationship with them. Sidney seems to be on your side as you said, so stick with her. If Shanon/Ella want to do what they were doing to you again, just tell them that you don't believe them, that you want to stop this so as not to cause anymore arguments.
Also, if they try to break your friendship with anyone else, have a talk with your real friend, telling her that what they are saying is false, that it's wrong. She will most likely believe you. Good luck! =] |
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Jan 15 2006, 08:14 PM
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 Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
It's stupid of your friends to do that. They don't seem like very nice people. I would start looking for better people to hang out with.
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Jan 15 2006, 08:15 PM
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Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
It's stupid of your friends to do that. They don't seem like very nice people. I would start looking for better people to hang out with.
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Jan 16 2006, 11:05 AM
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 Diana =] Group: Member Posts: 1,318 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 174,147 |
None of them are your friends. A true friend wouldn't diss you and leave you to hang by yourself. Screw them, they're bitches. Hang with other friends.
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