hi, i'm an ugly 15 year old girl, =) Options

[LittleLulu]

ok lets make this short

1-ur lucky ur not super pretty cuz then guys just see them as a piece of @ss

2-having a bf isn't all its worked up to be, sure its great in the beggining but when things change theres so much to deal with. trust me

3-its better to wait for the one you love, than to go out with the first guy that likes you in highschool..trust me. i've been there

4-you can make the move on the guy. no need to wait..i did it and im with that guy for over 6 months now

5-im not exactly good looking either, but i still have a bf....hes not that good looking, but i dont care =)..so even if other people are shallow..dont u be.

[ClaudelGFX]

Heh, not so nice to see a girl thinking like that, since she is a woman she actually can have any men's they want, but doesnt mean you have to accept all offerts or to show yourself interested any oportunities, you only need some selfcontrol and to think/reflect more about yourself since your age is not saying too much, you just have to be normal/usual and to think more when you wanna accept someone in your life, not knowing too much of or about person, because as we all may know there are 2394932 pervs on this world who are willing to do anything to have that "friendship" with you, and yes from this age or even lower the "boyfriends" will come like the flying dots of the rain, 1 by 1 and not even knowing you will endup with one beside you, but that's no good everytime, you only have to think more about yourself 1st, beeing a girl and then to think about the person beside you, dont let yourself foolded/used like a toy, just to keep that boy beside you or even his attention. Because not all men's even deserve you. Make yourself a type of men/boy you really want to have beside you, put some limits, because yes not all of them deserves even the waste of time, but for sure you can't findout all those before all of them will happen.
Time will teach you and all your relationships will be very different and you have to learn more and more about them... while time goes by and your boyfriends too... bad or good things that will or come/happen will give you other ways to learn about this, because all of them will remain printed in your memory... and you will always remember them...

[_sarcastic_]

well if you keep putting yourself down like that, no guy is gonna wanna be your friend, you have to look approachable. those guys that doesn't like you are shallow, and they're not even worth being friends with to begin with. so why bother.
soon enough there'll be someone that look past what's outside and look at your personality. you should start going to the school dances, that's one way to meet guys and find more friends

[iheartjohn]

Psh. What is ugly, anyway?

[Archana]

Same here. I dont need a guy though ;P I fly solo.
But hey, I'm not attractive & I really dont care.

I have a lot of close-guy friends, but not like that.
Have self-confidence.

[megan_x3]

If you don't respect yourself for who you are; and your trying to go for someone that your not, then I doubt later on when you really do get a boyfriend; that they'll stay with you. If they like you for who you are trying not to be; when they find out the real you, do you think they will have the same thoughts ?

[ichiban]

wow, so you say you're ugly and guys don't like you. so when you do find your guy, it'll just be all the more special. that guy would have looked past everything and saw the beauty inside. it'll be worth the wait. and have some self confidence.

[mouse_3k]

Learn how to read. I am simply asking for tips on how to cope, and I'm not crying/sad/whatever because I don't have a boyfriend, mkay? maybe if YOU were more helpful, i wouldn't be writing this post.

& it's satisfaction, dear.

ok youngN then this is how you cope. u live life without a boyfriend at the moment. its not a big deal that u dont have a boyfriend. get ova it

[*tweeak*]

ok youngN then this is how you cope. u live life without a boyfriend at the moment. its not a big deal that u dont have a boyfriend. get ova it

You're unpleasant, please shut up.

[ghjgfkgfk]

confidence is sexy.
this a lame topic.
or maybe your density is to a spokesperson for americansingles.com

[_sarcastic_]

You're unpleasant, please shut up.

that wasn't very nice.
well it is kinda true, you're only fifteen, you still have alot of time ahead of you. rather get a bf that might be THE ONE other then one that is a complete jerk right?

[Julie Ann]

That sucks for you! I have never been kissed or asked out or anything and I'm 14!!!

[mouse_3k]

You're unpleasant, please shut up.

it is unpleasent but its true. shes mad she doesnt have a bf and shes 15. its not even that big of a deal.

u should rather wait till someone comes to you that actually likes you, or you can be the type that just wants a boyfriend, be used, and called easy the rest of your highschool career. your choice.

[*mipadi*]

it is unpleasent but its true. shes mad she doesnt have a bf and shes 15. its not even that big of a deal.

On the surface, that seems to be the issue, but dig a bit deeper, and I think you'll see that not having a boyfriend is not in and of itself her true reason for concern.

Think back to a time when maybe you weren't so lucky in love, yet everyone else around you was happily coupled up with someone. The issue wasn't so much about not having someone to cuddle with, but rather, the nagging question of "Why is no one attracted to me? Why am I not loveable?" I think that's the original poster's real concern at this point, and it's a concern that many adolescents grapple with. From that point of view, telling her to "suck it up and deal with it" isn't that helpful, because her concerns are more of a self-esteem issue than simply being single.

In that light, I think the best advice is what's already been giving: just figure out who you are, and how you define yourself, and become comfortable with that; make changes were you feel changes need to be made, but be happy and content and confident with the things you like about yourself. Once you're confident and happy with yourself, you'll be much more attractive to other people, especially guys.

I myself have grappled with this issue. Who am I? What do I want out of life, or out of relationships and friendships? What are my values? As cheesy as it sounds, what I did was wrote everything down, several long pages, detailing my thoughts on certain subjects, my values, the kind of person I'd like to be, my goals, what I wanted out of life, and so forth. And it really worked, because through writing, I was forced to really delve into my mind and explore who I was. And in the end I was much more confident in myself because I knew who I was and what I wanted. Maybe you should give that shot, it might really help a lot.

[*tweeak*]

it is unpleasent but its true. shes mad she doesnt have a bf and shes 15. its not even that big of a deal.

u should rather wait till someone comes to you that actually likes you, or you can be the type that just wants a boyfriend, be used, and called easy the rest of your highschool career. your choice.

Michael is right; it's a lot more than that. I think I relate to this girl quite well. I'm 16 and have never come near having a boyfriend, and while I'm not about to go around whining about it, I do have my moments when I have to stop and ponder who I am, what is wrong with me, etc. God, Michael, you're amazing.

[Shahin]

oh boowhoo i dont have a boyfriend, waaah

get ova it. you rant ova stupid stuff, maybe if you were a mature 15 year old, you might have a chance on a boy.

well unless u wanna be used as booty, thats fine if it fills your satisication(sp?)

You have the nerve to talk about maturity?

[mouse_3k]

^ lol yes I do thank you.

in MY opinion, it think having a bf isnt really big. I see people who cares more for school work, work in general, family, etc etc etc.

Having a boyfriend shouldnt be the #1 thing in life unless your getting a boyfriend, escalating into marriage, having kids and populating the earth with a family of your own, and live to see their children.

Thats MY opinion...now I see alot of people arguing to me cause of my opinion. oh well.

[*mipadi*]

Thats MY opinion...now I see alot of people arguing to me cause of my opinion. oh well.

I don't think people think you are necessarily wrong--they're argument seems to be that you're not really getting to the heart of the original poster's issue, however.

There's also the point that the people who always seem to say that having a boyfriend or a girlfriend is not important are the ones who have a boyfriend or girlfriend, but that's a different issue.

[x_shattered]

mipadi and tweeak
You guys have it right, unlike many others including mouse_3k.
The main reason why i wrote this topic was NOT because I don't have a boyfriend, it is more because i'm insecure with low self-esteem. I guess I should've mentioned this but I was pretty confused when i was first writing this topic.

Mouse_3k, you don't see me whining for a boyfriend, do you? In fact, school work is one of my top priorities, and having a boyfriend is at the bottom of the list. It's on the list, which is why i posted this topic, but nonetheless it's on the bottom.

[*tweeak*]

You're welcome. We seem to have a lot in common.

[rinchan089]

I KNOW YOU"VE COME TO TERMS WITH THIS YOURSELF, BUT I"M SURE MANY GIRLS OUT THERE THINK EXACTLY THE SAME WAY YOU DO. THIS IS FOR THEM:

I think you're being WAY too self-centered. Of course, guys don't think you're attractive... People see you as you see yourself!

If you BELIEVE you're really popular, well, so will everyone else. If you BELIEVE your goregeous, then so will everyone else.

And, just to let you know, I took a poll on my guys friends for you; none of them care about appearances.

It's all about the personality.

However, if you don't believe your good enough, or smart enough, or pretty enough, everyone will think of you that way.

Here's a heads up: Guys like girls who are confident, secure, and independent. If you believe you are those three things, then let that shine!

Don't think I don't know what I'm talking about, because I do. All through middle school I was hideous and I became really self-conscious. In high school, my friends showed me that all that matters is what was inside of me all along; ME.

I've only gone out with one guy and it was in 7th grade for 7 months. It was a horrible break-up. I moved on and, after a few more heartbreaks (I didn't go out with anyone else, though), I realized that I didn't need someone else to be who I am.

In highschool, boyfriends are unnecessary. They might be nice to have, sure, but the chances you'll spend the rest of your life with this person are slim to none anyway, right?

Don't ask me to feel sorry for you and your horrible predicament. Your life is, ultimately, your own responsibility. In the end, the only person you can truly depend on is yourself; pity doesn't get you anywhere.

All you have to do is help yourself.

Rin-chan

[Anonymous82]

awww I know how u feel!! If u want we can be friends and stuff and u never know, I might think you're the best person ever in the end! =]

I'm 19 and I've never had a girlfriend before... girls have liked me before but it just didn't happen... I get SO depressed whenever I think about this and see all those couples out there. I feel the same way you do!!

[malimars]

WOW BE HAPPY BOUT IT GUYS R HEADACHES AND U WILL FIND A GUY THERES SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR EVERYONE REMEMBER THAT

[ClaudelGFX]

Anyway i have a girl friend, who is 32 years old now, but she had her FRIST kiss/boyfriend/men in her life at the age of 28 years old, so i guess its nothing wrong with you, its just not all are so lucky to have one, or even they have, one of them its just playing around, and anyway i dont think at your age you can realise what are your true feelings or if they are real feelings or you are just curious since you never had one before. just saying ...

[SSJ Kenshin]

so, you admit that you're ugly, you don't want to go to any high school dances, and you blame other people for your problems.

fantastic, i mean after all it's their fault for not loving your personality that you love so much. all guys must be shallow.

WOW!! Go straight for the jugular, huh? I do agree, but ouch.