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 Nov 5 2005, 07:03 PM
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WOULDNT HAVING ARRANGED MARRIGES SUCK BECAUSE YOOH CANT GET MARRIED TO SOME1 YOOH LUV AND YOOH GET MARRIED TO SOME 1 YOOH DONT NOE AND THAT MIGHT END UP BEING SOMEONE YOOH HATE!!!!!!!!!!
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Nov 5 2005, 07:18 PM
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eh. Arranged marriages can be good and bad at times. I wouldn't want to be in one though. I asked my parents about it once and they said that if I wanted them too they would.
 Even if you have to, it's your grandfather that's deciding and your dad says that he'd never allow it. I think your dad is gonna win on this one. |
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Nov 5 2005, 07:27 PM
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^thanks! but right now, I think I won't mind an arranged marriage since it seems like no one would be willing to marry me....
 sorry something emo happened and i just feel like hating the world and being optimistic to dreadful opportunities
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Nov 5 2005, 07:36 PM
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^aren't you still a teenager? You still have your whole life ahead of you. You be thinking that no one would be willing to marry you just now because you don't know what might happen in a few years.
edit// If you're profile's right, you just entered adulthood. |
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Nov 5 2005, 07:54 PM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
yup i just did lol
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Nov 11 2005, 12:25 AM
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Due to religious beliefs it happens a lot. But some have choices and can have a say (key word: some) in what they think about their futur life partner. I think you can have arranged marriages but to a certain extent where you have a say in YES or NO.
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Nov 12 2005, 12:57 PM
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arrange marriages r old.. ppl dun do tat anymore.. plus i think its rong.. its like punishing urself.. since ur marrying sumone yu dun love..
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Nov 12 2005, 01:03 PM
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^Not nessecarily, my relatives had an arranged marriage and they're deeply in love. Just shows that if both of them take some time and know each other better they'll find to love one another, but that doesn't happen in all cases.
I have this feeling that my parents were arranged in a marriage with my father because my mother doesn't like me knowing her love life. :/ I could be wrong. |
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Nov 12 2005, 01:03 PM
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Marriage should be between two people who love each other...
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Nov 12 2005, 01:11 PM
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QUOTE(o0olaalaa @ Oct 31 2005, 4:05 PM) i think its rong. people should marry someone they love.  Yea I agree. My parents are kinda in an arranged marriage... my grandparents on both my mom and dads side got together and highly influenced and/or told them to marry each other even though they didn't like each other at all. Im not sure if there was any agreement between them and probably will never find out... but my parents never loved each other and still regrets alot of what they have done. I think the only reason they stay together is because of my little 2 brothers(big mistake). Since now that I'm independent and all... So yea I highly agree with you that you should marry someone out of love and not on what your parents say and if you parents or grandparents say that they'll disown you because you don't agree with theit demands then say screw them. I know that if I'm ever forced into an arranged marrage I would rather leave and suffer a harsh early independent life(if they actually did it before I was independent) then to comply with my parents wishes. (though I'm pretty sure that such a thing would never happen because my dad tells me every day that I should never marry someone because of what there parents say. Marry out of love) |
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Nov 12 2005, 01:21 PM
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Arranged marriages are traditional in India. Everyone in my family was married this way, so I guess I'd have to suffer this fate as well. The thing with arranged marriages is that they actually work. Not all the time, if lets say you have an abusive husband, but most of the time, you learn to live with the other person no matter what their faults may be. Divorces are very uncommon, and no one wants to disappoint their parents so most people try to make an arranged marriage work. You may have heard this, but in America, you fall in love and then get married. In India, you get married, then you fall in love. Most people are happy with their lives in an arranged marriage, so I don't understand why people say it's such a bad thing. Look at the divorce rates of an area where love marriages are common and you'll see what I'm talking about.
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Nov 12 2005, 01:55 PM
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My cousin's parents are all for arranged marriages...like 3 people have offered dowrys on her for their sons. I'm talkin about A LOT of money like thousands of dollars & stuff.......but I think they trust her to find a guy for herself. She has a good head on her shoulders & i dont think her parents will force her to marry someone.
Personally...i think its completely stupid...its definately a reason for divorce after a short time. |
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Nov 12 2005, 08:57 PM
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QUOTE(mona lisa @ Nov 12 2005, 1:21 PM) Arranged marriages are traditional in India. Everyone in my family was married this way, so I guess I'd have to suffer this fate as well. The thing with arranged marriages is that they actually work. Not all the time, if lets say you have an abusive husband, but most of the time, you learn to live with the other person no matter what their faults may be. Divorces are very uncommon, and no one wants to disappoint their parents so most people try to make an arranged marriage work. You may have heard this, but in America, you fall in love and then get married. In India, you get married, then you fall in love. Most people are happy with their lives in an arranged marriage, so I don't understand why people say it's such a bad thing. Look at the divorce rates of an area where love marriages are common and you'll see what I'm talking about. But I'm not Indian nor American.... I'm Chinese/Filipino |
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