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 Oct 11 2005, 03:24 PM
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so okay, pleassse don't think of me as shallow after you read this. i'm just really confused. to make a reallly long story short, awhile ago i was going out with this guy.. we'll call him Bob. I broke up with Bob because he kept flirting with other girls. Then I went out with....we'll call him George. All was well but i started feeling like George was more of a good friend than a boyfriend to me. Bob started liking me again.. I broke up with George... so Bob and I went back out. That was all good and fine but he dumped me after a week because he "wanted to get over the others girls he liked before we went out". supposedly. So whatever... I went back out with George.. cause I was lonely. and liked him a lot. So now for the present-- I'm going out with George, and Bob has started flirting with me again. I suppose you never really forget the ones you love... because I realize I like Bob more like a b/f than a friend, and like George more as a friend than a b/f... So I'm stuck here not knowing what to do. I'm afraid everyones gonna think I'm shallow if I dump George, or what if history repeats itself and I go back out with Bob all in vain? but then if I stick with George... I will never know what could've happened. so many what if's...
I hope this wasn't too long.. I'm just really confused and need some advice.. Thanks so much for the help. |
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Oct 11 2005, 06:22 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
if you really want to go out with bob then go for him, i mean it's no point going out with george if you dont have feelings for him, it's gonna hurt him more knowing that you were leading him on. but jsut make sure bob really wants to go out with you, and you've got to know that history MIGHT repeat itself.
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Oct 12 2005, 03:50 AM
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 o______o;; Group: Member Posts: 28 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 230,983 |
well...i would go with bob. but that could end up where george will think you as shallow...but you should work out your problems and tell bob & george how you feel...and don't let history repeat itself. if bob keeps flirting with other girls then maybe he isn't the right one for you. after all i wouldn't be happy either..but if that happens, don't get back with george..even though you could be lonely..it'll just lead to more depression
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Oct 12 2005, 06:03 AM
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 after all that we've been through... you know we're cool Group: Member Posts: 161 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 253,691 |
Go out with Bob and if he dumps you stop going back with George cause if you want my most sincere opinion: you are using him! He doesn't deserve that and neither do you. You owe it to yourself to be with a guy that makes you feel amazing not just so-so.
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Oct 12 2005, 10:59 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
just be single.
all you're doing is hurting george and yourself. |
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Oct 12 2005, 11:02 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
Stop going from boy to boy. Its mean and wrong to George who may really like you while you are pining for Bob.
Either get with Bob or get with no one . If yu think George is just a good friend keep it that way. |
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Oct 13 2005, 02:21 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 157 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 117,793 |
Follow your heart. Do what you feel is right. If you sit down and talk with George, and tell him that he's more of a friend then a bf and you want to go back out with Bob maybe he will understand. If someone love's you, they should do everything in their power to understand why you feel that way. And seem's to me you care for bob. Don't just ditch george without explaing it and make him understand why your doing it before u leave. If not..hell will break loose. Good luck, and always do what you fell is right.
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Oct 13 2005, 02:24 PM
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 ^ Mrs. Jonas Group: Member Posts: 592 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 263,313 |
That's a tough one. Honestly, I'd agree with Chii... just be single. Going back and forth is only hurting yourself and hurting both Bob and George... because now neither of them can be sure that you really like them as people, you know?
Or go out with Fred. 
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Oct 13 2005, 04:29 PM
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 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
People take relationships seriously nowadays...
GO OUT WITH BOB! It will be pointless to go out with someone who you don't like and i thought it was wrong of you to use Bob to make you "not lonely" |
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