I like a senior.., but i'm a freshman.. =/ Options

[xObAbYeGuRLxO]

Exactly what the topic title/ description says.
I like a senior.. but i'm just a freshman.
anyone have any advice??
this whole situation sucks. lol

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

Tell us the situation first so we it's easier to give you advice

[silver-rain]

Yeah, tell us the whole situation. Does he even know who you are? Or is this something where you see him and think he's cute, but don't know anything about him?

[xObAbYeGuRLxO]

The Situation::
I'm a freshman-- He's a senior.
Who i've liked since school started. He's seriously REALLYY hot and I wanna get to know him better, but it'd be kind of weird to randomly start talking to him you kno? like.. I have one class with him but he sits across the room so it'd be pretty impossible for me to talk to him. If he sat next to me then MABYE i could TRY to but yeah. (I know a little bit about him because I have his myspace but thats it..)
And I realized that.. Once graduation hits, I'll probably never see him again and wel yeah.. you get it right?

[Chii]

so you just like him because he's hot and you stalk him by reading his myspace entries?

it doesn't really seem like a relationship worth pursuing. you barely know him, he's going to be gone in like 7 months. after getting past the getting-to-know-you process, there isn't going to be much time for anything to turn into a serious relationship that will stay alive with the distance when he goes to college.

find someone your own age, besides most seniors in high school would not want a freshman girl unless she's really beautiful on the inside or out...and personally you just seem very shallow so i doubt he'd go for you.

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

If you want to get to know him, go up to him one day and ask for some help with one thing. Then after that, try to start something. Don't get your hopes up though. I don't want to sound mean, but I doubt you two are going to end up with a fairy tale ending.

[silver-rain]

it doesn't really seem like a relationship worth pursuing. you barely know him, he's going to be gone in like 7 months. after getting past the getting-to-know-you process, there isn't going to be much time for anything to turn into a serious relationship that will stay alive with the distance when he goes to college.

Well, that's kinda how my relationship with my boyfriend started... He was a senior in one of my classes (I was a junior though), but I wasn't really interested in him at first. He wanted to get to know me better so he talked to me and we started going out and just celebrated our one year yesterday.
But yeah, I think you should just go up to him one day and talk to him and ask for help or something. You have to take the initiative since it sounds like he doesn't really seem to know who you are. You also sound a bit shallow... But just talk to him if you want to get to know him better. But the chances that a senior would like a freshman is slim, unless he's just using her.

[topsyturvy]

^ Agree with her.

Even if chances are slim, you can try. But since he's a "hot senior", he probably has a whole lot of other girls going for him.

[jEllyBeaNs]

uhh...well its fine to like someone thats in a higher grade, i guess, but with one of my friends she dated a senior when she was a freshman. then when it was time for him to go to college, he totally forgot about her. he acts like he doesn't even kno her. its really sad, but wut im tryin to say is that, i think you can talk to him if you want, but i "think" that relationships between a freshman and a senior isn't the beSt thiNg. i mean...think about it, if you two dated, would he actually want to be with a sophomore in highschool when he is a freshman in college??

thats just my opinion.

[*liquidize*]

give him yourself. tempt him with sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ceara cecilyrose]

So you don't know him, you just think he's hot. Yeah. I get it - you want to sleep with him. Thats fine, but to me it sounds like you're just battling with teenage hormones. There's nothing wrong with that. Heck, i had a bit of a crush on a senior when I was a fresher. He was cute and good at drama. He even knew my name! He had a nice bum, too ;)

But the thing is that I didn't know him as a human being whatsoever and wasn't particularly interested in getting to know him because I knew that when I did, I wouldn't have a fantasy any more! And not just that, I knew that I didn't know him as a person so didn't see the point in asking him out :P

In all seriousness though, it does sound more than a bit shallow to go for a guy just because you think he's 'hot'. Its NOT a foundation for a relationship. But hey, if all you want is meaningless making out or sex (which by the way, would be illegal if you're in most western countries and are as young as i think you are) then by all means, throw yourself at him and tell him so! Personally, I'd rather jab myself in the eye with a red-hot wire, but its your life to screw up as you see fit!

It sounds like you just have a hormonal crush. My advice is to just enjoy it. Have fun with the fantasy, it's probably better than the reality :)
Maybe there's potential for things to go deeper than that and if you feel thats the case then by all means, start talking to him and see what vibes you get from doing so!

[misoshiru]

you sound like you're obsessing.

[_sarcastic_]

you probably don't really have a crush on him, one, because you barely know him and two, because you only think he's hot. why not get to know him first, then think about whether or not it's really worth it
and the whole freshmen senior thing, it doesn't matter does it?

[HelplessCry]

ouch a little rough chi.
but shes right.
i know a buncha freshmens that are going out with seniors. so its not impossible.
but yeah hes graduating... unless hes taking another year after 12 since hes in one of your grade 9 classes. If you really want it dont be afraid. Atleast talk to him befriend him. Then maybe being friends is better then being in a relationship. goodluck

[Kneuklid Romance]

Don't like him because he's hott. Freshman / senior? Hmmmmm...doesn't look good on your end....

...first you have to think of a few things. He's going to college soon and being surrounded by females his age, where his interests mostly are...and because he's going to college he won't have that much time to see you (if it got that far...) so..yeah.

Also, liking someone for their looks is a naive relationship mistake...you'll find that your true love might not be a superstar but he'll be average / above average that treats YOU like a movie star.

Good luck though. ^_____^, also since you've liked him since school started...do something about it =) Don't just sit there, you need to make contact with him...communication is key ; don't be left questioning yourself. If he doesn't like you, at least you know that...

...I never approved of freshman / senior relationships anyway..so that's all I really have to say ...

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)-------

[*mipadi*]

It seems a lot of people are criticizing you because you only seem to like him because he's "hot". I say, give the girl a break. I'm sure that's not the only reason she's interested, but let's be honest--the think that normally catches our eye is someone's physical features, at least at first; of course, usually there are more reasons why we stick around.

A lot of people have said to let it go because he's going to graduate soon. I say, don't let that stop you. Too many people worry about how such a thing might ruin a "serious relationship," how it can't "go far" because he's leaving. You're a teenager; don't worry about the seriousness, just have fun for now. Live in the present, not the future.

You also said you feel weird "just talking to him randomly". Well, the unfortunate fact of the matter is that there are only a few ways to get to know someone, and in your case, it boils down to two options: talk to him "randomly", or get introduced. Since it seems you can't secure an introduction, talking to him randomly is your only bet. It's not as dangerous as you might think. Most people like someone striking up a friendly conversation; I'm sure he won't bite you.

My advice? I'd at least talk to him. Maybe not look to getting together seriously--he is older and leaving soon, after all--but hey, maybe you could at least hang out or date for fun for a while. Which will you regret more: getting turned down, or never talking to him in the first place?

[me1issaaaa]

I went out with a guy who was a senior when I was a freshman, but I didn't know him until after he graduated and I was a sophomore. *Shrug* he was an a-hole, though. I don't think age had much to do with it, he just had the wrong intentions on what he wanted out of the relationship. Good luck, I hope this guy's not after the same thing with you

[*disco infiltrator*]

I dated a senior when I was a freshman. No problems with that.

Find out what activities he's involved with, who he hangs out with him. I'm sure you'll have the opportunity to talk to him. Go ahead. Strike up a conversation.

[misoshiru]

ouch a little rough chi.
but shes right.
i know a buncha freshmens that are going out with seniors. so its not impossible.
but yeah hes graduating... unless hes taking another year after 12 since hes in one of your grade 9 classes. If you really want it dont be afraid. Atleast talk to him befriend him. Then maybe being friends is better then being in a relationship. goodluck

actually, it might be a bit harsh, but i agree with chii. seniors usually won't go out with a freshman girl unless they're truly that desperate for a relationship right before they graduate. and those kinds of relationships usually don't mean too much to them, as i can see with most of the seniors in my school. if they're truly that desperate, they'll go for any girl that will take them. but even so, they usually would not date freshmen.

it's rather interesting especially since in our school, for any guy going out with a girl who's at least 2 years younger, it's rather strange, in a way, kind of pedophilic because to us seniors i guess, although it probably isn't true, they haven't developed fully yet, both emotionally, intellectually, and physically.

these are just my two cents on this matter.

[Kneuklid Romance]

seniors usually won't go out with a freshman girl unless they're truly that desperate for a relationship

agreed 100%, especially from my experience with seeing those when I was in high school.

Those relationships just dont' seem right to me ; almost to petophelia...

...as opposed to someone who's 27 and the other is 24... (another 3 year difference example) but that's ok because being past your teenage years...you're more mature and that three year difference doesn't seem so big ; again as opposed to being 13-14 and dating someone 17-18 years old and going to college...

...the only way I'd actually support a freshman / senior relationship is if they were childhood friends...

...and I dont think you should be dating / thinking about it right now anyway...you should be focusing on other things...like your future?

LHHRS

Kevyn @-)-------