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 Nov 11 2005, 10:38 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find.  Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096  |
usually nice advice works better then harsh advice. that's cuz i'm so sensitive haha
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Nov 11 2005, 10:59 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
i voted it really depends on the situation...hehe...i prefer the sensative sentimental advice but sometimes when you deserve the harsh critical advice then thats all you're going to get
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Nov 11 2005, 11:08 PM
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 My name is really Matt... if you care. Group: Member Posts: 1,442 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 258,234 |
i had to say "how stupid can you be?? just dump him already" before to one of my friends... she was dating this guy who obviously only wanted her as a booty call
i felt so bad... b/c he got his way.... i wanted to kill him! 
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Nov 11 2005, 11:42 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
It depends on the situation. Some times call for sympathy while other times, people just need a reality check.
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Nov 12 2005, 01:15 AM
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 Lauren loves YOU. Group: Member Posts: 2,357 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,793 |
^ Agreed.
When someone's having trouble getting over a breakup, for example, sensitive is always best. But if it's a dangerous situation or sensitive advice is getting through someone's thick skull, you have to be harsh. |
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Nov 12 2005, 01:20 AM
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 hello : ) Group: Official Member Posts: 4,227 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,139 |
Sometimes you have to be harsh and not sugarcoat it so that way the person will finally get it. Other times if you don't sugarcoat the advice for that person, they'll get offended. It honestly depends on the person to whom you're speaking with and/or the situation.
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Nov 12 2005, 01:45 PM
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 banangst ♥ Group: Member Posts: 727 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 237,399 |
it definitely depends on the relationship.
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Nov 12 2005, 01:48 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
Truth hurts..
and if someone needs the truth to be smacked in their face so that they can realize how stupid they were/are...I'd totally do it. But it truly depends.. I can be sympathetic too.. |
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Nov 12 2005, 01:49 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
usually i need something between harsh and soothing. like i need a reality check like what silver rain said but not like someone insulting me by yelling at me "dump him already!!" i just need to take a look at like what's going on, take notice of how things are going and try not to base my decision on just my heart.
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Nov 12 2005, 03:01 PM
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I'd rather have advice that was harsh but the truth, than soothing and just to make me feel better.
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Nov 12 2005, 11:16 PM
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 CHRiSTiNA Group: Member Posts: 94 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 292,717 |
it really depends on the situation.
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Nov 12 2005, 11:43 PM
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 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
It depends on the situation...
If the situation is stupidass like, "Should I dump my cheating bf?" my response would be, "You wannabe whore, dump him!!!" or if the situation is life-threatening, that's when I show my real mature self (if I have one) *edit* Cupidangel81092 I LOVE YOUR AVY! sesshy-sama! |
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Nov 13 2005, 12:15 AM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
It depends on the situation.
Hard Love is how i give advice. I harsly give gentle advice [ or vice versa ] I give out really good advice if i do say so myself ( which i do :D ) Because i combine harsh words with gentle comfort. Both consoling and making my friend stronger for the events that stand before her/him |
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