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SimplicityGirl
post Oct 18 2005, 11:42 PM
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Well, this guy...I'll call him Guy E. He has liked me since grade 8...and we're in grade 12 now...so about 4 years and a bit. Anyway, last year he told me that he liked me, and I rejected him by saying that we should stay friends. And so we did. But I've always gotten that feeling that he still likes me...but I pushed it back, because he did say that he doesn't like me anymore.

Anyway, yesterday, he was bugging me on msn while I was doing some homework, and I accidentally let slip "shut the f**k up" to him. And afterwards...like...maybe after a couple of hours, I told him that I was sorry and I didn't mean it. And he didn't answer. And today I tried to talk to him on msn, and same result. No answer.

I've asked other people about this and they said that since he liked me, and probably still likes me, everything I say to him is blown out of proportion...if I say something positive to him, it'll make him very happy, and if I say something negative...he'll be very very hurt. But I didn't take this into consideration...as I assumed he quit liking me after I told him "no"...but I guess not.

So my question is...how do I get him to talk to me again?
 
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post Oct 18 2005, 11:47 PM
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I would just continue trying to talk to him, apologize... and he'll come around...
 
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post Oct 19 2005, 06:37 AM
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instead of apologizing online why not try apologizing face to face
 
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post Oct 19 2005, 05:01 PM
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Just talk to him more. Sooner or later he will talk to you. But of course you gotta remind him that you figured out that he stopped liking you.. and it was just a outburst of the moment.
 
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post Oct 20 2005, 11:37 AM
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the only thing you can do is to give him one more heartfelt apology...then it's up to him whether he wants to forgive you. unfortunately, you can't make him forgive you, even if it's something so petty.
 
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post Oct 20 2005, 09:44 PM
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See, if you had done this a few months back, I would have winced at it like witnessing a kick in the balls.

This guy still likes you, he just SAID he didn't because he knows that things will be akward if he says he still did. (That and he probably was trying to do you a favor) You told him that, and he'll be depressed for quite a while.


You have 2 choices and 2 consequences:

1.You can just apologize to him, be really nice and try to make him feel better:

A: This will more than likely fix things between y'all, I have 98% chance he'll belive and forgive you. How do I know this? Well, one time someone I liked had cussed me out, and degraded me. (It was PMS as I later found out) She apologized, and things were cool again. I however would not lean towards this very quickly. Why? Because it will fuel his feelings for you and make a long term problem, longer.

2.You can drop it, maybe get other people to talk about how sorry you are around him. Beat around the bush a little.

A:I might suggest this, because it will get your point across (60% chance...) and it won't really FUEL his feelings for you. This might let you have your cake and eat it, but it may just take all away.


Choose wisely.
 
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post Oct 21 2005, 01:03 PM
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You shouldnt act all buddy buddy just because u feel sorry for him, If he start acting all super nice you would probally lead him on, just ask him whats up and set him straight, see if theres a possiblity that a friendship could work if not , just let him be he needs to learn how to face rejection
 
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post Oct 21 2005, 03:14 PM
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welll.. i cant really blame him. but yeah. apologize face to face as someone said before ^^. maybe write him a card, buy him a gift? i dont really know.. well good luck with it ^^. happy.gif
 
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post Oct 21 2005, 07:40 PM
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just tell him straightfoward that you are sorry. maybe give him baked goodies, or maybe a card, a small gift/ surprise..or just something cute tongue.gif .
 
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post Oct 21 2005, 10:13 PM
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wowerz. i had the same experience.besides the stfu part. but i did also tell the guy it's better if we stayed friends. i know he still likes me. but i'm dating someone. i got a spazz attack by his friend too. =/

well, all you can do now is keep talking to him.. he'll talk to you again.
 
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post Oct 21 2005, 11:06 PM
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QUOTE(CrazayChristian @ Oct 20 2005, 9:44 PM)
See, if you had done this a few months back, I would have winced at it like witnessing a kick in the balls.

This guy still likes you, he just SAID he didn't because he knows that things will be akward if he says he still did. (That and he probably was trying to do you a favor) You told him that, and he'll be depressed for quite a while.
  You have 2 choices and 2 consequences:

1.You can just apologize to him, be really nice and try to make him feel better:

    A: This will more than likely fix things between y'all, I have 98% chance he'll belive and forgive you. How do I know this? Well, one time someone I liked had cussed me out, and degraded me. (It was PMS as I later found out) She apologized, and things were cool again. I however would not lean towards this very quickly. Why? Because it will fuel his feelings for you and make a long term problem, longer.

2.You can drop it, maybe get other people to talk about how sorry you are around him. Beat around the bush a little.

    A:I might suggest this, because it will get your point across (60% chance...) and it won't really FUEL his feelings for you. This might let you have your cake and eat it, but it may just take all away.
Choose wisely.
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