What have you learned..., from your past relationships? Options

[captured_serenit...]

I just wanted to know what has everyone learned from your past relationships with boyfriends, and girlfriends. Engagement, Marriage, Couples...
What have you really learned in life from the past relationships?

I've learned, from my past relationships about Trust, Caring for one another, love, and life.

I'm writing a paper on this...please help me out. =)

[*stephinika*]

not to get too serious too fast
not to throw around 'i love you' meaninglessly
its good to be open but you needn't share EVERYTHING
don't talk about the future too specifically too quickly
um.
yeah.

[SimplicityGirl]

Don't be clingy. This applies to both girls and guys. It doesn't matter how much you like them, you do NOT need to be with them 24 hours of the day.

Don't say "I love you" if you don't truly, honestly, from the bottom of your heart mean it.

If you want to break up with them, do it as soon as you realize it. Don't lead anybody on. That's just mean.

Don't get into the commitment issue too quickly.

Don't make any accusation of them liking other people than you, and don't question why they like you. Just live with the fact that they like you out of everybody else. If you really are curious, ask once, but never again.

Don't put on an insecure show in front of them. That's just plain annoying.

There's no need to make every month's anniversary special or important.

If you don't like them, say so. Don't lead them on and go out with them.

Don't blame the other person if they chose to break up with you, and don't blame yourself.

Don't try to be friends with them immediately after you guys broke up. Wait for some time to pass before you do that.

...and last of all, don't be afraid to love again if your heart's been broken.

[yummy_delight]

I've learned:

+ High school romances are not as serious as most of us hype them up to be.

+ People change. So do feelings.

+ Trust is essential.

+ Long distance is almost never a good idea.

+ Actions speak much MUCH louder than words.

[Nicolatofu]

There's no such thing as 'in the moment'
The firts falling-in-love feeling doesn't really last.
Don't say anything to your significant other that you will regret saying tomorrow.
When making a big decision that could change the relationsip, really think it through. really.

[FREEcandies]

Wow...that is such an open question. Where does one even begin?

[silver-rain]

- Communication is definitely important.
- Learn to open up about yourself and be more comfortable (either with yourself and/or each other)
- Stop wondering "why is he with me" and just be happy that he wanted to be with you
- Be more caring, compassionate, etc.
- Don't plan too far into the future, just focus on the here and now.

[brandon32490]

(1)Personality matters more importantly then looks.

(2)High school relationships aren't as serious as people say they are.

(3)If you aren't satisfied with your relationship, don't wait till something bad happens to dump them.

(4)Online relationships are NOT worth it.

(5)If a male wants your body, do not go out.

(6)If a female wants your body, do not go out.

(7)Always be 100% satisfied when you are with your partner, otherwise your partner will become uncomfortable and will start thinking you want to break up with him or her.

(8)Never rush things. Personally, its a stupid thing to do.

(9)Never fight for a man or woman, in the end it isn't always worth it.

(10) DO NOT FALL FOR SOMEONE THAT YOU KNOW YOU DON'T HAVE A CHANCE WITH.

(11)Do not worry about what happens between you and your boyfriend/girlfriend. I've learned that worryness always leads to uncomfortable relationships which lead to break-ups in a short amount of time.

(12)Never ask to many questions to the point that your partner will think your over-protective. Give them some space.

(13)Men should always pay for the dinner, even if the female is rich.

(14)Do not go out with a male or female just because your friends said you wouldn't do it.

(15)Never get obsessed with someone.

(16)Never make your partner feel embarrased, unless he or she is willing to be embarrasing with you.

(17)Never call them all the time, never send them notes during class.

(18)Never be to sweet, never let your partner have full control over you because then it would become boring which will lead to break-up.

(19)Even though you may want to talk about your personal life with your loved one, never talk about depressing stuff unless he or she wants you to. Depressed conversations are intense.

(20)Never say you cut yourself. Cutting yourself is a dumb thing to do, but your loved one doesn't want to know about that. Also, never tell them that you've commited suicide before. At least..not until the relationship gets comfortable enough to express those kinds of memories.

(21)Offer to go somewhere. You never know what you have until you loose it.

If I know anymore, I will edit this.

[lexaa621]

don't kiss up
don't be clingy
try not to get jealous or obsessive
if your partner doesn't seem to like you s/he probably doesnt
don't date fickle people

yeah...

/edit/

oh yeah. long distance relationships = quite painful. i learned my lesson.

[angelrevelation]

it's hard to explain... but i've learned to not be so afraid... *sigh*

[sadolakced acid]

relationships suck.

[KissMe2408]

oh gosh, i've learned alot....

(1)Be sure that the person respects you. IMPORTANT!
(2)Do not settle for anything less then what you are looking for
(3)It's not good to be possesive of the other person
(4)Getting too physical in the relationship is a no-no. It usually ends bad. It changes the relationship
(5)Be open about things, talk things over. Don't leave things unsaid
(6)Learn to Laugh, it doesn't have to be drama-drama. You should laugh too!
(7)Really get to know the person before you even start to date them. Be friends first.
(8)It's good to have things in common with the person
(9)Trust, Being Honest and Open...are some key things.
(10) Don't throw the word "love" around...just don't
(11)No need to rush
(12)If you are crying more then you are smiling there is something wrong.
(13)Make sure you love their personality AND are attracted to them. not one or the other. Be sure you have both.
(14) IMPORTANT! the man should be a GENTLEMEN....very important.
(15)Key word : MAN. not boy.
(16)Let them have their space, but remain close.
(17)Don't let the person control you.
(18)Long distance relationships are hard, i wouldn't recommend it, it hurts.
(19)When you care about the person, you are blind. So be careful, guard your heart
(20)it is the small things that matter...it really is. you can tell alot by those
(21)Only date when you are ready, when you truly care about the person, they meet all you requirements( for example for me: Christian, strong, good personality, handsome, etc...), and when you feel secure and comfortable. Be careful nonetheless.
(22)Your first love will always stay with you, your first dance with him, first walk in the park with him, and your first kiss. No matter how hard you try, you'll never forget those simple things, and it will come back to you when you least expect it.
(23) I really could go on and on, i have like a billion of them...but i will stop for your sake :)

[redpeony]

There must be more than the initial physical attraction for the relationship to last... and that substance has to be built up before the that initial attraction fades away

Be straightforward, open and honest with each other

Don't be afraid to fall when it feels right

A good relationship is one in which the two people work together to solve their problems, not against each other. (Seems obvious enough)

Trust... but it has to be earned.

Maturity makes a crapload of difference.

[cfaye3char]

trust is a big thing for me. how to trust people and get them to trust you and respect you. caring is also big for me knowing when someone cares truely about you, and that I care for them. Don't let people use you for anything. Like take you for granted by not caring. Plus try and not let anybody break your heart, that is a tuff one, you have to be strong. This is a hard question for me because my life has been kind of ruff as far as emotions go...yeah tuff

[captured_serenit...]

Thank you everyone for your honest opinions! =) That helps a lot.

I practically agree with everyone who posted, because I really feel that all of these can be learned not only by relationships but some can be learned from Family and Friends too!

Thank you everyone who posted! =)

[mouse_3k]

-Never become to attached
-What doesnt kill you makes you stronger
-Do NOT go for anything because you think hes just hot....he might be an @sshole
-Revenge is sweet

[hammers and hear...]

ive learned that long distance relationships wont work unless your love for that person is really strong

and say "i love you" only when its truly meant

[OhXiet_ItzDonnA]

What I learn was to listen to my friends next time...make sure I go out with the right person...and....that's it I think.

[EmmalieV]

dont fall to fast
take it easy
get to know them for more than 2 weeks before making it official
if he asks something inappropiate in the beginning he probaly wont be good
love slowly

[_sarcastic_]

if you're going to move away, don't turn your relationship into a long distance one, it'll just make things worst

if you're not very interested with your partner break up with him straight away.

don't take things TOO slowly, it kills the relationship sometimes

[eunie03]

Honesty is a road less traveled.

[*mzkandi*]

Trust my female intuition.

[Chii]

¤ at the first sign or at most second sign of abuse, RUN. don't sit around and listen to bullsh*t again and again

¤ choose your battles wisely...don't fight over something stupid like being 20 mintues late

¤ if stupid fights happen again and again even after you talk about things...it's can't work out

¤ let your true feelings out, don't bottle things up inside

¤ don't drag things on to prevent the other from getting hurt, that person will get hurt either way

¤ be who you really are, don't fit yourself into a mold for him/her

[technicolour]

relationships suck.

Amen to that.

And that...high school is just a stupid time to have any relationship..for me at least.

[Mulder]

sigh..ive had one boyfriend. 5 years ago...when i was 12.

um..dont be clingy.
dont talk about serious topics like religion.
be open with them, trust them.