What have you learned..., from your past relationships? Options

[LiLCUTiEFR0MDAYA...]

this is my first boyfriend. sum1 wanted to be my bf but i said no. ive made out with like 3 guys but yeah. i been with my boyfriend for almost a year and i L0VE him alot.. but that dont meant hat i havent learned shit.

[LiLCUTiEFR0MDAYA...]

love does not last

i guess u just havent found that 1 guy.

[CrazayChristian]

1) Don't talk to her everyday

2)look her in the eye more often

3) Use more air when I talk.( more assertive voice)

4) Stop being afraid to say things

5) make more jokes

6) make a hug mean something

7) Always leave'er wanting more

8)Hitting is a good thing

9) being called a "jerk/meanie" in a joking manner is also good.

10) Sparingly is in the word.

[silver-rain]

-Be careful what you say when you are angry. Hearing "We should take a break" can really break a person down.
-High school romances can be amazing, no matter what anyone has said. They might not last, but at least you learn to love.

I agree, especially with the first point...
Adding on to what I've said before:
- Don't say anything you'll regret later
- Always keep your promises (ie: if you promise to do something, do it)
- Don't assume things in the relationship
- Don't get mad over small and silly things.

[sheddingtears]

don't think about them too much,
it'll just take longer and be harder for you to get over them when they're gone.

don't think that just plain eye contact and smiling and no other type of communication will eventually bring out a relationship.

don't push people that care for you away when you feel sad or angry, but talk to them, you'll feel so much better.

don't imagine or fantacize beautiful things about someone you really like, but isn't even with you.

writing private entries on livejournal help in letting those emotions out.

learn to love yourself first before loving someone else,
otherwise you would be dependent on that person for confidence, and when this person leaves you, you'd feel so empty.

realize that nothing lasts forever.

realize that if they can make you feel like you're on the top of the world, they can also make you feel like you're alone in the world.

[ParanoidAndroid]

1.) Never allow yourself to let the guy you like take advantage of your feelings
2.) umm...love isn't money?

[ceara cecilyrose]

1. All the things that people say about not talking about important or serious issues are bullshit. The right guy will want you to talk about what matters to you.
2. If you want to be clingy, then by all means be clingy, so long as you don't go totally stupid and actually think about his feelings too. Would you want someone constantly poking you if you were exhausted and only wanted to sleep?
3. Have the same or similar goals. I don't mean 'I want to get a car'. I mean the important things like 'One day I want to settle down out in the country and grow most of my own food and maybe have kids if I can afford it.'
4. If he ever takes his feelings out on you by hitting you, even if its not hard and even if its in jest, don't put up with it.
5. If someone wants to mess around with you before deciding whether or not they want a relationship with you, don't. They probably don't want you and it's not worth it.
6. Just because they want to mess around with you doesn't mean that they will want a relationship. In fact, they almost certainly won't.
7. Don't settle for someone who doesn't feel the same way you do.
8. If they worry that they're not affectionate enough when they're always giving you flowers and holding your hand and kissing you and really, really love you, it may be a good sign.
9. Guys will tell you they love you once and then think that you'll always remember it.
10. If they say they love you but they aren't in love with you and you're in a relationship with them, slap them and tell them to eff off. That comment can be freely translated as 'I have no intention of being in a long term relationship with you because I don't actually care about you but I want sex so I'll tell you I love you and then qualify it and maybe it'll fool them into thinking they have a chance.'
11. You can't change someones feelings.
12. Real love is worth waiting for and if you have bad things happen to you, it's not the end.

[Mikael]

How does one not get attached to someone you love?

get attached at your own risk. but its not about being attached. its about taking care of yourself. know that the reality is that no matter how hard you want it, its not always the same feeling on the other side of the relationship.

[*mipadi*]

Don't worry. Just be happy with the present.

[redpeony]

DON'T OVERANALYZE EVERYTHING! Just let it be... and your relationships will prosper.

[Just_Dream]

Don't be gullible and believe every little thing the significant other says. Man, I thought my past bf was cool, but he lied about some things.. More like he exaggerated to try to sound cool.

Also, don't be too superficial. Looks don't mean squat of the guy doesn't have a good personality or doesn't interest you in any way. I think those are all givens, right? lol.

Oh yea, and love is more than just a word...

[dreamii]

Never try to block out your real feelings, you wil regret it after it's over.
Think about what they would feel if you do something dumb..

Just love, but know that you can lose him/her really easily......and you won't even realize what you did til you lose it all.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Never leave the one you love for the one you like.

[AMBERLY07]

i've learned not to trust guys ever again






p.s my last boyfriend can burn in hell

[redpeony]

I'm bumping this.

Always give more than your 50%.

[mahokaida]

If you were friends with a person before you started going out, do not think that even if the relationship doesn't work out you can still go back to being friends. I thought that, and I tried to continue the friendship, but my ex-boyfriend developed an attitude and told me he didn't want to be friends with me.