guy trouble, like u havent heard that before..lol Options

[ecargnmyst]

lol..ok..so heres the thing..i have absolutely no trouble talking w/ guys and actually most if not all of my close friends are guys. but theres this one guy in my group i really like. its not love..just like. but he has major trouble w/ girls. he doesnt know how to talk to them and as ive heard from others in our group..he has trouble getting to know girls..talking to them...blahblah. and i like him so im trying to get to know him better...we get along perfectly well when its me him w/ another person or the group...hes really funny and nice and cute ..normal and everything. but when its just me and him..he just has trouble talking and even i have trouble thinking of something to talk about w/ him..its very awkward in a way. i havent had this trouble w/ any other guy ever..just him..but i really like him.

so how should i get him to start talking more? b/c its like..when im w/ him..since he has trouble talking w/ girls..he doesnt say much..and i just suddenly run dry of topics for conversations..and he doesnt like loud obnoxious talkative ppl..so im afraid of annoying him by trying to be the talkative weird hyper random self i am... =\

also..im planning on telling him how i feel at a halloween party..but the reason ive been holding back is..im afraid of what hell say..and altho i like everything about him and we talk w/ each other perfectly fine when were not alone..but when we are..the convos arent that great..but i still want to tell him anyway...but how? if i do tell him at the party...hes probably gonna be too drunk to actually comprehend what im saying..but then i dont know of any other time i can tell him that wont be awkward..

and also..i cant tell if he likes me..so im kinda afraid of what hes gonna say...the other guys in the group have/had crushes on me..but i dont know about him..

and something thats been bothering me these few days..(i thim in pretty much ranting by now) he went to some hot girl's party on friday ..they got drunk..made out..she asked to have sex w/ him..and he was going to...but then backed off...and now he regrets him and today he was pretty upset over missing his chance..so yeah..that kinda bugged me heh

soo..errr...loong rant..but any help welcome =]

[Fade to Black]

its just him...i duno what u can do to really change him

[topsyturvy]

"but theres this one guy in my group i really like. its not love..just like."
Nice, i like that. You won't believe how many people out there are going "OMG there's this hot boy and i LOVE him!" and how relieved i am to see someone sensible enough to say "just like".

Don't change yourself for him. And don't change him for yourself. You should try it out and see if it works out

The Halloween party is a good time to break the ice and let him get used to the idea that you're interested. He doesn't have to completely accept it and ask you out on the spot.. it should be more like an introduction to him. From then on, your actions should speak waaay louder than words.

Good luck

[LittleLulu]

"but theres this one guy in my group i really like. its not love..just like."
Nice, i like that.  You won't believe how many people out there are going "OMG there's this hot boy and i LOVE him!" and how relieved i am to see someone sensible enough to say "just like".

Don't change yourself for him.  And don't change him for yourself.  You should try it out and see if it works out

The Halloween party is a good time to break the ice and let him get used to the idea that you're interested.  He doesn't have to completely accept it and ask you out on the spot.. it should be more like an introduction to him.  From then on, your actions should speak waaay louder than words.

Good luck

agreed
you can't really change another person. some people think you can. but you simply CAN'T.
personally i think that you should tell him. and then work your way from there. see what happens first.
The thing about him making out with some girl. well. since your not together you really dont have too much say it in. i know it sucks. but its just how it is. if you guys end up together for a while, and its still bugging you, THEN talk to him about it.