friends with benefits? Options

[xposure]

ok so i like this guy and i asked him if were friends and he said no, we're more than friends then he added 'friends with benefits' i didnt know what it ment when he said it so i was like huh? he just ignored me. i havent talked to him in person for 2 days now. im still confused about what 'friends with benefits' mean. i dont even know why he said it because i thought he liked my best friend. since they hang out alot like at the mall and even at each others house. i havent even went to his house before. he told me that he liked me like 4 days ago (he already knows i like him cuz i told him) if he likes me then why does he ignore me and talk/ hang out with my best friend? i even asked him if he liked her but he said no. formal is coming soon and my friend said he was gonna ask me (he sorta told me himself when i was trying to guess who liked me, he told me someone liked me so i was trying to find out who) im still confused about friends with benefits, what does it mean, what is he trying to tell me?

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

^ Yes. Friends with benefits is being able to engage in sexual activity such as sex, or anything in between while not going out and not having any emotion attachment.

If he likes you, but ignores you then he might just be shy and doesnt know what to say or do around you so pus his focus on the people around you.

[Paradox of Life]

Urban dictionary definition:

Two friends who have a sexual realtionship without being emotionally involved. Typically two good friends who have casual sex without a monogomous relationship or any kind of commitment

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?...s+with+benefits

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Well everyone has their own definition of friends with benefits. The real definition of it is: two friends who have no feelings for each other they just use each other for their sexual activities. Kissing, holding hands, etc. But some people might think of FWB as two friends who like each other. They do everything that a boyfriend and a girlfriend would do, but they aren't official. If you want you can look it up: www.urbandictionary.com

[xposure]

it sorta clears things up but i havent kissed him before or have any other sexually activities. why would he even want to be friends with benefits, is he using me

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Maybe he thinks FWB are friends that feel that they are more than just friends. Well, as long as you guys haven't done anything that a boyfriend/girlfriend would do. I guess that's not FWB

[*mipadi*]

it sorta clears things up but i havent kissed him before or have any other sexually activities.

Maybe he was using the term incorrectly.

[Shahin]

Your probably in Elementary school or Junior High, aren't you?

He was using the term incorrectly, if you haven't even kissed him before.

[xposure]

we're in 8th grade, i guess but why whould he even say it?

[Shahin]

we're in 8th grade, i guess but why whould he even say it?

Because he thinks it means something else.

[kykip]

Everyone else has pretty much told you what 'Friends with Benefits' mean...but I think that he was using that term to sound mature. Or that was his way of saying that he likes you but he doesn't like you enough to call you his girlfriend...one thing that no one has mentioned is the best friend...are you sure he is not two timing you both...have you talked to your best friend about you and him and their hang out sessions. Do you know for a fact that he likes you and not her? You should settle the he and best friend thing before anything else. If you like him and he likes you then your best friend should not even be in the mix of this situation. After that is settled then figure out what he wants.

[yourfriendsteph]

In my personal opinion this isnt bad. It gives you a chance to be with the person, get to know thema little better maybe, and a relationship could potentially come out of this!

[*Programmer*]

Save yourself the trouble...and drop that idiot....friends with benfits always ends up ugly...it's not worth losing a friend over....sex, kissing, attention... etc etc...trust me i've lost many good friends that way...

[xTINAA]

Friends with benefits is not always the good way to go. Like other people stated, he could have possibly been using the term in the wrong way. Sometimes guys suggest (or girls) to be friends with benefits vs being just friends or being in a relationship for several reasons. They could like you, but they're scared of a relationship. They don't like you, just want your body, basically. Things like that.

[Shahin]

Everyone else has pretty much told you what 'Friends with Benefits' mean...but I think that he was using that term to sound mature.  Or that was his way of saying that he likes you but he doesn't like you enough to call you his girlfriend...one thing that no one has mentioned is the best friend...are you sure he is not two timing you both...have you talked to your best friend about you and him and their hang out sessions.  Do you know for a fact that he likes you and not her?  You should settle the he and best friend thing before anything else.  If you like him and he likes you then your best friend should not even be in the mix of this situation.  After that is settled then figure out what he wants.

How the hell would he be two-timing them? He hasn't done anything for christs sake. He mis-used a term!

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Friends with benefits is not always the good way to go. Like other people stated, he could have possibly been using the term in the wrong way. Sometimes guys suggest (or girls) to be friends with benefits vs being just friends or being in a relationship for several reasons. They could like you, but they're scared of a relationship. They don't like you, just want your body, basically. Things like that.

^ I agree with you. But in your situation I think that he might like you, but he's afraid of getting hurt/being in a relationship. That's one of the reasons why my boyfriend and I are on a "break"

[ceara cecilyrose]

Friends with benefits? Don't do. Just... Yeah. Don't go down that path. Every time I've seen it happen, it's been really, really ugly.
If he knows what 'friends with benefits' means and is saying that, either he was just being flippant or he's really a bit of an arse (can I say that on these forums?) and isn't worth your time.

[kykip]

How the hell would he be two-timing them? He hasn't done anything for christs sake. He mis-used a term!

(...i dont even know why he said it because i thought he liked my best friend. since they hang out alot like at the mall and even at each others house. i havent even went to his house before...)

Regardless of what has been done or not...he is playing in between two best friends! He says he likes her but there is no telling what he does with her bestfriend (to the author of this forum: not saying he has). But if he likes her then they all can hang out a as trio at HIS house.
That is probably and most likely why he "misused" the term!
Plus, this "relationship" may bother her for her to even mention it in the topic of him misusing a term...evaluate the situation first...think outside the box.

[Shahin]

(...i dont even know why he said it because i thought he liked my best friend. since they hang out alot like at the mall and even at each others house. i havent even went to his house before...)

Regardless of what has been done or not...he is playing in between two best friends!  He says he likes her but there is no telling what he does with her bestfriend (to the author of this forum: not saying he has).  But if he likes her then they all can hang out a as trio at HIS house. 
That is probably and most likely why he "misused" the term!
Plus, this "relationship" may bother her for her to even mention it in the topic of him misusing a term...evaluate the situation first...think outside the box.

Now, I want you to read this. To two-time someone is essentially to cheat on them. To cheat on someone is to be un-loyal to that person. To constitute as cheating, the two have to be in a relationship and/or be 'talking'. These kids are NOT in a relationship. So what if the three of them hang out as his house? Co-ed friendships are a perfectly natural thing, buddy. Either way, if the guy wants anything, it's the girls decisions. It's their decision if this ends out good or bad.