what do you think, i should do? Options

[sharpandcuddly]

okay here's the deal. i'm with this guy for going on 11 months and im crazy about him, but i get a TINY crush on someone else. being the good girlfriend, I tell my guy and he suggests we take a break so I can figure out what to do. he promises he'll wait for as long as it takes.
fast forward ONE week..
i've figured it out, f**k this other guy, I miss my boyfriend. so I tell him and he says he doesn't love me anymore.
and of course im crushed.
then the next day the other guy asks me out.
i say yes because i figure it will make me feel better.
today, i curiously asked my boyfriend if he missed me. he said no.
and then ten minutes later, the other guy calls and cancels the date.

how can you just..get over someone, in like 7 days?
i don't understand.
and i don't know how to make it stop hurting.

[anoniez]

i know what you feel like. insensitivity drives me nuts >< my ex said he felt "a little sad" that we broke up.. I'd cried for two months.

Anyway, him saying that he doesn't miss you is probably just his pride talking.. most guys don't want to seem "un-dominant" and not in control which might've been why he said that. I very seriously doubt that he doesn't miss you at all, 11 months is a long time.
However, him suggesting you guys take a break tells me that he might've been getting less enthusiastic about the thing already.. that's one possibility.

I'm not really sure what advice to give you, I'd just say don't get obsessed.. wait awhile. ask him if he thinks it's a possibility that you guys would get back together if you feel like you really love him that much. You could always remind him of his promise but i'd try not to guilt him too much or have too many bad feelings, cause if you guys get back together that'll always be something you remember.

[sharpandcuddly]

oh thanks..
yea.

he was always sensitive though.

[anoniez]

oh thanks..
yea.

he was always sensitive though.

Well.. in that case, why don't you tell him how you feel? Talk to him about it.. maybe he just needs space right now or something. Try to keep the possibility of you guys getting back together open in his mind. Figure out whether its that he really doesnt love you anymore, or if its that he was hurt that you had a crush on some other guy since you say he's sensitive. Yeah.. he probably misses you.. no guy wants to say they miss someone who is going out on a date with another guy..

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

I agree with anoniez. It might be his pride talking, when he says he doesnt miss you and doesnt love you.

But then, if he so easily suggested a break, he might have just found it a way to break it off with the facade of needing a break.
But thats only a possibility.

Talk to your ex. Ask him, if he truly,really feels the way he said he did. But what i have been saying a lot around the forums is, Dont leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one you love.

[_sarcastic_]

don't worry about the other guy.
anyway, he kind of did break his promise of waiting for you for as long as it takes. talk to him about it, ask him if he still has feelings for you or not.

[*mipadi*]

Well, you told him you had a crush on another guy; don't you think he might be a bit hurt, too?

[LittleLulu]

i agree. it could just be his pride. think about it. if he takes you back right away after taking a break, he could be afraid that you'll think he'll just always be there and therefor value him less.

of course it isn't true, but guys never want to seem clingy/desperate/easy.

if you can't get over him. then talk to him. if he was just making up a front to save his pride then things will be ok. If he really meant what he said about not liking you anymore, then he isn't worth it. No true feelings would vanish in 7 days.

[topsyturvy]

He's probably thinking "once a cheater, always a cheater". Although you weren't really cheating. It was good of you to ask for a break before the crush develops any further.

Either it was really a coincidence or your (ex)boyfriend talked to your (ex)crush.

I think you should wait a while. It'll hurt, a lot. Tell him you learned your lesson and he's the only guy for you (for now anyway). Tell him you still love him and all that stuff. If he's ignoring you because his pride is hurt, then he'll heal slowly and then take you back. If not.. well, you'll know.

[*xcaitlinx*]

He obviously never loved you in the first place.

[*digital.fragrance*]

Forget the other crush.

I've been going out with my bf for 11 months as well. Love can't disappear in 7 days. Either he had been thinking like that for a while or he is hurt... or something like everyone else in this thread says.

Talk to him. But most importantly, you should not push anything! If he truly loves you, he will talk to you about it, and everythign will be okay then.

For the hurt? Surround yourself with your friends - be busy. It really takes your mind off of it.

[FoxBandCutie08]

The whole, "I will wait for you," thing was probably a trap. He probably wanted to see if you really cared for him or not. I'm sorry he just didn't tell you outfront.