My friend needs some advice Options

[Azngirl4life]

Ok..i have this frend and it's her first time going out with someone. She is someone who is rather shy when it comes to guys. Since it's her first time she always askes me what to do cuz she says its awkward for her. I told her to talk to him and make jokes and things like how she does with her other friends...but when it comes to her bf she doesnt act the same..like shes more quiet and nervous. What should she do?

[NgocQuyen]

wow she should just relax...i mean give her some confidence...like for example...tell her not to be nervous becuase theres really no reason to be. he's already her boyfriend so he's got to like her some how right? lols its simple. just talk to him about anything. ask lots of questions. but nothing too/too stupid...good question: "what kind of hobbies do you like?" bad question: "whats you're fav sub in school?" (normally guys dont like to talk about school..) lols...yeahh...that is all i have...

[lit0chinagirl]

since it is her first time, mistakes will happen! ...and the awkwardness will end once she warms up to him. if she really wanted to be with him, she'll learn to open up the way that she has with her friends and like you said, it's alright to talk to him like a friend because your bf should be equivalent to your best friend
i wish your friend the best of luck with that boy of hers

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Well, these things happen. I think it's time for you to come to the rescue. If they look like they're having a hard time. Help them out. Join them and walk together as a group of friends. That way she won't feel so nervous, since she's got you to back her up.

[Azngirl4life]

Well, these things happen. I think it's time for you to come to the rescue. If they look like they're having a hard time. Help them out. Join them and walk together as a group of friends. That way she won't feel so nervous, since she's got you to back her up.

yea i do walk with them together as a group but then it gets quiet at times.

[*mipadi*]

Tell her to talk about Google. Every guy likes to talk about Google. Or maybe that's just me.

Anyway, the best bet is to tell her to just let loose. Don't worry about impressing him--she must've done something to impress him already, right? So she should just be herself (as cliché as that sounds). It's true, it works out best. Talk about what interests her, and tell her to find out what interests him.

[kykip]

I think your friend just has the first time butterflies...but let he know that her boyfriend is just a new bestfriend that is a boy she can hug and kiss. She can tell him secrets, hang out, talk on the phone, pass notes, just like she would with girlfriends. Just remember to exercise the common interests...in other words, don't forget to do or talk about what they have in common...that is what keeps them close. Tell her to be herself...that's what he obviously likes about her and he will opt to stay around longer.

[_sarcastic_]

she's shy maybe because it's her first time, she probably just needs some time to get to know him better and warm up to him more. tell her to relax and take it one step at a time

[topsyturvy]

^ agreed. Taking baby steps builds her confidence whereas failure or embarrassment when taking a huge step will hurt her a lot.

[hottiebheibi]

how can she be in a relationship with her bf if she's not comfortable with him????

how can she be in a relationship when she haven't showed the guy who she really is???

eneweiz, she should act what she really is... i mean BE REAL!!! too much shyness is no good... why don't you try to help her to boost her confidence....