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 Oct 18 2005, 06:14 PM
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So Ive been talking to this guy and he is in a relationship (yeah I know sucks) but his girl and him are having problems. So basically they're about to break up. He tells me he likes me and everything but last night on the phone he said, " I wont have another girlfriend for a long time." So I dont what I should do. Should I back off or try to change his mind?
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Oct 18 2005, 06:42 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Designer Posts: 374 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 196,246 |
i've been in this same sit.... back up.... i'm speaking from experience... well in my case i should have backed off....
well... every guy is different... but in my case... me and the guy got in an arguement and he blamed me for the break up with his ex.... i think you should back off.... but you know the sit. better than i do! |
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Oct 18 2005, 06:56 PM
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 Jus Sweet Chocolate Group: Member Posts: 739 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 216,959 |
i would bck off if i was you, becuz there still goin out! i mean maybe it would be different if they were broken up. i mean he could be tellin you he likes you to make himself feel better about the situation with him and his girlfriend, but who knows, do wut u feel is best.
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Oct 18 2005, 07:54 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 57 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 267,971 |
Back off. Wait a couple weeks after they break up, then persue him.
I learned the hard way. This guy I liked broke up with his girlfriend, we got close, and then he said that he liked me. Well guess what, the next day, he was going back out with HER. Let's just say our friendship has never been the same, with the girl, or the guy. |
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Oct 18 2005, 08:14 PM
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Give him some time. Guys are different some recover quickly and some don't. Maybe he wants some time to sink it in not just jump start a new relationship like that.
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Oct 19 2005, 06:16 PM
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 Newbie Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 270,691 |
Give the guy sometime 2 think it over dont rush him..If u try 2 rush him it might just make him mad..Just give him some space and until then just wait your time will come and he wil get over that other girl.
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Oct 19 2005, 07:50 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
When he tells you something like that, then BY GOD HE MEANS IT!
That's a hint that, duh, he cares for you and doesn't want to hurt you! so..back off. Let him do the driving while you sit..in the passenger side.. |
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Oct 20 2005, 08:37 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
^i agree with kristinaa. back it off for awhile, he's still with his gf anyways, see if they break it off and if they do wait for awhile let him recover.
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Oct 20 2005, 10:11 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
Back off.. for God's sake back off. I speak from experience.
Remember the cliché if you love someone let them go.. if it's meant to be, they'll be back. Relax for a while. |
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Oct 20 2005, 09:48 PM
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 Tasty. Group: Member Posts: 471 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,784 |
i'd back off for a bit. if he says that he needs time, then give him time. although, i never understood why ppl get all emotional and insist on laying off relationships for a while. wat, will a switch go off in ur head saying thatur ready for a relationship? grr. but i dunno, i'd still stay really close to him. like especially now, comfort him after the break up. then when he's "ready" he'll remember how sweet and caring u r and hopefully see u as his GF soon.
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Oct 21 2005, 02:41 AM
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 hulagurlie413 Group: Member Posts: 83 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 259,963 |
just back off and wait to see if they work their problems out or not. if they end up breaking up for sure, then give him some time to get over it completely and then see if anything is going to happen for you guys. trust me, you don't want to "interfere" right now if they're still together cuz if the gf finds out, they'll be more trouble.
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Oct 21 2005, 07:34 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 157 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,793 |
I'm in this same situation at the moment. And I wont back off. I believe I have a chance with him, and he has a gf. He told me after 4 months there relationship got boring and then she cheated on him. And they broke up. But now there back toghether. Just be there for him, dont force him to break up, leave that all to him. Don't go talking about her to him, unless he brings her up. And another thing to keep in mind dont dis her untill there offically over, cuz then he might think your attempting to cause the break up.
I'm not going to tell you to back off, not if u think u have a chance, and if u really like this guy. I know how you feel. Just trust him, and give him time. And keep in mind, everything happens for a reason. Good luck love
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Oct 21 2005, 09:51 PM
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 GEt You DRUNK Group: Member Posts: 942 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,417 |
Don't try to make it obvious that you're going to change his mind. Just go with the flow and still talk to him normally, and he'll just forget about his exgirlfriend and move on....to you! lol
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Oct 22 2005, 01:46 AM
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Tiffany <3 Group: Member Posts: 192 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,685 |
Back off
They haven't broke things off just yet Be patient, young grasshopper &you will truly be rewarded Hahaha Just give him time to heal xxxx |
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