unattractive, um?? Options

[luvnhate]

[COLOR=purple]well the thing is that..i've never really thought about going out but as i see more and more couples and things...i feel weird becuz the truth is that i dont get asked out very often..and its starting to make me feel unattractivE? yea i probably sound like a baby..but i do't know..have u guys ever felt this way and if u did what did u do about it???

[Ington]

How old are you and how many times have you been asked out?

We need to know that first.

You better not be another preteen.

[MischievousLove]

hm i never really thought about going out that much with either & all of my friends had boyfriends & were always hanging out with them. i didnt really get asked out much cuz i didnt kno too many guys but i didnt think it was cuz i was unattractive (im def. not). well i became good friends with all of my friends boyfriends & then they introduced me to their friends & i got to kno them. after a bit i started getting asked out a lot. so really, all u have to do is just get to kno a lot of ppl (especially guys) & sooner or later u'll start getting asked out.

[Cwlplover]

It makes me feel unattractive too...I've actually asked two guys out and been turned down. It really sucks, because people tell me I'm pretty and beautiful, but I just can't seem to get a boyfriend...my boyfriend of nearly 2 years dumped me a little over a month ago, and since then, I can't find ANYONE.

[OhXiet_ItzDonnA]

Yeah, I remember last year when my friend was new and alot of boys been askin her for her number. haha And then this year, she goes to a different school and not alot of people ask me for my number or all that cause I dont know..some of my online guy friends wanted my number and they think I'm all cute and stuff but oh well. It's the internet, not reality. haha But there's some clues I've been having from some of the guys at my school. I didnt feel that attractive when I started school but I dealed with it. I've had boyfriends before so I dont think I have anything to worry about.

[Atobe_Keigo]

How old are you and how many times have you been asked out?

We need to know that first.

You better not be another preteen.

Yeah...We have to know first. Goshies...I've never been asked because I'm not allowed to talk to guys.
Mum: "They'll kill you! Then, he'll sell your body parts!"
So yeah. It's okay though! Just get yourself into something else. Sports and other stuff and you should not worry about going out. It doesn't matter anyway.

[FLIPxADDICTION]

I feel the same way! I mean, boys ask me out but I can never say yes cause I feel like a loser. hahaha, i'm pathetic.

[mai_z]

Everyone matures at different rates, and in different aspects. A person could have the most mature body ever, but not be in the same mindset. Likewise, a person could have the maturity of a 20 year old, but still be trapped in a body that looks like a preteen. Age is just a number, and it really has little to do with maturity.

I don't know for sure how old you are, but judging by your situation and profile, it sounds like you're just going through puberty. It could be your mind or your body that hasn't quite reached full maturity yet, or both, or neither. Anyway, puberty is when you start becoming very self concious, and it's normal. Believe me, deep inside, very few people feel truely beautiful. My point is, it's fine to be self concious, it's part of growing up. Don't compare yourself to anyone else, you could be drop dead gorgeous but it's always the sleazy girls who get the most guys.

Bottom line: Feel good about yourself. The confidence will radiate, people will feel it, and you'll have guys groveling to go out with you.

[PrettyBrownEyez3]

Okay, age has nothing to do with this topic, geez...
I know how you feel. All the guys i used to like, liked my best friend. It made me self concious. But after awhile i realized, the best thing to do is just to be yourself, and nothing other. After i did that, i felt better about myself, and things started to change. Don't put yourself down because of that. It'll work out sooner or later

[jennyjenny]

I feel that way. A lot.
I know I'm unattractive but it seems like it's rubbing it in my face when I see my friends and stuff with boyfriends and everyone asking her out and it's sort of jealousy in a way. I know, I'm only 14 and all, but it pisses me off that like 11-year old girls can get guys and I'm already 14. Like, what if I end up alone!

[shortiiex]

sometimes personality leads to unattraction

[Nicolatofu]

Mum: "They'll kill you! Then, he'll sell your body parts!"

hah talk about a cynic!!

I feel that way sometimes too. Like at school I don't talk to many guys.. but outside of school I have more guys that like me and that I'm friends with.

If you're younger in your teen stage then guys usually have crazy hormones and want that perfect attractive girl. Some guys don't want to get to know you right away if you aren't that "pretty". Don't worry, not all guys are like that and it goes both ways.. don't always judge a guy by what he looks like. Get to know him. Heck, you might get to like him!

[Chii]

since you haven't thought of dating until now, you can't be too old. don't worry, young guys are too shy to ask girls out and are scared of rejection. it doesn't mean that you're ugly.

i get hit on more when i'm outside than in school. it's getting creepy because these guys are like 24-25 and i'm only 17...but oh well, it assures me that i'm attractive especially when my boyfriend wants to hunt them down and kick their ass

[yOUCANtSEEmE]

Okay, age has nothing to do with this topic, geez...
I know how you feel. All the guys i used to like, liked my best friend. It made me self concious. But after awhile i realized, the best thing to do is just to be yourself, and nothing other. After i did that, i felt better about myself, and things started to change. Don't put yourself down because of that. It'll work out sooner or later

hey it was like the same way for me
everybody i liked used to like my best friend too
cause shes like gorgeous
so id date her boyfriends best friends who i didnt even like
and i used to think i was unattractive
i now no better
so i dated like a bajillion people
but i only liked half of them
now i date a lot less
and it made me feel unpretty at first
cause im used to having a boyfriend all the time
i guess i realized that im not dating as much
cause im more selective about who i want to be with
not because im not pretty
and now they dont all like my best friend more
i dont think any guy ive liked has liked her more in a long time
i think its just a stage lots of girls go through
all will come out well

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

I know, I'm only 14 and all, but it pisses me off that like 11-year old girls can get guys and I'm already 14. Like, what if I end up alone!

I feel like that too...but I'm young. I have time.
Yeah, over the summer I've started to feel ugly and a little young too. A lot of my friends have done all these...things. And they've changed too. Matured a lot.
So, I sympathize with you, but you can't dwell on it. Getting asked out isn't the equivilant of being pretty. It's what you think of yourself and what you make yourself out to other people. That's attractive.
I hope that helped.

[mouse_3k]

well i dont get asked out that many times and Im not one of those stupid people that say they wanna go out with someone just because...they dont even know the person and they still goin out wit em. its stupid. be patient until the right one comes along.

[ParanoidAndroid]

I've always been unattractive. It seems wearing stockings in my arms, putting on blue and green fake dye on my hair, and black make-up scared the sh** out of boys. Oh well I know how you feel. Don't worry, there are people out there who are attracted to you or will be attracted to you. But you should remember to take this advice, "Don't go out with someone just because you feel lonely. Go out with them because you really like them as they really like you."

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

yes i do feel like that when no one asks me out and everyone around me has a boyfriend.

but theres always one boy out there that finds you really cute/pretty/attractive.

youll get a boyfriend in time, just dont wait for him to come to you. go out there and look for him. good luck ;DD

[ParanoidAndroid]

^I really agree with you up there. So DON'T GIVE UP YET!!!! To some people I am unattractive... to some people you're unattractive... but there is someone that thinks I am the most beautiful person in the world and I'm sure same goes for everyone!

[xSiLLyMex]

Well.. One of my really really attractive friend never gets asked out. It's because she's not that talkative and doesn't talk to guys. So yeaa.. so I think you should start talking to some guys and get to know them. Then maybe you'll get asked out more.