should i let my daughter go out ? Options

[AngryBaby]

maybe! maybe! she is the mother! and, and she purposely typed like a 8 yr old so we wouldnt believe she was a mom only to get the most honest answers from us so she can really know! so she can get answers like robb0 gave her!...yeah, you see how im thinkin? ehh? ehhhh!? i bet that just blew your mind!

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

You should let her.
Trust her a little, she'll appreciate it a lot even if she acts like she doesnt. Believe me, she does.

[sprezzatura]

Seriously, I am almost sure that you are lying. Unless you gave birth to a girl when you are 15. ADULTS DO NOT "TYPE LYK DIS"

[Aoiro]

Well, talk to her.
Even if she thinks it's going to be annoying to hear you say this long lecture, it;s better than nothing.
3 years is in a way a big difference, but just give them one date.
See how everything goes, and even after the date she likes him even more, don't let them date again.
Not any time soon.
Talk to him again.

[kpgrl4eva]

...yea, sure, let "her" go out.

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I wonder what your daughter will say when she sees this.

[mouse_3k]

wow ok everyone chill. It dont matter how she types, she needs advice. instead of wasting all your time on complaining and b!tching on how she types, why dont you actually help her damn.

my dad types like that and I dont care. as long as hes happy and feels young again he can do it. So yall get ova it, its only a style of writing. This isnt English class.

ANYWAYS, I think you SHOULDNT let them go out. I mean it can escalate into a bigger thing. He is 18..she is what? 15? shes to young to be going out with him. shes a minor, hes a adult. if he was lookin for the perfect girl, he would be goin with a girl just as or older then him. Hes probably just lookin for younger girls for easy ass. My sister and her boyfriend, who is soon to be 18, ugh..he is stupid and talks about his conquests in his former girls pants to the football team, he talks alot of stuff, but oh well.

dont let them go out. I promise you, she will start dressing like a slut, acting like one, having a attitude, thinkin shes the sh!t, stuck up, and then get pregnant and he will leave. trust me, my sister is goin through that cycle but shes at the Stuck Up stage. NE who, dont let them go out

[crazi_in_love_08]

ok. I will type right ... just for you guys who don't like the other way.

1. i dont like to be perfect and make sure everything i type is correct. Thats not who i am
2. Im sorry i am a young mother. i got mixed up with the wrong kids at school and i ended up pregnant by someone who was older. this is why i am asking for your advice.
3. i am a little scared to let her go out with older guys because i do not want her to be like me
i want her to grow up. get married have a family n house of her own.

[aznxdreamer]

hey people, shush with thte grammar and typing and just answer the question cuz im sure she didnt come on here to have an english lecture. JEEZ. cb people...

[megan_x3]

As all the other people have said ; you don't type like a 30 yearold Mom. And of course why don't you let your 15 year old daughter go out? Are you afraid that she will make the same mistakes as you ? If you are uncomfortable letting her go, then don't let her. If you've seen that guy and think that he's safe enough to be around with, then let her go.

[AngryBaby]

So.. um...i may be completely slow, but what would the "mother" get from my *ahem* polite response?

honesty, haha

like when you said,

"if you like him, go out with him.
if you trust him enough, go out with him.
if you're certain you won't get raped, go out with him.
if you know that you'll scream for help or fight back if he does try anything, go out with him.
if your mom doesn't let you, tough shit. "

she might know how we really feel now, instead of us going "mam, i think with all do respect, you should let your dearest daughter go" haha i dunno maybe im just over analyzing but you never knoooooowww!

[CrazayChristian]

Bull shit you're 30, no 30 year old types like that.

[Azn Kid from NY]

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in the year 2000 she was only 25 years old....and believe it or not, the internet did exist back then, and 25 year olds did type like that....so why is it so amazing that she might type like that now?

[steezahh]

Why do I get the impression that this is a "hypothetical" situation that you're writing about yourself?

Honestly, if you want to pose as a parent, a) learn to spell, b) take the 08 out of your username, as that typically indicates graduation year, c) use proper grammar (most adults don't type like illiterate teens), and d) don't type like your "15 year old daughter"

i agree i read your profile and your around the age of 15! stop posin` its not gonna get you no-where

[*mzkandi*]

Before I start verbal warning people, let me repeat myself.

Ok, if you dont believe its her then dont post in here and you do give her some advice. Simple? I thought so.

[technicolour]

i agree i read your profile and your around the age of 15! stop posin` its not gonna get you no-where

She said that she was on her "daughters" screenname.

But seriously. People who are 30 don't typ lyk dis fo' sho'.

[PinkTrash]

Why does it matter if she's lieing about her age or not anyway? It wouldn't matter in anyway.. she's not gaining anything. Atleast in my point of view she isn't..
Also, you can't say she finished high school. Afterall you guys 'theorized' that she had her daughter at 15, and maybe she dropped out. Stop assuming..

And no. If I were you, I wouldnt let my daughter date the guy. Since you did have your daughter at 15[?] and made the same mistake as her[?] just tell her about your experience. Or if thats not true.. then just make up a story =) but get it through thats it not good for her to date an 18 year old. Sure, a friendly hang outs here and there but make sure nothing serious happends.

[anniepiee]

Ok, if you dont believe its her then dont post in here and you do give her some advice. Simple? I thought so.

why dont people understand..

aznxdreamer Posted Sep 29 2005, 1:55 PM
  hey people, shush with thte grammar and typing and just answer the question cuz im sure she didnt come on here to have an english lecture. JEEZ. cb people...

i second that.


replying to the topic. if you've met the guy and he seems nice.. give him a chance.. let her go out with him once or twice.. maybe get to know about the details from your daughter?
but guys can be good at seducing.

[Spirited Away]

wow ok everyone chill. It dont matter how she types, she needs advice. instead of wasting all your time on complaining and b!tching on how she types, why dont you actually help her damn.

my dad types like that and I dont care. as long as hes happy and feels young again he can do it. So  yall get ova it, its only a style of writing. This isnt English class.

why dont people understand..

Why does it matter if she's lieing about her age or not anyway? It wouldn't matter in anyway.. she's not gaining anything. Atleast in my point of view she isn't..
Also, you can't say she finished high school. Afterall you guys 'theorized' that she had her daughter at 15, and maybe she dropped out. Stop assuming.

Stop assuming? Aren't you assuming that she's telling the truth? As far as I'm concern, we're all assuming and a lot of assumptions have to be made since the topic starter haven't told us much about the situation. I can agree that it [grammar problem] doesn't really matter, but many of us are just uncomfortable with a 30 year-old writing like that, and members have a right to "speak" their minds so long as it doesn't involve bashing and/or breaking the rules. Nothing more, nothing less.

A lot of times, criticism comes along with advice and the advice seeker has to deal with that. In this situation, I feel that if she is to tell her daugher who she can and cannot date the mother has to be mature and serious manner. That's why I said I was uncomfortable about this whole thing. If the daughter is willful enough, she will do as she likes even if the mother protests against it. I can't just imagine the daughter saying "I'm different from you and I won't make the same mistake". Why would she be different? Because the child may think she's more mature than her mother. Psychologically, it happens. We always hear kids say "I'm NOT LIKE YOU" when they get into arguments with their parents.

Yes, in my opinion, how a person type/write—for the most part, reflect a sense of maturity, respect for others and responsibily. If you don't agree, that's fine, but don't tell me what I can and cannot say to the topic starter because I'm not breaking any rules.

I don't feel like I'm wasting my time posting this either. If I had felt that, I wouldn't be posting.

To the topic starter, I apologize for offending you. I know you're in a tough situation with figuring out what's right for your daughter, but I wanted to voice that you must keep in perspective who you're asking for advice from. If you want to be "kewl" and type like a kid, go for it, but I fear the responses you get will be from kids who will most likely give a biased advice and defend your daughter. In any case, good luck with her.

[EddieV]

I just checked her profile, she's only 15...

[Spirited Away]

because she's using her daughter's account she said. silly eddie.

where's my tanto you?

[topsyturvy]

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[nsmx1korean]

i hate parents that tell there kids that they cant do anything, gosh my parents used to be like that then i gave them the cold sholder and they started to give me everything i want hahahah

[kodomo_ja_nai]

give your daughter advice about dating so that she can make an informed decision about who she goes out with. i mean, a three-year difference isn't that big at all. you're probably worried because your daughter just entered high school ... and also the fact that most people who get raped never report it to the authorities.
just don't make it seem like your choking her with what you have to say. don't make it come out like, "i don't want you to hang out with this person. you always have to go through me before you make friends." cuz she'll hate you for life if you do that. i know i hate my mother for that...

[Spirited Away]

^ my parents told me those things and did some crazy things to make sure I obey house rules, and for a while, I felt suffocated. Nowdays, I appreciate them for being so keen on keeping a tight leash on me.

I agree that giving the daughter some advice would be helpful, however, even with information, people still do whatever it is they feel like doing. After all, there are warnings on every cigarette carton about cancer, whatnot, but people still smoke. Smoking is an addiction, and rebelling in the case of dating can be, too, driven by a need to conform to other dating peers and/or freedom from a nagging parent. Every child is different and recognizing the child's unique attitudes and thought process, in my opinion, can at least have an idea of how the situation may be treated. This may be achieved by attentive parents, I think.