What have you learned..., from your past relationships? Options

[sadolakced acid]

self pity is really unattractive.

[sadolakced acid]

self pity is really unattractive.

[Kounouri]

my personal rules for dating

. get to know the boy or girl; like them for atleast 1 month before dating

. share some interests and hobbies, it makes things easier later on

. when his/her presence annoys you, without them doing anything, that's BAD

. suffocation is bad; don't think every minute of your life should be with them

. your friends are important too- he/she will understand

. it's only puppy love; until you're out of high school, it probably doesn't matter- so relax

things i've learned

. be open with your boyfriend or girlfriend as completely as you're comfortable with; that means if you have things only a best friend should know, it's your decision to tell them- but if you're keeping a secret that bothers you, you'll be more comfortable getting it out in the open.

. "taking it slow" means many different things- find a pace that combines physical steps as well as emotional ones

. don't be afraid to talk about the things that bother you, and at the same time talk about the things that make you feel good, too

. when your boyfriend or girlfriend is sad, and you feel like you can't do anything about it, just hug or kiss them- chances are it makes more of a difference than you think, just being there

. some people can't express their feelings like the actors on the big-screen do... even if you don't get any romantic speeches or a bouquet of flowers, your boy/girl will find a way to show you how they feel in due time

. be patient and listen to everything they have to say- only interrupt them if you're going to say "i love you,"

. not every fight means you're going to break up

the biggest and most important thing i've learned about love and relationships is that all these rules are made to be broken; every person is different and therefore every relationship is different. it is possible to share a successful relationship with someone you barely know, and it's also possible to share a successful relationship with someone you know "too well." all the things you think you know will change when you find love; so if you break up with someone on the basis of a stupid rule, then you never know what you have lost.

[captured_serenit...]

Thanks for all the information, it's true having a relationship in High School isn't such a good idea... ^.^

[grab-it]

umm ok lets see..
to not let anyone rush you into doing things you don't want to
not to say "i love you" all day everyday to make it seem like its just something you throw around and it has no meaning for you whatsoever.
to communicate better.. talk about your feelings and not just shut people out when your going through a rough time because you dont think that they would understand.
to talk openly about your past and the things that you've done, even though it may sound as though your dwelling on it..
to treat them equally..
know that it might not last forever, and be able to be without him.. to be on your own..
to love yourself, because if you dont, they wont see why they should either.

[Rachel]

most guys who date seriously in high school are morons.

Key word is most. My guy is not a moron....right

-Be careful what you say when you are angry. Hearing "We should take a break" can really break a person down.
-Say "I love you" only when you truly feel it and mean it.
-High school romances can be amazing, no matter what anyone has said. They might not last, but at least you learn to love.
-Trust is mighty important
-As is forgiveness, only if they deserve it though.
-Girls, USE SEX A WEAPON

[redpeony]

You need to give in order to recieve!

[gr00vyswordsman]

You need to give in order to recieve!

yep!!!!

[alduhkneel]

never engage in a "friends with benefits" relationship.
don't hesitate too long when making decisions in romance.
if you like him, just tell him (which, I'm still trying to do. :\)

[sadolakced acid]

Key word is most. My guy is not a moron....right 

yes, most.

and yes, high school is a good learning ground for relationships. However, i'm tired of dealing with friends who think they're going to marry thier boyfriend.

[racoons > you]

- a white lie used carefully is not a bad thing
- people often arent happy being told the truth
- know when to walk away
- dont get involved if you arent sure you want to

[vash1530]

dont get attached cuz sumthins gonna screw up ur relationship and ul break up, if ur to attached it just ends up hurtin u in tha long run.

[Levy2k6]

-things can end for no good reason but in the long run, it was a good decision.

-take risks next time

[mzbbc]

what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

[teeners4]

i don't know if you're still writing that paper but here's what i've learned:
-high school relationships are overrated- i'm waiting until the end of my senior year [i'm currently a sophomore]  to try again. one is enough for me
        we expect them to last for a long time but when it comes down to it, we end up breaking things before within a matter of months. in a way, we kid ourselves into "that fairy tale ending" but for some, it actually does come true. others- we grow restless
-communication is key
-sometimes our busy lifestyles dont allow us to stay in a relationship
-don't let yourself go to quickly. you may love the person but you shouldn't allow them to get too touchy
-don't be afraid to trust them
-dont be afraid to speak your mind, if something bugs you about the one you're with, make an effort to point it out. don't be afraid to yell at them a little.
-don't be so quick to say i love you and never question yourself about whether or not you love them.

and mostly
if it was meant to be, let it go and if it comes back to you, then it was always yours (yeah, it's cliche)
-"breaks"  can give you a lot of time to re-validate yourself

amen to that. and honestly dont be friends right AFTER you guys broke up. give like a day or a few. well heres my rule: the number of months you dated equal to the number of days you're allowed to mope over them. after that, move on.




and seroiusly say things when they bug you. anddd well heres one for me, meet their friends. not just him meeting your friendss



**noteeee

*ahemmmm** and if you dont go to the same school. (even if you only live 20 minutes away from each other) make sure u can make some sacrifices for each other to see each other more than twice a week (which is on the weekends) drop by even for 5 minutes in the hours after school.

[teeblue]

I went out with my ex for 3 years. Yeah her definition of love is different than mine.

[Rachel]

you have no choice but to trust, and if they cheat on you oh well.  it is a cruel world, and youre not in charge.

have options on the go.  thats what i learned.

How does one not get attached to someone you love?

[Comptine]

Well, I've learned that before high school romances are a total waste of time. I mean, ariite, you don't like me! I don't care! So we aren't going to prom together! Just tell instead of having your friends run around telling me you don't! grr...

Never stay with a guy whose really serious about you when you really like his friend. Don't hook up with said friend like a few days after you guys broke up.

Don't look ahead and enjoy the moment.

[Rachel]

^I don't think they are a total waste of time at all. High school is the perfect time to sort of test out what kind of boys you want in your life. It is like a trying on of relationships. It is a good time to learn and to grow.

[lilliannnn]

That guys will do physical things with you to make you happy, while they don't even like you which in the end, will make you more sad then you've ever been.

-Be careful what you say when you are angry. Hearing "We should take a break" can really break a person down.

AMEN AMEN AMEN, to that. My boyfriend told me he wanted a break, and I was like because it came out of nowhere.

Seriously, if you want to take a break HAVE A GODDAMN REASON.

[miss-_-guitar]

1)what goes around come around, i caught my first bf cheating on me with another girl. and i was really upset but then she cheated on him.
2) listen to ur friends
3)make sure you know the person well before you go out with them

[NgocQuyen]

not to get too serious too fast
not to throw around 'i love you' meaninglessly
its good to be open but you needn't share EVERYTHING
don't talk about the future too specifically too quickly
um.
yeah.

wow...so freaking true...haha ^_________^ i feel the same way...hahaha

[yourfriendsteph]

The biggest thing I've learned is to not get attached, high school relationships rarely last and if it was really meant to be then it will come back to you in the end.

[xo maerissa]

-dont try to impress the guy by being able to let him have his way with you.
-take it slow, he doesnt need to see your whole body just yet.
-'iloveyou' doesnt mean anything, hes jus saying it because his friends are.

[LoST SouL]

love does not last