accidental crush, is it just me? Options

[x shootingstar x]

Just to let yall know, this doesn't apply to me. I'm just wondering.

Okay, let's say you have a boyfriend/girlfriend. And during the relationship, you develop a crush on someone else. Is this normal?

If this has happened to you, were there any particular reasons?

Like for example, your partner doesn't give you enough attention, so you turn to someone else and talk or whatever. Then you develop a crush for them.

Could this be a sign that you should break up?

Feel free to talk openly about this topic. Just stick to the idea.

Please do not reply if you are just going to say, "I don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend," "I'm not sure," or any other unneccessary answers. First, it wastes time. Second, it is totally irrelevant. =)

EDIT
do you guys tell your gf/bf about them?

[Winter]

I think having crushes on other people is normal. Not those major crushes though, just those "Dude that guy is hot" crushes.

I tell my boyfriend about my crushes. He doesn't mind coz he knows I'm not serious about them. They just fade away.

I don't think when you have a crush on someone else, it means that your relationship is rocky. I just notice attractive people. ~_-

[xxplicit]

I had an accidental crush. I told my boyfriend. A whole lot of drama happened there after. In the end, I'm with that accidental crush and he means the world to me. :]

[sheepy]

well i guess my ex's relationship wasnt working out...so he did like someone else. but he never told me, so i didnt find out until later.. ehh not pretty.

[whywasisostupid]

i had an accidental crush. my boyfriend and i were having problems and this guy came into my life. he was the greatest. he treated me right and he awsnt as stuck up as my boyfriend. everyone told me we were made for each other.

he came over one day while my boyfriend was on vacation. he just stopped by to see waht i was dong and when i answered the door and let him in. we hung out in my room while my parents were away. i lied down and he kissed me on the lips. just a little kiss.

i broke up with my boyfriend shortly afterwards and im still with the guy now.

[teeners4]

so yea right now i'm dating this guy, almost two months ^^ well yea i like him a lot, we go to different schools, so i don't get to see him as much as i want to. so yea...well there's this guy that i used to look before i started dating my bf. i don't have feelings for him i think. but sometimes i look at him, kind of like a mini-crush. of course i can't imagining anything happening, i just sometimes give him a 2nd glance. but im pretty good friend with him too ^^

and im not thinking of breaking up with my bf to go for this guy. i'm just wondering if other ppl go through this too.

[jsmooth4ever]

Yes alot of people go through the I have a mate and they see someone that they use to like and think about the "what ifs" but its called infatuation someone you like but have no feelings for but wished u did sure nothing will happen if you don't let it happen but yeah we all go through this at one point in our life...

[*anubis*]

it's natural in any relationship for people to just subtly look around--whether you're taken or not. it's part of human nature. we're always going to have attractions irregardless of the situation.

but most of the time you shouldn't worry too much about it. especially if it's not too serious. that's just how things are.

just because you have a car doesn't mean you can't look at other cars.

or uh... in a girl's case. just because you have a million dresses, doesn't mean you can't check out that new hot dress at the store.

what i'm trying to say is, we all go through those kind of phases in a relationship. like, when i was in a past relationship, i would still look at other girls. just because. but, even so, never did i even once think about leaving her for someone else. because i felt like i was deep enough in relationship to be comfortable and loyal enough to my girlfriend not to ever have the intention or motivation to mess around.

of course, some people are gonna go to extremes and cheat on each other, etc etc, but that's them. i mean--just because you have a boyfriend, doesn't make it wrong for you to look at other guys. unless you're amish or something.

in some cases, i think of it as a good thing. it's healthy in some ways. you might be thinking "hmm... he's kinda hot" but then you might think about your boyfriend on the other hand, and realize how lucky you are to be in a relationship and then, you might just appreciate it a little more each and every time.

you might be thinking "i want that guy" but, somewhere in your mind, you think of your boyfriend and realize "wow. i already have the perfect one."

thus, instead of shifting away from it, it could make that relationship deeper and even more meaningful.

[silver-rain]

Yeah, it's normal. I do it a lot too, whenever I see a good looking guy, or my ex, I would usually look at them. But it really doesn't mean anything. As long as you know that nothing is going to happen, there's no harm in looking.

[*stephinika*]

http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=76125

similar topic, so i'll merge this. but don't worry, its totally normal. i know what you mean.

merged

[jsmooth4ever]

I have been in this situation I think it is lack of attention more like neglect not in all my cases but it happens out of infatuation and flirting and when that happens sometimes fantasy turns into reality a time where you have to choose sometimes you can just blow it off and be like ok if this is gonna hurt my relationship I need to stop this thing or my relationship isn't doing so good.

Even with that in mind I advise you talk about it with someone other than your mate unless you are sure you are going to make a decision what ever that may be it may either break or make the relationship stronger trial by temptation I call it.