Ugh...Season of Disaster, Me, a girl...and another guy.=/ |
 Dec 16 2005, 11:37 PM
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[FONT=Geneva]Ok so here ill tell you the backstory first. Ok me and this girl named Sarah, met in the 7th grade, but Ive only gotten closer to her during the summer of 8th grade year. Ok, we first started talking through AIM, and stuff like that, and like a couple of weeks later, she gave me her phone number, and so I started talking to her over the phone. At this point, im already falling for her. So, I start talking to her like everyday from then on, and finally on one day, she invites me to go to her "Mixer," a dance in which all schools around the area can attend to, on a friday. At first I was about to ask her to go to the movies with me, a date to say the least, since its been 3 months since Ive last seen her, but in the end I decided to accept the invitation to the mixer. SOOO...friday rolls along and its the day of the dance, and so I call her to make sure all the plans are all set up to meet each other. I prepare myself with a new dress shirt and all that other shit, and finally go off to the dance. When I arrived, at first I was stunned because of all the people that were there. Secondly, I was stunned because when I saw her, I was amazed, partly because she looked so beautiful, to tell you the truth my whole body was numb. Ok moving on, the danced continued, and the plan for the night was to slow dance with her. Ok remember that I know no one at the dance, so I was a complete stranger. So the last song goes on, and I get up to go ask her, then this dude comes out of nowhere and starts to slow dance with her. I stood there in the middle of the dancefloor, dumbfounded. I turn around and go back to the bench. So, heres the twist. In the same day, she promises that she wouldnt ditch me at the dance, and atop of that she even promised to dance with me the whole night, but she didnt. So after the dance I go home, like hella depressed and shit. Ok now a time flash to now. For our skool, our winterball was like last saturday. So i asked her if she wanted to go to winterball with me a couple of weeks before, and she said yes, but ONLY if her mom would let her go to our winterball, because the SAME guy that danced with her at the mixer asked her to go winterball with him as well. So like 2 weeks ago, she leaves a message on myspace saying that she couldnt go with me to our winterball, and instead shes going with that other guy. So, saturday comes along, and shes at her winterball. On tuesday of this week, I then find out the guy asked her out......and she said yes. AND sooooooooooooo...im stuck here....depressed partly because knowing that I was *THIS* close to having her. And now i dont know wut to do......and so i think i needed advice.
So wut shud i do? 1. move on 2. fight for her 3. be patient and wait for her to come to me. iono its ur choice.... |
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Dec 17 2005, 12:07 AM
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 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
move on. That slut aint worth your time.
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Dec 17 2005, 12:11 AM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
QUOTE(andromeda_90 @ Dec 17 2005, 12:07 AM) move on. That slut aint worth your time.  Slut is kinda harsh... She's not a slut just because she had 2 guys interested in her. Well, I think you should move on. There are better girls out there. |
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Dec 17 2005, 12:13 AM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
^I called her a slut for back-stabbing the dude twice
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Dec 17 2005, 12:20 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 |
Move on ... or fight for her. She's lied and ignorant, doesnt give a fruitcake about you but you liked her. She did danced with you from the start .... and once no more Possible, that girl is choosing someone better for some reason.
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Dec 17 2005, 12:20 AM
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hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
QUOTE(andromeda_90 @ Dec 17 2005, 12:13 AM) ^I called her a slut for back-stabbing the dude twice That doesn't mean she's a slut. |
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Dec 17 2005, 12:25 AM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
^oh we have our own definitions of slut... i don't see why you have to correct me every single time
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Dec 17 2005, 01:08 AM
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 banangst ♥ Group: Member Posts: 727 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 237,399 |
move on.
you guys werent officially together to start with, and if she ditched you twice.. then it proves that your not as important as the other guy in her mind. |
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Dec 17 2005, 02:46 AM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
move on, you waited too long to make a move.
how exactly did she ditch you? you said that the guy asked her to dance out of nowhere. it's not like she planned to dance with him and you're the one who walked away. |
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Dec 17 2005, 08:13 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
move on, she's not worth your time anymore.
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Dec 17 2005, 03:26 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 49,692 |
sorry to say this, but i agree with everyone else. move on. she showed some interest in you at first, at least from what i read, but then she decides to go out with some other dude without talking to you about it at first. instead, she just ditches you at the dance and doesn't apologize for anything. & even if she does come to you in the end, would you really want to be with her? despite the fact that even if she goes to you, she might ditch you again. she shouldnt have your respect when she was the one who ruined everything in the first place. she should actually be ashamed and feel guilty. after all, you two were friends in the first place.
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Dec 17 2005, 04:34 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
QUOTE(andromeda_90 @ Dec 16 2005, 11:07 PM) move on. That slut aint worth your time. ... Care to explain why? Well, here's the deal. You can't just assume that she was interested in you more than the other guy. For all you know, they could've been friends since primary school. You seem like a really sensitive guy. Don't let this girl hurt you! But don't be furious and angry and ARGHH YOU'RE A SLUT on her. So you couldn't have her as a girlfriend (for the moment). You can still be friends with her. And when she breaks up with her boyfriend, you'll be there to comfort her. And maybe a long time from now, she'll realize that you really cared a lot for her and you two would live happily ever after! But .. um.. yeah. That's a little farfetch'd. What I say is, just stay friends or acquaintances with the girl. Don't be desperate for her and don't be angry at her. Just keep it neutral. |
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Dec 17 2005, 07:26 PM
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 "my girls rock balenciaga and smoke mad marijuana" Group: Member Posts: 2,089 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 70,049 |
wow you descirbed that story really well, umm you could just wait for her to come to you, but i would try and fight for her, tell that punkrock beezie boyfriend of hers that he needs to get the hell off of her.! hope that helps
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Dec 18 2005, 11:41 PM
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Move on. She's not worth it. If she rejected you to go to another guy, and broke the promise with you when you guys were at that dance. You're only hurting yourself if you keep on fighting.
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Dec 18 2005, 11:49 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 7 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 293,481 |
ok....its been like a week or two...and sooo much has happened...
ok like the last post i had...its the same girl. Ok backstory:on Wednsday she calls me up, like around 3 am in the morning, and all i hear is her crying. At first im like,"ok...wtf?", but then i find out that her bf was supposedly cheating on her, and so she broke up with him. Ok moving on, me and her then talk for the next 3 hours on the fone finally ending the call at around 6 am. The convo was rather drama filled partly because she was crying for the most part of it. We talked about everything during that convo, and at the end she told me to meet her up at the park after school on friday. Just keep in mind that she doesnt go to the same school as me. Ok so friday comes along, and school has finally ended. So i tell my mom to drop me off at the park she told me to meet up at. I walk around for a while, then i see her on the bench, with an umbrella in hand, for it was raining in the area. So, i slowly walk to her, and she notices me and gives off a big smile. I smile back, but inside i gave off a fake smile, because i was still mad at her for all the things she done. I sit down right next to her, and we start talking. It was awkward at first, but later into the convo, it started getting relaxed. So we talked and talked, which seemed like forever, and then finally at the end, she tells me to go walk with her around the park, and so i agreed. We then walked all around the park, and as our last destination we go to the amphitheatre. I then, stupidly, realize that this was the same place in which our (rainy) 8th grade graduation took place. I laughed inside, from realizing the fact. I look all around the theatre, then i notice a warm hand grabbing my hand. I didnt need to look over to see, but i knew it was her. Just looking around the whole theatre brought back the good memories i had in the 8th grade, and i swore that she too was getting teary-eyed. And so, like instinct, i turn around and ask her to go with me. At first her eyes were that of shock, but then she gave off a smile. Without no words we stood on the theatre, just holding each other and looking around for memories from the past. it was great, even tho after all the things she had done, i knew i had to ask her. i couldnt let an oppurtunity like this slip. i had to take it. to make it clear, i didnt want to make this post a very conceited post, but i posted this because of the amazing amount of replys i got from the other post. well anyways u guys are informed now lol... oh yea...thanks for all the advice u guys gave! |
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Dec 18 2005, 11:55 PM
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(Merging this post into existing topic.)
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Dec 24 2005, 01:51 AM
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Senior Member Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 |
Wowww.
QUOTE it was great, even tho after all the things she had done, i knew i had to ask her. i couldnt let an oppurtunity like this slip. i had to take it. ask her what ? |
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Dec 24 2005, 07:11 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
^that was what i was wondering.
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Dec 24 2005, 11:34 AM
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QUOTE knowing that I was *THIS* close to having her. And now i dont know wut to do......and so i think i needed advice. not really. get over it, kiddo. |
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Dec 24 2005, 11:40 AM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
QUOTE(yanners @ Dec 24 2005, 7:11 AM) ^that was what i was wondering. asking her out... dude if i were you, i would move on from her......she's using you like a back-up plan! |
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Dec 27 2005, 12:43 AM
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 Infinite's End Group: Member Posts: 180 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 193,597 |
QUOTE(andromeda_90 @ Dec 17 2005, 1:07 AM) move on. That slut aint worth your time. yeah! gawd, girl sounds like a bitch 
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Dec 27 2005, 02:28 PM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
Move on.. it sounds like she was with the guy she danced with at the Mixer all along until your Winterball. And she didn't keep her promise to you at the Mixer. You deserve better girls than that.
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Dec 27 2005, 03:00 PM
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 Dark Lord of McCandless Group: Member Posts: 2,226 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,761 |
If you fight for her and win, you'll have to keep fighting every day to keep her and that's not a comfortable life.
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Dec 27 2005, 04:12 PM
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well you cant be mad at her even though now you guys are together. you stated that you were sitting on the bench or w/e why she was dancing so she pretty much was fair game and you let it happen yourself by not dancing with her.
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