friendships with your exes, how long does it take?... |
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 Aug 31 2005, 09:27 PM
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is it possible to form a good solid friendship with your ex? if so, how long did it take?
i'm still working on it but then again it has been barely two weeks. |
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Aug 31 2005, 09:38 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
we stayed friends ever after we broke up. we're not that close anymore though
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Aug 31 2005, 09:41 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
It depends on if your ex is willing to be friends with you. I think I might've only been friends with one of my exes because the rest didn't want to be friends. If you both agree upon it, then it just depends on how serious the relationship was.. AND the reason for breaking up.
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Aug 31 2005, 09:44 PM
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Tiffany <3 Group: Member Posts: 192 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,685 |
Actually, me and my ex and best friends
It's kinda strange, though We went out 3 times We just started talking and stuff I dunno Weird// Hhhmmm.... |
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Sep 1 2005, 11:21 AM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Yeah, it's possible.
It usually depends upon how the break-up went. If you endured a bitter break-up, then the chances of a good friendship aren't as high. It's very possible, but you have to work hard for it. If you went through a nice and smooth break-up, then you may already be friends again. However, if you're not, you still have to work for it, but not for as long....usually. As for how long it takes.. It varies. I can't really say. Also, one thing I'd like to add: It is a two-way street. You have to try and your ex has to try in order for there to be a successful friendship between you two. You can't expect your ex to do all the work. I'm not saying you are, but I'm just making it clear that it's a two-way street. You both have to put out and try in order for it to work. |
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Sep 1 2005, 11:50 AM
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QUOTE(Despise @ Sep 1 2005, 11:21 AM) Yeah, it's possible. It usually depends upon how the break-up went. If you endured a bitter break-up, then the chances of a good friendship aren't as high. It's very possible, but you have to work hard for it. If you went through a nice and smooth break-up, then you may already be friends again. However, if you're not, you still have to work for it, but not for as long....usually. As for how long it takes.. It varies. I can't really say. Also, one thing I'd like to add: It is a two-way street. You have to try and your ex has to try in order for there to be a successful friendship between you two. You can't expect your ex to do all the work. I'm not saying you are, but I'm just making it clear that it's a two-way street. You both have to put out and try in order for it to work.  exactly what i was going to say. it could take a while. i'm not good friends with any of me ex's but i talk to them once a while. theres no awkwardness or anything because none of us have feelings for each other like that anymore. i think its kind of iffy to be GOOD friends with your ex because you once shared those feelings for him.. yadee yadee. just let time do the work, i think. |
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Sep 1 2005, 12:39 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
It depends on how much your ex wants to be friends. It's been about one and a half years since we broke up, but my ex and I are far from being friends, and I've given up trying...
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| *iNyCxShoRT* |
Sep 1 2005, 12:52 PM
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It can happen. But you guys won't be as close as you used to be.
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Sep 1 2005, 05:05 PM
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 Heh, I'm so cool =] Group: Member Posts: 74 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 221,660 |
It actally all depends on the kind of relationship you had, and why/how it ended. Also, it depends on the feelings that are left with both of y'all. Obviously theres something still in the way that you guys aren't friends yet. Talk to him and try to find out what that is.
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Sep 1 2005, 08:28 PM
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 Unlock the Darkness Group: Member Posts: 305 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,967 |
It took two days for me and my ex-girlfriend. I had to adjust quickly because she lived across the street from me. (She moved last Summer)
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Sep 2 2005, 07:43 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
naa i doubt it [well in my case] .. ive been so close to my ex [right after we broke up] but i also hooked up with another guy... sooooo after that i kinda stopped talking to him b/c of my bf [whole other story.. its a good reason though]
bottom line... me and my ex arent really talking |
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Sep 3 2005, 03:11 AM
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 your sweetest sin. Group: Member Posts: 416 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,960 |
it depends on the personality of your ex and yourself. and the relationship you guys had before you went out. for me, i've always had a good solid friendship before i went out w/ the guy, so my after-relationship friendships pick up pretty fast. but i did have one relationship that didn't turn out so happily-ever-after: the friendship for that one took.. i'd like to say.. 3-5 months? but it was so worth it. :)
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Sep 3 2005, 04:10 AM
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 WarPath Leader. Group: Member Posts: 668 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 216,721 |
friends4life. (if it deserves)
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Sep 3 2005, 04:38 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,343 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,767 |
My last one... took me about a year. Even now, though, there are times when I feel weird around him. But it's starting to be okay and I'm getting more comfortable around him.
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Sep 3 2005, 10:18 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,163 |
it took us(most recent) a good three months. but each situation is diffrent...so it might nvr happen...
hope things work out for you guys! --- |
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Sep 6 2005, 01:27 AM
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 panda babe Group: Member Posts: 44 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,694 |
sigh* i`m not friends with any of my ex`s. i would like to be friends with one of them cause he was a really great guy but we just drifted apart..
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Sep 6 2005, 02:08 PM
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 I love you, I hate you, I can't live without you! Group: Member Posts: 51 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 219,526 |
With my last one, it took us like 3 months and we went out for a year....for me at least it is usually a 1/4 of the time u were together with the person, if you are ever going to be friends again
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Sep 6 2005, 03:47 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 45 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 227,755 |
well my boyfriend now is a bit overprotective over me + doesn't allow me to talk to any of my exes but, if i had the ability to befriend my exes, i wouldn't unless your ex seemed to be more of a friend than an actual boyfriend. i say this because i feel that once you two have been together + then break up, the relationship tension will remain between the two of you. like, you've kissed, held hands, cuddled, took romantic pictures, and spent quality time together. i think it'll hurt if you became friends with an ex cuz in your head, it'll just be like "oh...now we just talk..."
do i make any sense? ionos...i have boy troubles of my own =P hahas |
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Sep 6 2005, 05:36 PM
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Jessica Group: Member Posts: 480 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,118 |
Yep, its possible.
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Sep 6 2005, 06:04 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
..it's possible.
It just depends on how bad the break up went. Like mine, oh my god, it was horrible. He was threatening to kill himself..and I was breaking up with him cause he called me fat..bitch..yadda yadda yadda... ....and i havent talked to him sense. but my friend for example, she and her ex...they're like brother and sister..who are possibly getting back to gether..but they're like as close as siblings.. oh my god. i'm confusing myself. |
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Sep 6 2005, 06:26 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 45 Joined: Sep 2005 Member No: 227,755 |
^you know what's actually funny? me + my man break up every day + get back together everyday that it seems like a daily routine we go through =P
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Sep 6 2005, 06:36 PM
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 Word. Group: Member Posts: 3,004 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,673 |
^^ i see that happen all the time.. i saw that happen and they broke apart for forever...
anyways.. being friends with ur ex's should be good.. i dont talk to my ex tho.. i talk to my ex ex tho. |
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Sep 6 2005, 08:31 PM
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 I love you more than sex appeal. Group: Member Posts: 3,045 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,932 |
I'm not sure how long but probably a couple of days. I just go up to them and ask if we're friends now and then just talk to him and it feels wierd at first but then I got used to it.
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Sep 6 2005, 08:35 PM
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 GANGSTA-FIED Group: Member Posts: 464 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,643 |
Note to those that know they have a lil bit of unfaithful in them. "DON'T BE FRIENDS WITH UR EX"
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Sep 6 2005, 08:48 PM
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 Call me Elsie Mae Group: Member Posts: 936 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 207,655 |
yes you can form a great friendship with ur ex! cuz i have! He broke up with me. but for some reson he had this big grudge against me.. so then a few months l8er we talked it out (i made the first move.. cuz i wanted to settle it!) but it took us a few months.. but hey me and him are still the best of friends!
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